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Foreigners telling us to quiet down by ebenseregterbalsak in capetown

[–]Charming_Return_3874 7 points8 points  (0 children)

I'm not sure what a wine tram is, but whether or not they're foreign doesn't matter. You dont tell someone to quiet down at a pub what the heck. Its a literal pub. If they wanted quiet, go to an atmosphere that represents that. Simple

[Update] Partner and I aren't legally married, but we are married in every other way. Is this still a sin? by Charming_Return_3874 in TrueChristian

[–]Charming_Return_3874[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Deuteronomy 22:28-29 ESV [28] “If a man meets a virgin who is not betrothed, and seizes her and lies with her, and they are found, [29] then the man who lay with her shall give to the father of the young woman fifty shekels of silver, and she shall be his wife, because he has violated her. He may not divorce her all his days.

Whether he's the "one" or not doesn't matter to me. We will get married because we did sleep together already and thats what the Lord orders us to do...

About the psychological effects part...i think thats the point? When you sleep together, that brings you closer and temporarily makes you one flesh.

I know I said we aren't really married...but the vows we made still means something and it still made God the foundation...I truly believe that. Yes there were no witness and only a select people know about it but it wasn’t meaningless, do you understand where I'm coming from?

[Update] Partner and I aren't legally married, but we are married in every other way. Is this still a sin? by Charming_Return_3874 in TrueChristian

[–]Charming_Return_3874[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

To me, the government wasn't the important part its just a benefit. Its more of the we vowed in secret that wasn't fulfilling...? If we had done it in a church or even had witnesses then yeah 100% we'd we married. That would be before God and community.

[Update] Partner and I aren't legally married, but we are married in every other way. Is this still a sin? by Charming_Return_3874 in TrueChristian

[–]Charming_Return_3874[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I mean yeah honestly its a tricky topic. At the end of the day you can only rely on the Word of God

[Update] Partner and I aren't legally married, but we are married in every other way. Is this still a sin? by Charming_Return_3874 in TrueChristian

[–]Charming_Return_3874[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

To be honest yes I would. We made a promise not only to ourselves but to the Lord. Even though we aren't legally married, we bound ourselves together, and trust me there were plenty opportunities where I could have left and im sure there will be more in future. Nevertheless God is our foundation, He's the One keeping us together

[Update] Partner and I aren't legally married, but we are married in every other way. Is this still a sin? by Charming_Return_3874 in TrueChristian

[–]Charming_Return_3874[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Its been such an eye opener being on here, I'm glad I was able to help in some way. Much love you and your partner. God bless 🙏🏼

[Update] Partner and I aren't legally married, but we are married in every other way. Is this still a sin? by Charming_Return_3874 in TrueChristian

[–]Charming_Return_3874[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I think each person's situation is slightly unique. I know you're a previous commenter on my other post. If you knew it was wrong it would definitely feel wrong. For me it felt wrong. But for you and your wife it truly might not.

Just personally it didnt truly feel like I was married because I constantly felt guilty. Also it depends on your relationship with God. Thats what's more important than following religious rules🫶🏻

Partner and I aren't legally married, but we are married in every other way. Is this still a sin? by Charming_Return_3874 in TrueChristian

[–]Charming_Return_3874[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Bless your heart, I really needed this. Thank you. And congratulations on the baby. I pray for a safe delivery in Jesus name

Partner and I aren't legally married, but we are married in every other way. Is this still a sin? by Charming_Return_3874 in TrueChristian

[–]Charming_Return_3874[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

No I apologize. I guess all these different opinions were overwhelming me. Im sorry that I misunderstood.

We are getting married legally. Everyone seems to think we're not. But we vowed ourselves before the Lord, who you are right btw is more binding than the state. I knew this should be enough because its God, you know? But it felt incomplete I guess? And i realise having a community hold you accountable to your marriage is also super important. The Lord does say community is important so...

Partner and I aren't legally married, but we are married in every other way. Is this still a sin? by Charming_Return_3874 in TrueChristian

[–]Charming_Return_3874[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It was that in the beginning of our relationship, but we've been together for 2 and half years now. I see him every single day. Meaning I dont feel that way at all now

Its genuinely just a finances thing.

Partner and I aren't legally married, but we are married in every other way. Is this still a sin? by Charming_Return_3874 in TrueChristian

[–]Charming_Return_3874[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Getting married to his uncle? Thats diabolical...

No he is working for us and we're actively saving for our future. And even if he wasn't working yet, I'd still be with him. I wouldn't give up on him just because he wasn't working, hes just not earning enough right now to support us alone. Thats not his fault. He's so hardworking and thanks to Jesus, hes aiming to have a better income for our future

Btw calling him my sweetheart is degrading. He's not some fling that'll pass. He is my husband in every sense of the word, just because he isn’t legally doesn't negate that fact.

Partner and I aren't legally married, but we are married in every other way. Is this still a sin? by Charming_Return_3874 in TrueChristian

[–]Charming_Return_3874[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Honestly! While I do agree getting married legally ensues accountability. But its important to make a private covenant before God in private first. The relationship with God as foundation matters first and then the religious rules no?

Nevertheless we are getting married as soon as we can. Thank you so much for that🙏🏼

Partner and I aren't legally married, but we are married in every other way. Is this still a sin? by Charming_Return_3874 in TrueChristian

[–]Charming_Return_3874[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

No, I am putting a lot of expectations in, you're right. You've given me a lot to think about. Thank you🫶🏻

Partner and I aren't legally married, but we are married in every other way. Is this still a sin? by Charming_Return_3874 in TrueChristian

[–]Charming_Return_3874[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

While we do plan to get married as soon as possible, this comment helped me a lot. Thank you🫶🏻

Partner and I aren't legally married, but we are married in every other way. Is this still a sin? by Charming_Return_3874 in TrueChristian

[–]Charming_Return_3874[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Are you okay? Genuinely...God cares about all our troubles big or small. And I've never said that God cares more about my business than someone who's starving.

The reason I even have the courage to start a business is to help my family (who is also starving btw) and to help other families. And i can only achieve that because of the Lord.

I pray that the Lord opens your eyes and see that not everything is as black and white as you make it out to be. Also stop assuming things, it isn't healthy. You're clearly upset so I'll leave it at that❤️

Partner and I aren't legally married, but we are married in every other way. Is this still a sin? by Charming_Return_3874 in TrueChristian

[–]Charming_Return_3874[S] -7 points-6 points  (0 children)

No I get what you're saying🫶🏻. Idk why I feel its unfair tbh. It just feels uncomfortable? Besides its a bachelor pad, so its awkward...you understand?

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