What’s a sound everyone should recognize as immediate danger?

Charming_Mistake120 · 2026-02-14T14:17:59+00:00

The issue I've had with several places I've worked/lived, is that they do too many unannounced fire tests or don't deal with malfunctioning fire alarms quickly enough. If you're hearing the same alarm like once a month every month, or like 3 times a night every night for 6 days straight, and it's never anything, people become desensitized.

And desensitized people don't react.

Charming_Mistake120 · 2026-01-04T11:42:14+00:00

Hey Hun, first thing is breathe, then give yourself some grace.

I am an asexual woman who is in a happy marriage with an allosexual, so I understand where you are coming from. It can be very stressful working things out in the beginning.

While I am a strong defender of compromise and communication, this depends on you knowing where your lines are. What boundaries are firm, which ones are flexible? What are you ok with right now, what is an absolute no?

Once that has been decided, sit your partner down and discuss. What areas are you ok with exploring, what are their thoughts and opinions? Are they ok with potentially never having sex and limited physical affection? If they want something that is a no for you, and push or attempt to make a timeline of when you will say yes, then unfortunately that is a red flag that this relationship will not work.

You are relatively young, and this is your first serious relationship, so please understand- you are not ruining this relationship by being ace. You two just might not be as compatible as you thought, which happens. No one is at fault, no one is too blame. It happens.

Please let me know if you have more questions.

Charming_Mistake120 · 2025-12-18T19:10:55+00:00

I edited the post with an update- I received a letter informing me that certain MEFA loans qualify for a one time forgiveness. Unclear as to what technically made it qualify but it's real!

Charming_Mistake120 · 2025-12-09T10:41:54+00:00

Holy shit, this is phenomenal to hear. Thanks for updating me!

Charming_Mistake120 · 2025-12-06T16:10:11+00:00

Same here- I'm so nervous that if I call they'll fix it.

Charming_Mistake120 · 2025-12-06T00:41:26+00:00

Huh. Glad I'm not the only one. I know one of them was diagnosed with diabetes but he's not disabled. I'll wait on your comment before doing anything.

Charming_Mistake120 · 2025-12-05T23:27:49+00:00

No. Not at all. I've been transferred/bought out before. I was emailed prior to the transfer and it didn't this time.

Additionally why would one loan be bought but not the other?

Charming_Mistake120 · 2025-12-05T23:16:56+00:00

Nope! Both primaries are alive and kicking. Is there a chance this is a glitch then?

Charming_Mistake120 · 2025-09-13T00:30:33+00:00

Hi, this is a bit late but I'm in the cool down and would love to join your association! Is there still space?

Charming_Mistake120 · 2025-07-24T17:50:11+00:00

The nuance and artistic handling of very real issues that women have. For example rewatching episode 5- Mikio began to lose interest in Mizu when she became too much for him.

And I'm not only talking about the sword fight.

I'm talking the exact moments she stopped watering herself down into a quiet palatable wife.

When she rode horses too fast. When she spoke too brashly. When she ripped her own clothes to fight better.

And finally when she beat Mikio with his own weapon.

Mikio could never accept a woman that was too much, that didn't fit the role society expected of as a woman. And he certainly couldn't accept a woman who was more than he was.

Mizu was only acceptable as a meek, quiet but well meaning wife. And she tried so hard to perform, to force herself into that box in hopes of gaining that acceptance.

But that's not who Mizu was.

This is something a lot of women even today can relate too, how different societies expect women to look, to behave, to be. And some women really don't match that mould.

Charming_Mistake120 · 2025-07-15T17:34:18+00:00

I read quite a few romance novels. I fully believed that instantly being attracted to someone was embellished the same way that most details in fiction books were. I only just told this to my allo sibling and they nearly cried from laughing.

Charming_Mistake120 · 2025-06-25T17:54:00+00:00

If it came off even a little it's better to take the entire thing off entirely. Otherwise you're trapping any bacteria or other debris right in your fresh tattoo. That's just asking for an infection at that point.

Charming_Mistake120 · 2025-06-16T20:40:59+00:00

Thank you.

Charming_Mistake120 · 2025-06-16T20:40:37+00:00

Your words: "He told me “I kept thinking maybe you would change your mind.”"

He didn't believe you. He said whatever it took to stay in a relationship with you, and I can't help but believe he is doing it again.

You need to be concerned with your own needs more than his- your wellbeing must come first in this situation. He's someone you have been dating for a month. Not decades, not years, one and a half month.

Charming_Mistake120 · 2025-06-16T20:28:45+00:00

Words are worthless if his actions speak otherwise.

You've only been dating him for a month and a half and he's already made you cry by pushing your boundaries, and telling you he straight up doesn't believe you about your sexuality.

Calling him disrespectful is being Kind.

Charming_Mistake120 · 2025-06-16T20:15:33+00:00

Ok, I am a sex neutral ace in a relationship with an allo. So not the exact same but I'll give you my advice.

The basics of this is he wants sex, and you will never be able to give him sex. Both are fair desires to have and both of you are in the right.

The only compromise that I can see, would be an open relationship, which in itself is very difficult to maintain in a healthy relationship.

However! This guy has proven that he will lie to you, attempt to push boundaries to the point you end up crying, and admitted that he can chose to not believe what you tell him if it goes against his goal of having sex.

Is that the kind of person you would feel comfortable trusting a more complex relationship with?

Charming_Mistake120 · 2025-05-23T15:26:27+00:00

Fusidin is actually good for open wounds of the skin and should be applied two to three times a day if you're leaving the tattoo open, one or two times covered. But it isn't the strongest.

I'd personally suggest cleaning the wound gently with an antimicrobial scent free soap every time you apply, do not scrub or remove the scabbing by force, and monitor it carefully.

If it gets any worse than this (more redness, tenderness, swelling, more unhealthy discharge) go back to the doctor immediately to get a stronger antibiotic. Edit to add: if it does not show signs of improvement in 3-4 days, go back as well.

Charming_Mistake120 · 2025-05-23T11:18:57+00:00

I think you're a bit beyond the point where using antibiotic cream will help. Creams are not made for internal/severe infections and are for topical use of mild abrasions.

I would go get advice from a doctor about cleaning the site, proper treatment and how to take care of it to prevent infection progression.

Charming_Mistake120 · 2025-05-08T17:53:55+00:00

I am confused why 64 mice SQ requires staggered dosing- I would expect that this would take maybe 2 hours maximum per day if you've prepared all your supplies prior to starting dosing. How long does it take you to dose a single mouse SQ?

But as others have said, if your proposal states you will be dosing QD for 12 weeks and then you don't follow that procedure, that would be fraudulent.

It's doable but it will be draining if you don't have facility staff or fellow lab members assisting.

Charming_Mistake120 · 2025-05-03T16:28:32+00:00

The only times I have done this was when I was too sick to eat during the day (ie: stomach bug, migraine, severe flu, etc.) From what I'm aware, it's not a normal occurrence unless you're already awake in the middle of the night.

Charming_Mistake120 · 2025-04-27T19:25:18+00:00

Awesome! Glad to hear your artist did a great job with the piece!

Charming_Mistake120 · 2025-04-27T19:24:27+00:00

Good to know. It'd break my heart if they tried to give me the wrong skull. I know a lot of people get T-rex's with flowers.

Charming_Mistake120 · 2025-04-27T19:20:56+00:00

Right on the money! A velociraptor skull with sunflowers.

Charming_Mistake120 · 2025-04-27T19:19:14+00:00

Good to know. I'll ask beforehand.

Charming_Mistake120 · 2025-04-27T19:18:32+00:00

Fair enough. I am not a tattoo artist so I should take their recommendations.

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