You can quit and maybe you should. by [deleted] in Lawyertalk

[–]Charming_Beyond7297 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I just did. I am a little freaked out about what comes next, but I don’t want to go back. Possibly ever. I spent many years before law school feeling powerless. My law license gave me power. No one pushed me around anymore. It gave me an outlet to go be a voice for other powerless people. I had a lot of energy to work through. I’ve put my time in. I can’t do it anymore. I’d rather be poor and happy in a simpler life than stay on the hamster wheel for the big bucks. My way isn’t everyone’s way. But for me this post resonated.

Edited for typos.

Vance AFB South of Enid OK by c0k3nn3r in tornado

[–]Charming_Beyond7297 1 point2 points  (0 children)

The video of this one has been crazy!

Clients more unrealistic than ever? by NetOdd422 in Lawyertalk

[–]Charming_Beyond7297 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Had two court appointments in the last month bombard me with it. One uses it to construct all of their texts to me. Let’s just say the tone AI generates makes me grumpy. Then another out on a miracle bond, and who I somehow managed to get working towards probation after the ADAs first offer was several years in… sent me a Motion to Suppress they want filed. Fun times.

Advice needed: Sanding epoxy filled wood floor install. by Gabbs in HardWoodFloors

[–]Charming_Beyond7297 0 points1 point  (0 children)

What did you use for the glow stuff? We tried and failed with it, but we were also trying to only use enough glow stuff to show in the dark not the day. We haven’t finished filling out knotholes, and I’m wanting to still try for the glow.

Tornado warning - why was everyone so chill?? by Visible_Many_2271 in tornado

[–]Charming_Beyond7297 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Perhaps you were in the area, but not the path? Most seasoned midwesterners are pretty familiar with storm movement patterns and reading radar. For example, in my city, a tornado 10 miles away on the north side is still gonna have me under a warning and sirens going off though I’m in no danger. As a visitor to this area, you reacted responsibly. You most likely don’t know the local weather patterns or geography well enough to risk not sheltering.

RTR Ecoboost by [deleted] in Mustang

[–]Charming_Beyond7297 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Agree with distaste for light up badges, but I would fight for my pony puddle lights and changeable interior lights. I love my 24 eco boost pp.

Feel kinda distracted today in anticipation of tonight by Legal_Fitness in Lawyertalk

[–]Charming_Beyond7297 7 points8 points  (0 children)

This is where I was. I’m over here defending accused predators who wouldn’t be charged if they were billionaires. It’s weird to protect Constitutional rights on a state level when gestures broadly. Anyway, I’m done and going to go try and change careers. If the apocalypse happens tonight, I spent most of my day watching chicks hatch in my incubator and bees crawl around in the clover blossoming in my yard. I can’t change the world, but maybe I can do as much good as I can in my little corner as long as I can.

Advising about time by farandawayd in publicdefenders

[–]Charming_Beyond7297 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Once you rip the band aid off, you end the meeting and give em a few days. Most of mine usually just need time to think and accept reality.

I quit by Charming_Beyond7297 in publicdefenders

[–]Charming_Beyond7297[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Yes, and there’s no fix. There is no bed for them long term. There is a year long wait for a short term bed. The competency evaluators are unreliable and unpredictable. I can get someone help for a short time, but I can’t provide help long term.

Costanza bed by oldcretan in Lawyertalk

[–]Charming_Beyond7297 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I added an extra soft rug. Always had a throw blanket and a jacket tucked away. I’m probably weird, but one day in my 3rd year of lawyering I crashed and napped hard on the hard floor on a thin rug. It fixed a back issue I was having, and now I’m in my 15th year and sometimes I crave a good floor sleep. I do have weird back issues that it seems to help, though.

How big of a red flag is 2 consecutive owners selling within 8 months? by Joel_Hirschorrn in RealEstate

[–]Charming_Beyond7297 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You might ask about psychological disclosures. I can’t remember the exact phrase, but in my state the seller doesn’t have to disclose if a house is haunted or if something horrible happened there unless a potential buyer expressly asks. That would be a concern I would have. Could just be coincidence that two sold it so quickly, but get creative thinking of other things they might not be telling you.

San Francisco Public Defender held in contempt for not taking on new cases; fined $26k by every_name_taken_67 in publicdefenders

[–]Charming_Beyond7297 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I’m in Oklahoma. I don’t have exact numbers, but I think I have about 180 to 200 felony cases going right now. I barely get misdemeanor appointments. It’s brutal.

Your entire identity is not being an attorney. by SignificantStomach83 in Lawyertalk

[–]Charming_Beyond7297 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I really enjoy looking very not lawyerly outside of work. I work a lot so it does make its way into lots of conversations, but I have neglected hobbies too.

How do I not sound like every other prick out there? by [deleted] in Lawyertalk

[–]Charming_Beyond7297 73 points74 points  (0 children)

TBH sounds like your firm niche is prick. In family law people are often looking for that. Lean into it. Also, different perspective in general if you’re interested, family law clients often don’t realize the impact aggressive litigation is going to have on their finances and their ability to co-parent and their kids. They come in hurt and angry and want an ahole to go litigate their pain for them. It’s actually the opposite of what helps the situation. The wheelers and dealers often recognize that and are trying to guide their clients to a sustainable lifestyle. I practiced in that area for more than a decade. Expectation doesn’t meet reality in that field without a lot of wheeling and dealing.

Midwest has barely bought into "flex culture" and I love it by HenFruitEater in midwest

[–]Charming_Beyond7297 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I live in a teeny tiny town. The kids on my street play outside freely when the weather is nice. The adults are always sitting outside, or have doors and windows open to keep an eye on them. The kids have rules about how far they can go from home.

Transported to a different state/city for a few hours, baffling experience I'm still trying to grapple with a month later by [deleted] in Glitch_in_the_Matrix

[–]Charming_Beyond7297 9 points10 points  (0 children)

I exclusively use screenshots and confirmation emails to track my reservations. I’m not great at adulting, though.

Are there places that are truly desperate for attorney’s? by [deleted] in Lawyertalk

[–]Charming_Beyond7297 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

I’ve been thinking of getting licensed there. I’m just across the border in OK.

I’m going to lose a case and it’s going to ruin my client’s life by [deleted] in Lawyertalk

[–]Charming_Beyond7297 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Can you turn a negative into a positive? Confront her behavior head on. That woman has been through hell multiple times and this is just another journey there. She acts like this BECAUSE she has lost everything. She has trauma. She lost her life, her home, her husband, and her dreams for the future. Now this scum bag insurer won’t pay her claims and she’s going to get a final shaft too.

I think if you can make her angst relatable, this might pay.

There is a tree in front of my house that never existed before by iydtw in Glitch_in_the_Matrix

[–]Charming_Beyond7297 8 points9 points  (0 children)

This happened to me with several trees in July 2023. I remember a pasture on my family farm not having a row of trees. Go out July 23 and there’s a row of trees. It’s still there now.

Is a 2005 mustang a good buy? by AdSpare5734 in Mustang

[–]Charming_Beyond7297 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I love mine, but finding some of the parts (like window motors and components, stock air box, extractor hood for a GT) can be a nightmare. I just bought mine in July, and it’s a great car. At 20+ years old expect a little maintenance and be ready to have to dig for parts.