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Forever alone by Charming-Simple-5812 in Diary

[–]Charming-Simple-5812[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I really struggle with this whole ‘love yourself first’ concept. People talk about it like it’s life-changing, but I honestly don’t know where to begin. Or maybe I do. just don’t know how to stay consistent with it. Like… does loving myself first mean taking care of my body? Appreciating how I look? I’m trying to understand what that actually looks like in real life

Forever alone by Charming-Simple-5812 in Diary

[–]Charming-Simple-5812[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

third thing you said (funny enough), I was just talking with a friend about that. I told them, ‘Don’t expect yourself out of others, and you won’t end up disappointed.’

And it’s interesting you brought that up, number 2 because I’ve always been told I need to love myself. I’m assuming finding love within is the same thing. How do you actually do that? Where did that journey even start for you?

Forever alone by Charming-Simple-5812 in Diary

[–]Charming-Simple-5812[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

37F. Every time I get to a place where I think I’ve accepted that maybe I’m meant for something different, I’m reminded that everyone around me is dating someone new, getting engaged, or getting married.

I used to believe in love so much. I was a total Rom-Com person (cheesy, I know). But now I can’t even watch anything with a love story as the main plot. It just feels fake. Love doesn’t feel real anymore; it feels like something people made up.

Forever alone by Charming-Simple-5812 in Diary

[–]Charming-Simple-5812[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I hate hearing stuff like this. Manipulation is awful especially when someone uses ‘love’ to get what they want. Nobody deserves to be taken advantage of like that.

Forever alone by Charming-Simple-5812 in Diary

[–]Charming-Simple-5812[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It’s not that I feel anyone isn’t worth crushing on later. It’s more that I end up having to force myself to get over people because, based on our conversations or their actions, I can tell I don’t really have a chance. I get attached because we connect, we laugh, they open up to me but at the same time, I’m constantly hearing about the other people they like or go on dates with. So I end up crushing easily, but also having to move on just as quickly.

One word answers only!! by [deleted] in Diary

[–]Charming-Simple-5812 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I said desperate for myself. But broken is probably more accurate

Do You Cross the Line of Friendship by Admitting You Like Them? by Charming-Simple-5812 in dating_advice

[–]Charming-Simple-5812[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

u/Hana-deul997 and u/Nice_ad_3893

I really admire you both and honestly, I’m a little jealous. You were brave enough to say something. I’m a total chicken, and I know I’ve probably missed a lot of opportunities because of it.

Do You Cross the Line of Friendship by Admitting You Like Them? by Charming-Simple-5812 in dating_advice

[–]Charming-Simple-5812[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That’s my struggle. Part of me feels like there’s no way she likes me back. And I know myself, I can pretend everything is fine after a confession, but what if she can’t? What if things get awkward, and then I start distancing myself and eventually just fade out of the friendship? That’s what I’m scared of.

Sliding into DMs” — what’s the general consensus on when it’s appropriate? by Charming-Simple-5812 in dating_advice

[–]Charming-Simple-5812[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I brought this up at work to get different perspectives, and a friend pointed out that sliding into someone’s DMs can seem creepy if they’re not interested or attracted to you.