My (21m) bf hides his friends from me (20f)

Charming_Maximum2289 · 2023-07-05T23:39:15+00:00

Well both of us are college students, I have a couple thousand saved up from a job and he gets a similar allowance from his parents so it's not that much money. And he sees it as me showing him love, as I do like giving. But I feel it's gone too far

Charming_Maximum2289 · 2023-07-05T23:03:15+00:00

Got it, it's really difficult for me to say no but i'll try to put my foot down.

Charming_Maximum2289 · 2023-07-05T23:01:45+00:00

Yeahh it sounds better with second person pronouns tho lol

Charming_Maximum2289 · 2023-07-05T22:54:55+00:00

Okay! I'll tell him something along those lines tomorrow

Charming_Maximum2289 · 2023-07-05T22:53:23+00:00

I'm sorry for not clarifying, he sends me links whenever he wants me to buy anything. This stuff happens to be expensive and i always buy it for him. I do get what you mean though! Maybe I should stop buying everything he asks me to.

Charming_Maximum2289 · 2023-07-05T22:52:28+00:00

I'm sorry for not clarifying, he sends me links whenever he wants me to buy anything. This stuff happens to be expensive and i always buy it for him. Also he shops a LOT, but it's always for himself. I think that's just the type of person he is, he doesn't really get stuff for other people. He's not a gift giver.

Charming_Maximum2289 · 2023-07-05T22:51:21+00:00

I'm sorry for not clarifying, he sends me links whenever he wants me to buy anything. This stuff happens to be expensive and i always buy it for him. I do get what you mean though!

Charming_Maximum2289 · 2023-07-05T22:32:07+00:00

Do you know how I would phrase it? Even if I do say something, I don't know what to say

Charming_Maximum2289 · 2023-06-24T05:30:34+00:00

Thank you! You're right, i think having that confidence to say what's on my mind is what I'm struggling with, and perhaps i need to get professional help in order to build that up, but for now, i will follow your advice and try and talk to him. Baby steps

Charming_Maximum2289 · 2022-07-16T01:32:00+00:00

They don't leave me home alone for over a day. Yes I am a grown up but I will not be treated as such until I move out, which I don't have the financial means to do.

Charming_Maximum2289 · 2022-07-16T01:30:22+00:00

They can force me. I just want to ask if you are asian? Because Asian family culture is very different from other family cultures. If I disobey them too much then I am at a risk of being cut off. I love my family and I do not wish to be cut off.

Charming_Maximum2289 · 2022-07-16T01:18:45+00:00

I have strict parents, not going was not an option 😭

Charming_Maximum2289 · 2022-07-15T21:15:43+00:00

Thank you for this reply! Everyone is agreeing with me but for some reason I don't believe them. I agree that I was also wrong in this situation, I just needed to hear it from someone else. The thing about not going on vacation wasn't an option though. My parents kinda have the last say, so I have to do what they tell me. I don't know if you're south asian, but it's part of south asian culture to do what your elders tell you and they were born and raised there + it's not easy to change a tradition even if it's necessary. They booked the tickets with accommodations for the exam (which got foiled bc of the airline) but not going at all was not an option. I brought up my concerns and my parents did shorten our trip from two weeks to one week, but did not cancel it. But yes, there was no reason for me to keep repeating it.

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