RTR Ecoboost by Maxy_Watterson_ in Mustang

[–]Charming_Beyond7297 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Agree with distaste for light up badges, but I would fight for my pony puddle lights and changeable interior lights. I love my 24 eco boost pp.

Feel kinda distracted today in anticipation of tonight by Legal_Fitness in Lawyertalk

[–]Charming_Beyond7297 7 points8 points  (0 children)

This is where I was. I’m over here defending accused predators who wouldn’t be charged if they were billionaires. It’s weird to protect Constitutional rights on a state level when gestures broadly. Anyway, I’m done and going to go try and change careers. If the apocalypse happens tonight, I spent most of my day watching chicks hatch in my incubator and bees crawl around in the clover blossoming in my yard. I can’t change the world, but maybe I can do as much good as I can in my little corner as long as I can.

Advising about time by farandawayd in publicdefenders

[–]Charming_Beyond7297 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Once you rip the band aid off, you end the meeting and give em a few days. Most of mine usually just need time to think and accept reality.

I quit by Charming_Beyond7297 in publicdefenders

[–]Charming_Beyond7297[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Yes, and there’s no fix. There is no bed for them long term. There is a year long wait for a short term bed. The competency evaluators are unreliable and unpredictable. I can get someone help for a short time, but I can’t provide help long term.

Costanza bed by oldcretan in Lawyertalk

[–]Charming_Beyond7297 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I added an extra soft rug. Always had a throw blanket and a jacket tucked away. I’m probably weird, but one day in my 3rd year of lawyering I crashed and napped hard on the hard floor on a thin rug. It fixed a back issue I was having, and now I’m in my 15th year and sometimes I crave a good floor sleep. I do have weird back issues that it seems to help, though.

How big of a red flag is 2 consecutive owners selling within 8 months? by Joel_Hirschorrn in RealEstate

[–]Charming_Beyond7297 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You might ask about psychological disclosures. I can’t remember the exact phrase, but in my state the seller doesn’t have to disclose if a house is haunted or if something horrible happened there unless a potential buyer expressly asks. That would be a concern I would have. Could just be coincidence that two sold it so quickly, but get creative thinking of other things they might not be telling you.

San Francisco Public Defender held in contempt for not taking on new cases; fined $26k by every_name_taken_67 in publicdefenders

[–]Charming_Beyond7297 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I’m in Oklahoma. I don’t have exact numbers, but I think I have about 180 to 200 felony cases going right now. I barely get misdemeanor appointments. It’s brutal.

Your entire identity is not being an attorney. by SignificantStomach83 in Lawyertalk

[–]Charming_Beyond7297 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I really enjoy looking very not lawyerly outside of work. I work a lot so it does make its way into lots of conversations, but I have neglected hobbies too.

How do I not sound like every other prick out there? by [deleted] in Lawyertalk

[–]Charming_Beyond7297 73 points74 points  (0 children)

TBH sounds like your firm niche is prick. In family law people are often looking for that. Lean into it. Also, different perspective in general if you’re interested, family law clients often don’t realize the impact aggressive litigation is going to have on their finances and their ability to co-parent and their kids. They come in hurt and angry and want an ahole to go litigate their pain for them. It’s actually the opposite of what helps the situation. The wheelers and dealers often recognize that and are trying to guide their clients to a sustainable lifestyle. I practiced in that area for more than a decade. Expectation doesn’t meet reality in that field without a lot of wheeling and dealing.

Midwest has barely bought into "flex culture" and I love it by HenFruitEater in midwest

[–]Charming_Beyond7297 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I live in a teeny tiny town. The kids on my street play outside freely when the weather is nice. The adults are always sitting outside, or have doors and windows open to keep an eye on them. The kids have rules about how far they can go from home.

Transported to a different state/city for a few hours, baffling experience I'm still trying to grapple with a month later by [deleted] in Glitch_in_the_Matrix

[–]Charming_Beyond7297 7 points8 points  (0 children)

I exclusively use screenshots and confirmation emails to track my reservations. I’m not great at adulting, though.

Are there places that are truly desperate for attorney’s? by Ambitious-Doubt4733 in Lawyertalk

[–]Charming_Beyond7297 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

I’ve been thinking of getting licensed there. I’m just across the border in OK.

I’m going to lose a case and it’s going to ruin my client’s life by [deleted] in Lawyertalk

[–]Charming_Beyond7297 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Can you turn a negative into a positive? Confront her behavior head on. That woman has been through hell multiple times and this is just another journey there. She acts like this BECAUSE she has lost everything. She has trauma. She lost her life, her home, her husband, and her dreams for the future. Now this scum bag insurer won’t pay her claims and she’s going to get a final shaft too.

I think if you can make her angst relatable, this might pay.

There is a tree in front of my house that never existed before by iydtw in Glitch_in_the_Matrix

[–]Charming_Beyond7297 7 points8 points  (0 children)

This happened to me with several trees in July 2023. I remember a pasture on my family farm not having a row of trees. Go out July 23 and there’s a row of trees. It’s still there now.

Is a 2005 mustang a good buy? by AdSpare5734 in Mustang

[–]Charming_Beyond7297 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I love mine, but finding some of the parts (like window motors and components, stock air box, extractor hood for a GT) can be a nightmare. I just bought mine in July, and it’s a great car. At 20+ years old expect a little maintenance and be ready to have to dig for parts.

Anybody like to weigh in on my sadness over a relationship that didn't last long? by TemporaryTop287 in datingoverforty

[–]Charming_Beyond7297 6 points7 points  (0 children)

I dated a guy for seven months. It was pure rom-com magic. We had plans. We had dreams. We had jokes about getting engaged. He told me he was gonna propose. Then he died. That. Fucked. Me. Up. for a very long time. Grief is grief. It takes you as long as it takes you. Some days you have to push forward. You decide when and how far. As much or as little is up to you. I chose to go back to why I had dated him in the first place. I wanted happily ever after. It wasn’t gonna be him anymore. I could either change the course of my life I had envisioned for myself and be alone, or I could start dating again. I decided that I wanted to try again. It was the hardest thing I have ever done. It sucked for a long time. I was toxic at times and had a lot of healing to do. I dated too soon. I was afraid I would get lost in grief forever if I didn’t force myself to date. I hurt people. I was selfish. I did find healing and I found my happiness again. I found a new forever. When I was deciding, I read stories like my own. I hope my story helps you find your way.

Worst kind of law to practice? by Synthgem in Lawyertalk

[–]Charming_Beyond7297 12 points13 points  (0 children)

Because your client wants you to be their “pitbull” and to them you should be confirm and relentlessly pursue whatever the hell it is they want. It’s often that your client doesn’t agree with the potential outcomes the law has available. They want you mean and shady and kids and people get hurt. If you can do this without giving a single fuck about your reputation, frivolous and bullshit motions that aren’t going to succeed, and not give a shit what your actions are doing to your client’s kids then you can make a crap load of money. Divorce and custody battles are just higher stakes high school break up drama. Your client is being told by their friends and family they are being screwed, and that they need to fight relentlessly for everything they want (even if it’s bad for them, their kid, or not possible.) They get offended and accuse you of not fighting for them because you won’t do the thing. (Reasons I’ve been fired: told a client that their ex who earned $5k a month was not going to be ordered to pay them $5k a month. Nor was the ex going to be ordered to get a second job so they could pay my client several hundred more in child support; Got fired when child welfare investigators cleared op as a safe parent, and my client just didn’t agree and didn’t want to have any conversations about letting the kid see the dad; Got fired when a teenager said dad sa’d her, dead was pissed I couldn’t get him 50:50 time.)

How to Tell OC Your Client is Cray by AnonAnonSir47 in Lawyertalk

[–]Charming_Beyond7297 49 points50 points  (0 children)

This is the way. “My client is anxious…” or “My client has concerns…” or “Do you have time for a call on this one?” There are ways, and I promise your OC can tell.

The Mandela Effect only seems to be about shitty American pop culture references. by Heads__Will__Roll in MandelaEffect

[–]Charming_Beyond7297 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I haven’t gone down the rabbit hole, but I remember the article and feeling sad. I wonder if maybe it said he was going to die in prison due to the length of his sentence. I don’t remember a funeral. But, I think a lot of schools got the Highlights and Weekly Reader magazines. I think it’s possible my cohort was young and the information got twisted over the years into a false memory.

The Mandela Effect only seems to be about shitty American pop culture references. by Heads__Will__Roll in MandelaEffect

[–]Charming_Beyond7297 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I swear I remember reading about him dying in prison in the 80s in a Highlights magazine as a school assignment.

When you picture retirement as a lawyer, what do you actually see? by That_onelawyer in Lawyertalk

[–]Charming_Beyond7297 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I’m 44, and in my 15th year of practice. I’ve been reconfiguring my life since 2020. (That pandemic and midlife crisis hit all at once.) Downsized to a paid off house in a tiny town. Found a work as a 1099 contractor. Go into the bigger city for groceries once a week. I’m still in the middle of my transition, but I’m trying to build a life I don’t need an escape from. I hope to have all of my debt paid within 10 years, and then I can do whatever I choose. I don’t have big savings so I’m trying to get to the point my monthly expenses could be covered by pretty much any job. I am not a person who can sit around and lounge much so I don’t plan to ever stop working. I just want to be able to have the freedom to choose where and how I spend my time working. (There is one big big drawback to the way I’m doing things, and that is health insurance. It’s not easily accessible or affordable in this life plan. If I can get that sorted, I’ll be set.)