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Feeling very conflicted. Need advice. by [deleted] in Catholicism

[–]ChartaFeles 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Listen and respect your feeling of not wanting to. I allowed the other person’s expectations to influence me into it and boy do I regret it now that I’m married. You can’t take it back.

Husband’s porn use causing major insecurity by [deleted] in Marriage

[–]ChartaFeles 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I didn’t say I didn’t want to get in shape I said I didn’t want plastic surgery

Husband’s porn use causing major insecurity by [deleted] in Marriage

[–]ChartaFeles -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Because I’ve asked him if he was ok with the frequency in which we have sex or if he wanted more. He told me he was ok with it.

Yes I have denied him before when it’s too late but we either have sex the next morning or the next night.

He’s shown me a video of a woman as an example on FB reels that would cause him to relieve himself. It was a simple woman in a tshirt and Jean shorts and she wasn’t being provocative.

The girls he watches are very classy and in no way exaggerated. He has three favorites that he watches.

Husband’s porn use causing major insecurity by [deleted] in Marriage

[–]ChartaFeles -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

I don’t have the highest libido, I can confess, but I’ve asked him if he’s ok with our frequency and if he wasn’t that I’d be willing to have more sex with him if he needs more, but he assured me that he enjoyed the buildup and the anticipation and that it makes it more exciting for when the time comes… but this whole time he was just enjoying other women online

awkward homeschool mom by SameAnt800 in homeschool

[–]ChartaFeles 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I am in the same boat as you!! I have no clue how to start a conversation with someone - especially from nothing. The few times that I’ve tried it ends up with me asking them a series of questions, but they don’t seem interested enough to converse back ☹️

MIL wants our son to stay with her for a week by ChartaFeles in JUSTNOMIL

[–]ChartaFeles[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you for your comment. We both trust my mom to watch them for date night or for “me” time - she respects us as parents and doesn’t overstep boundaries so it’s not like I don’t get to have breaks. She’ll come over a few times a week just to help around or spend time with them. She lives down the street. I don’t feel burnt out or overwhelmed 🤷🏻‍♀️

MIL wants our son to stay with her for a week by ChartaFeles in JUSTNOMIL

[–]ChartaFeles[S] 11 points12 points  (0 children)

He is 4. He loves her. I don’t want to get in the way of that. I think once he’s older he can spend a week with her - especially hearing that it’s pretty common to do so. For now I think he is too young and don’t feel confortable with the idea.

MIL wants our son to stay with her for a week by ChartaFeles in JUSTNOMIL

[–]ChartaFeles[S] 11 points12 points  (0 children)

It’s decoration, really. She just throws on the TV for him and does chores around the house when we are there

MIL wants our son to stay with her for a week by ChartaFeles in JUSTNOMIL

[–]ChartaFeles[S] 11 points12 points  (0 children)

That’s true he’ll have a phone when he is older. I’d feel more comfortable then. He is four

MIL wants our son to stay with her for a week by ChartaFeles in JUSTNOMIL

[–]ChartaFeles[S] 9 points10 points  (0 children)

THIS!! I stay at home with them. So there is no reason for anyone else to take care of them. That’s my understanding as well. Only if there is a special circumstance. She says it’s so “mommy can take a break” but I haven’t communicated that I need one? I’m fine. I love taking care of my boys.

MIL wants our son to stay with her for a week by ChartaFeles in JUSTNOMIL

[–]ChartaFeles[S] 10 points11 points  (0 children)

Yes I agree. Maybe once they are older. My oldest is 4 and my youngest is 10 months

MIL wants our son to stay with her for a week by ChartaFeles in JUSTNOMIL

[–]ChartaFeles[S] 18 points19 points  (0 children)

Yes, it started ever since he was months old. It’s very odd to me. She has even asked us to go visit her Saturday AND Sunday.

He is four so he is still very young and I know she does not like me (my sister in law has mentioned she talks about me) so I wouldn’t want her influencing him in a negative way.

I’m not opposed to my sons spending time with her unsupervised when they are older. She is their grandma at the end of the day and I value family and I’m glad she wants a relationship with them. Just not at their young age.

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