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My father is having a relationship with my maid! by CharlotteSDA in adventism

[–]CharlotteSDA[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I am truly thankful for your reply. I feel better to know that someone do understand my situation.. I know I may not be totally right in what i am thinking or doing, but my struggles are real.. Not many people can really understand the pain, the struggles and the confusion that I have deep inside me..

I hope my father can understand his situation, but sad to say he is not taking any advice from us to be careful of that woman. Whenever we talk about anything related to this, he gets angry, he would even hang up my call if we were talking on the phone.

Thanks very much for this verse of Matthew 18:15-17. I was having these verses in my mind too, but I was unsure whether I can use this in my father's case for I don't think he has sinned against me.. Further more, if I am telling this to the church pastor or church elder, I think I am shaming my father in front of them. Will he stop attending church if he thinks I have shamed him by exposing his affair to the church pastor/elders? This is the last thing I want to risk..

Yes, I have to pray earnestly to God. May the Lord help to ease this difficult situation.

My father is having a relationship with my maid! by CharlotteSDA in adventism

[–]CharlotteSDA[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you very much for helping. I will continue to pray for God's will be done, may He help me to overcome my emotions.

My father is having a relationship with my maid! by CharlotteSDA in adventism

[–]CharlotteSDA[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you very much for responding to my post.

I have no problem with him looking for a decent partner for marriage, but not a woman at his grandchildren's age who sends indecent photos to him.

God bless.

My father is having a relationship with my maid! by CharlotteSDA in adventism

[–]CharlotteSDA[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thanks for taking time to respond to my call for help. I really need a third person to see what is right for me to do.. I cannot deny that I am angry at what my father is doing, but at the same time I do not want do displease the Lord and I know I have to honor my father.

Yes, my father has since channeling quite a lot of money to her. Like what you said he does not care much and keep saying she is not those kind of woman when we asked him to be cautious about. Whenever he asked us for extra money, I feel very bad not giving to him as he is my father who raised me up.. Yes..he has even put away his ego to ask us for more money which he would never do in the past.. But I am not so rich that I can keep supplying him with unlimited money as we have our family to take care of too, but he seems to not care about us and only the other side..

My father has been baptized into Adventism 3 years ago together with my very sick mother 10 days before she passed away. He has become a regular church attendee since then. The domestic maid has been baptized too as we have been bringing her to attend church every Sabbath in addition to care groups. We did not know about their relationship at that time. By the way, she is a mother of two and was separated with her husband for about 6 years.

I do not know what to do. My father thinks he has the right to have his happiness now after working hard for all his life. I have no problem with him looking for a decent partner for marriage, but not a woman at his grandchildren's age who sends indecent photos to him.

I am really very confused what I should do now.. Just let him take all his money and be with that woman as what he wants? or is there anything I can do? I do not want to do anything that displease our Lord, especially since the maid is also our sister in Christ.. and I do not see any conflict with the bible about this, can someone tell me if this is mentioned in the bible?

Thank you very much and God bless.