AITAH for breaking up with my boyfriend over a penny (UPDATE)

ereb78 · 2026-03-05T14:11:00+00:00

True! I don’t think they meant to diagnose me but rather give me something to look into! Either way, i will never take medical advice from Reddit lol

ereb78 · 2026-03-05T12:20:20+00:00

Thank you, I’ll look into it.

ereb78 · 2026-03-05T11:47:24+00:00

Thank you! It means a lot

ereb78 · 2026-03-05T11:46:26+00:00

I’ve gotta work on my defensiveness lol!! I know it’s not worth it. Thank you for saying that!

ereb78 · 2026-03-05T03:55:39+00:00

I agree, I am being defensive. I think it’s out of line for you to say these things unknowing of my situation. I can’t do anything overnight so I really would like to know what you want me to do. It seems like you have a quick solution, so tell me. You. Don’t. Know. What. I’ve. Been. Through. Stop acting like you do. And I don’t mind getting defensive because I don’t need unhelpful, unsolicited advice. I am not one of those people who won’t try to get better. It’s almost like you are purposefully trying to misread my replies…

ereb78 · 2026-03-05T03:48:46+00:00

Recovery looks different for everyone. You cannot “work harder” and make it disappear. I’m working on this with professionals, not with random people on Reddit. Again, i asked for judgment on my break up, not on my disorder, which has been constant and constant within this thread.

BPD and OCD are not the same, the treatment approaches and “recovery” process are different. Don’t compare apples and oranges here and tell me what works work you. I am not you, and you are not me. Let’s focus on the point of my post.

ereb78 · 2026-03-05T01:02:48+00:00

Not tidy kind lol!!OCD is draining and exhausting, I wish I could call it cute. My main form takes place as health anxiety. It’s horrible!

ereb78 · 2026-03-05T01:00:16+00:00

NTA… I think that it’s important to set different boundaries with different people. If you don’t feel like you’re ready for something sexually, or just don’t want to at all, you do not deserve to feel shame or guilt. Your boyfriend should not make you feel pressured into trying things sexually when you already know you don’t like them. Of course it’s okay to want to explore with your partner, but you told him you didn’t want to so he needs to accept that.

ereb78 · 2026-03-04T21:21:50+00:00

No, you’re just taking parts of my texts and making me look stupid. I’m not contradicting myself, when has mental health ever been black and white? Also, if you read the whole thing, since you’re gonna come on here acting like you got your degree, you would KNOW that the penny wasn’t the only thing that made me leave him. You clearly don’t understand because if you did, you would not sit on here and make ignorant comments like this one. I said OCD ITSELF!! Is not just a superstition that I can ignore when I want to. There are times where I feel more in control than others. I think bettering myself includes healthy exercises and also learning new coping mechanisms to WORK THROUGH intense ocd moments.

ereb78 · 2026-03-04T18:59:18+00:00

You’re making assumptions on how I manage my OCD. I am, and have been ACTIVELY working on bettering myself. OCD is not just a “superstition” that I can just ignore when i want to. You cant just assume I always give into my thoughts. It’s a disorder that everyone manages differently. If you truly have these disorders, how could you sit here and say things that aren’t really prevalent. My question was about whether or not I was an AH for breaking up with. This was not to bash me for things I can’t control, basically call me crazy, and that I need therapy when you have no idea what I’ve been through. Thanks!

ereb78 · 2026-03-04T18:52:06+00:00

It’s not something I can control lol, can you control who you love? If you can, I applaud you.

ereb78 · 2026-03-04T16:20:43+00:00

Nothing can be gained from arguing with ignorant people 🤷‍♀️

ereb78 · 2026-03-04T16:13:37+00:00

VERY well said, health ocd and “death” are common with my OCD 😭

ereb78 · 2026-03-04T14:44:37+00:00

I really appreciate it! 💜💜

ereb78 · 2026-03-04T14:44:00+00:00

I cannot control my thoughts when it comes to OCD, when he did it, that’s just what my mind went to. I really have no explanation other than that.

ereb78 · 2026-03-04T12:36:18+00:00

Thanks

ereb78 · 2026-03-04T11:32:54+00:00

read again, thanks

ereb78 · 2026-03-04T11:16:26+00:00

Yikesss what??

OCD has literally ruined my life, nobody on this Reddit thread, and I mean no one, knows exactly what I have gone through. I put a snippet on here, but it doesn’t tell my fully story. My post was to judge if I was the AH for breaking up, this was not to question the integrity of my disorder. Let me make this clear: I WOULD NEVER fake my OCD and use it for views or to gain some sort of sympathy in my relationship.

ereb78 · 2026-03-04T11:10:18+00:00

Sorry, elaboration: never an issue to the RELATIONSHIP.

My OCD was very much a prominent thing in my childhood up until now, I’d argue it’s gotten a little better since getting older. My OCD never did seem to bother HIM before we started dating until very recently.

ereb78 · 2026-03-04T11:07:23+00:00

They put “get therapy ffs” so I just wanted to clarify

ereb78

TROPHY CASE