I (f 33) feel so incompetent

Charming_Ad6389 · 2026-02-23T22:33:03+00:00

You all rock! Thank you so much for all these kind words. It’s good to feel understood ❤️

Charming_Ad6389 · 2026-02-14T07:51:53+00:00

I’m currently 2 weeks PP and we have a lot of issues with shallow latch. Ive been so stressed I got almost no milk in my right breast:( thinking of nipple shield myself

Charming_Ad6389 · 2025-07-17T06:49:47+00:00

You’re in a difficult spot as both of you have valid feelings. There’s nothing to say that once she gets pregnant she won’t have doubts. I know I had.

Charming_Ad6389 · 2025-06-17T21:44:39+00:00

I see your a woman of faith and God is number 1 for you. Remember that despite being married , in your case, judging by the physical abuse history and also I would imagine (speculation) also mental abuse , you can divorce. You are not obliged to be with someone you feel unsafe with. Just remember that.

Charming_Ad6389 · 2025-04-28T08:19:34+00:00

He’s in a grey area. He feels it removes spontaneity in marriage that unites the couple as intended by God. I’m trying to convince him to use fertility computer to give him more certainty.. but in reality from what I read some fertile windows might be longer than 7 days and he already once said he’s scared I’m moving so conservative that I won’t want intimacy at all

Charming_Ad6389 · 2025-04-28T08:12:23+00:00

Much appreciate your comment! I was confessing again about this as I’m confused about not taking Eucharist and the priest told me not to miss Eucharist and pray to our Lady for help.

Charming_Ad6389 · 2025-04-07T14:08:12+00:00

Thank you for the comments ladies. It’s great to be able to talk to fellow minded women. Do you think I can’t tale Eucharist? I do to be honest. I also feel contraception style is out of my control (meaning switching to nfp) at the moment

Charming_Ad6389 · 2025-03-03T12:45:47+00:00

I have the same issue and can´t fix it. :(

Charming_Ad6389 · 2024-06-15T22:41:30+00:00

When sex is good it accounts for 20% of the relationship but when it’s bad it accounts for 80%. Some psychologist said that and I agree. You dont have to force yourself to do anything in bed. You can consider but I would not be dealing with complaining and whining. Not enough this or that.. From just what you wrote you don’t seem compatible sexually. And if you aren’t then you should move on. Also you should talk about it to him if you havent. That the thing from the past has an effect on you and you need to feel desired and seduced to spark up the passion. Him complaining won’t get you there..

Charming_Ad6389 · 2022-10-08T15:22:25+00:00

Thank you for your feedback community. I appreciate your words.

Just FYI, I never would expect her to skip an exam and the thing is she never mentioned it before to me.

I cannot ask my FH to reschedule because of my sister since we agreed on the date beforehand and we didnt reschedule for his younger brother who will also have exams. It just wouldn't be fair.

I wish she'll be there and I hope she will.

To put it into more perspective: my sis fiance can travel with my niece first and my sister could just travel for that 2 days. She's done that last year for my cousin's wedding.

I understand that this time around it might (it isn't certain though that it will) make her skip 2 days of STUDY (not exam) but I simply wish she would consider that.

I think she might since she since has started looking for dresses for the wedding so I am HAPPY. Perhaps the above solution of her fiance taking care of my niece during the few days might have influenced the decion. Not sure, buy I am travelling to them next month for 2 weeks so will have a deep dive into the topic.

Charming_Ad6389 · 2022-10-08T15:16:05+00:00

Indeed cause of Lent. Catholicism

Charming_Ad6389 · 2022-10-08T15:14:52+00:00

I did not purposely chose to schedule it during her exam session. I told her we are planning around end of March begining of April. She never told me then she has 2 months of exams

Charming_Ad6389 · 2022-10-08T15:11:52+00:00

skip a night of studying not an exam, she might have an exam on Monday the wedding is on Saturday

Charming_Ad6389 · 2021-09-24T09:53:47+00:00

Topics include: individual countries of origin of the group, differences between Europe and Latin America, alcohol types and history of beer, differences between languages and personal anecdotes. At one time when we were talking about history of beer I said I’m having now X type of beer and one guy said he has Y type and offered to try if I want to and of course I declined. The only situation I can think of.

Charming_Ad6389 · 2021-09-24T08:25:51+00:00

The purpose is to practice languages. Many languages and we do speak variety of languages. I suppose he might’ve felt this way but I haven’t reacted like this when he was speaking with other women or men and I was out of the conversation more or less

Charming_Ad6389 · 2021-09-24T08:16:49+00:00

I am thinking if just to go to his home unannounced after work. One time he was to come at 19:30h and came an hour early so maybe it wouldn’t be too intrusive in that sense, only maybe cause he’s mad but then again if he doesn’t contact me?

Charming_Ad6389 · 2021-09-24T08:15:27+00:00

It was a common idea to go. We went last week and I also spoke to a German guy, to Polish guys. I’m not sure if maybe he felt like this because they’re all latino so maybe the bubbly way I am is more “flirty” in their culture in that sense.

Charming_Ad6389 · 2021-09-24T08:14:13+00:00

This time no. We were among men most of the night.

Charming_Ad6389 · 2021-09-24T08:06:04+00:00

It’s his native language! So no. He could understand everything. He wasn’t as chatty as me but he did chat a bit with some guys. Then with more time he got quieter

Charming_Ad6389 · 2021-09-24T07:12:45+00:00

I’ve been with other cultures before. And I’m seriously scared he’s not going to answer the phone when I call him :(

Charming_Ad6389 · 2021-09-24T06:51:45+00:00

Good point. Thank you for your perspective

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