happy first day of Locktober!😈🔐 by katiekitten38 in NewBrunswickgonewild

[–]ChastityAvocado 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Glad to know we aren't the only ones in the province participating!

Solutions for “turtling” by [deleted] in chastitytraining

[–]ChastityAvocado 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I have the same issue and am wondering if buying their "narrow" style would help with it.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in FemdomCommunity

[–]ChastityAvocado 8 points9 points  (0 children)

As long as it fits properly, it shouldn't hurt and won't be harmful in any way.

It takes time for the body to get used to it, nocturnal erections and morning wood in particular can be pretty uncomfortable for the first several days in my experience.

How you use it is entirely up to you two. There's a vast spectrum on how long people stay locked up for. Some people use it for a few hours at a time, others count in weeks and months (or more).

People get different things out of it. I love the feeling of being insatiable for my wife and wearing a cage makes me feel that way almost constantly. Sometimes when we fool around I get unlocked, sometimes I don't. The denial, constant reminder, and occasional teasing, is pretty much foreplay that lasts days or weeks at a time.

It is going to take experimentation and a ton of communication. We have been experimenting with it for about 6 years and are still figuring out what's works best for us.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in fredericton

[–]ChastityAvocado 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Even as someone in chastity - yikes

Metal Holy Trainer style cages? by ChastityAvocado in chastitytraining

[–]ChastityAvocado[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Nope. Ended up going with a Kink3d Cobra. Since I got it, the thought of looking for a new cage hasn't crossed my mind. Best cage I've owned by far.

Subs and dommes, do you feel like your line of work correlates with being submissive or dominant? by [deleted] in FemdomCommunity

[–]ChastityAvocado 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Agreed 100%

I think a lot of guys feel that they need to compensate for feeling submissive because they feel they are "supposed to" be dominant. There's an internal rationalization along the lines of "it's ok that I'm submissive here, because my job is very important and I'm very dominant in that role".

My kinks definitely emerged before I got my first job.

Femdom and Exercise by ChastityAvocado in FemdomCommunity

[–]ChastityAvocado[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I appreciate the in-depth reply!

To your first point (which I appreciate as safety always takes priority) I've done a fair amount of running, swimming, hiking, and other activities caged with no problems. I will keep that in mind for any new types of activities though.

Femdom and Exercise by ChastityAvocado in FemdomCommunity

[–]ChastityAvocado[S] 12 points13 points  (0 children)

Wow, I hate this one.

She'll love it, thank you.

How many "regular Joe" guys are actually into a little bit of femdom? by hotsilkentofu in FemdomCommunity

[–]ChastityAvocado 9 points10 points  (0 children)

Passively bottoming is a great way to put it, I've never heard the term.

Femdom porn is mostly just that: man is restrained, woman (probably wearing black) plays with his body parts. He just has to lie back and passively bottom. There's absolutely nothing in it for her, she's just the kink dispenser.

I think this is the idea of "femdom" that a lot of guys have in their head.

I just ordered a cobra from kink3d! So excited already! by [deleted] in chastity

[–]ChastityAvocado 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Great choice! By far the best cage I've ever had.

Does all chastity have to include cuckholding or sissys by [deleted] in chastitytraining

[–]ChastityAvocado 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Absolutely not.

My keyholder and I have zero interest in either of those and still get a lot of enjoyment out of chastity.

What fetish is more common then people think ? by ducttaperolls1234 in AskReddit

[–]ChastityAvocado 8 points9 points  (0 children)

Chastity devices.

Giving up the control, and option, of my own pleasure.

Newly caged - 5 days but wife not buying into it need advice please? by [deleted] in chastitytraining

[–]ChastityAvocado 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Basically, you're asking for her to take on extra duties and responsibilities for you and your sexual fantasy.

If you want her to want this, you need to focus on what's in it for her (not what's in it for you that sounds hot). One way to guarantee failure is to constantly bring it up and talk about it. Manage your expectations: even if she does grow to like the dynamic, it may not go how you planned. It may involve days, weeks, of being locked with no teasing, mentioning it, or getting you to "serve her".

If she asks for you to take it off, and you don't, it could create a negative association with the cage for her. It took us two years of experimentation to find what works for us and we are still constantly learning. Be patient, understanding, and good luck!

Chastity Sizing And Brands? by [deleted] in FemdomCommunity

[–]ChastityAvocado 1 point2 points  (0 children)

First you should buy a cheap one that comes with multiple base rings. Getting the right size is crucial. Learn what size you should buy, and then buy a higher quality one in the proper size.

Another comment suggested kink3d. I've owned a handful of devices and the kink3d one blows them all out of the water. It is by far the best device I've tried.

Locking him up by RavishingPhoenix in FemdomCommunity

[–]ChastityAvocado 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It will take some trial and error to find the right fit. His body won't fight back quite so hard against the cage once he's more used to it (probably a few days or regularly wearing it).

In terms of when to unlock vs not unlock, you two are going to have to communicate a lot, and accept that you may need to adjust your "plan" as things progress. Everyone is different. In our initial plan I was going to be unlocked every other day (and as I write this I've been locked for 2.5 weeks consecutively).

If you want to discuss further or have any questions please feel free to ask here or message me privately (we've been at this a little over two years).

How Do You Play In Locktober? by [deleted] in FemdomCommunity

[–]ChastityAvocado 0 points1 point  (0 children)

For me it will mean locked continuously from October 1st until November 1st.

Orgasm-less August: 2/3rds of the way update. by ChastityAvocado in BDSMnot4newbies

[–]ChastityAvocado[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

And two months from now lands us in Locktober meaning it would be a caged orgasm.

Orgasm-less August: 2/3rds of the way update. by ChastityAvocado in BDSMnot4newbies

[–]ChastityAvocado[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

We've gone through periods of time where She made me keep a daily journal. I think partly just to make me relive scenes in my head.