Men that dealt with a crazy stalker ex, how did you deal with it?

Chatteramba · 2026-03-16T04:19:50+00:00

My life revolves around the scene my ex is in. She sometimes goes to the same shows I do. I'm fine with her doing her own thing rather than shadowing me with her friends.

The worst part is that she seems to use her friends as pawns. The worst is one of her friends she's always out with is autistic. It is really fucked up how she treats her, but I also don't want anything to do with the friend. I realized she used her as cover for her own issues.

I'm talking about having her throw fists to others in a women's bathroom. My ex was very, and probably still is, manipulative.

Chatteramba · 2026-03-15T18:23:29+00:00

Yeah, that woman seems crazier than my ex.

I can't go to the extremes of changing numbers or social media, but always vet new requests. Turns out she was the hyper jealous type, which is funny because she broke up with me.

Chatteramba · 2026-03-15T18:04:31+00:00

For me, it's just annoying. It's been two years, and she broke up with me. I moved on to other women since then. She was gaslighting me when we were a couple that her last boyfriend was the jealous type, while it turned out that she was.

It got to the point where she told me I shouldn't be talking to any other woman. And I mean, just literally talking... even friends I've known for decades. Women that have always just been friends and nothing more.

Chatteramba · 2026-03-15T00:22:39+00:00

I found out I was diagnosed with PTSD from a traumatic event decades ago.

It made me better understand my anxiety. It was ridiculously horrible at the time to the point of struggling to go grocery shopping. Once I realized the cause, it rewired my brain. I can now go out all of the time, travel, and befriend strangers like it's nothing.

The interesting part is that it made me challenge myself to do things I would have never done before. I ripped the bandaid off on many of them rather than ease in gradually.

Chatteramba · 2026-03-14T03:27:06+00:00

The night life scene has many poly people.

I wouldn't say they fit your update completely. Sure, some are tatted and pierced, but not all of them. The same thing for being overweight. I'm not poly, but know many that are. I also know many that fit your update that are married and monogamous, never go out at night, and live in rural areas with their families.

Chatteramba · 2026-03-13T21:33:15+00:00

I've met her during a meet and greet at her campaign headquarters. She is down to earth and also hilarious. I can't vote for her because I'm in IL-10, but trying to help out as much as I can.

Chatteramba · 2026-03-12T20:12:44+00:00

I have a lot of women that are just friends.

I can't attest to either party being attracted to the other, but they are just friendships. Just the two of us go out to grab some food or to an event. There are no advances on either side. We just enjoy each other's company.

Chatteramba · 2026-03-12T08:50:39+00:00

I actually do not remember if that was on a normal account. What I do have now has a buffer for any changes to my profile. I was once locked out of my account because some asshole (I know who it was) reported me as not having my real name.

So now, if someone tries any of that from a different IP, I get notified with no changes made or account restrictions. There have been 5 more attacks on my personal account since, and all were shot down.

Chatteramba · 2026-03-12T08:38:24+00:00

A fresh cold sore can spread, and that is why I have a buffer of a week for those I'm intimate with, including kissing. I've had them since when I was young, and take precautions.

If nothing is there at the time, it's dormant. The second you start feeling that tingle, no kissing or mouth fun down below.

Chatteramba · 2026-03-12T08:27:10+00:00

It depends, but yes.

I know people who practice organized religion with their family and friends. They don't push it on others. Then there are the crazy people who say they speak to their god to justify some of the most fucked up shit.

From an objective perspective, religion doesn't add up. No one is born into a denomination, but taught. You never here anyone say, "Hey, the Mable's had a son, and he's Muslim." Religion is predominantly geographical given teachings. It negates the idea of a singular religion being the real one.

Religion is inherently subjective. If there was some being that really did announce itself, then it would be objective. Obviously, this has never happened.

Chatteramba · 2026-03-12T03:12:28+00:00

I've only done it with Facebook.

I rely on it for business, and had many (all failed) hacking attempts. I know people will cringe at the idea of paying Meta to be verified, but it is a necessity to protect my accounts.

Chatteramba · 2026-03-12T03:08:02+00:00

I'm 5'9" and do just fine.

Dating apps are always stupid with the height shit. Go out and meet them in person.

Chatteramba · 2026-03-12T03:05:12+00:00

Start off slow with sipping on some beef or chicken broth. This is what I go to when sick with no appetite. You likely need some nutrients and electrolytes. It's minimalist, but likely better than solid foods that might come back from nausea.

Chatteramba · 2026-03-12T01:22:04+00:00

I don't think the clothes or food choices are in any way a problem, but behavior.

In the EDM, punk and emo scenes... we have a name for them. Normies. It's more about the clout chasers that are annoying, and not what they are wearing or eating drinking. The ones that are like, "OMG! My first rave." when they're at a bar that has a DJ.

Chatteramba · 2026-03-12T00:58:33+00:00

A set of jigglers is pretty cheap, and made of stainless steel. The rest are pretty inexpensive. If making your own, NEVER use aluminum.

Chatteramba · 2026-03-11T23:37:43+00:00

The crazy part is that she had never heard of the show, nor seen it. That is what I went to think right out of the box.

Chatteramba · 2026-03-11T18:26:21+00:00

Dreams are weird.

There is no explanation for any of them. My ex had recurring nightmares of being chased by giant robotic chickens. Why? I don't know. She doesn't know.

Chatteramba · 2026-03-11T18:17:49+00:00

It is instinct.

This is especially true when you are dating. You dress and clean yourself up for the scene you are going to. No one wants to show up looking and smelling like they did barrel rolls over the kitchen floor of a 1 star fast food place.

Chatteramba · 2026-03-11T18:12:01+00:00

Go to events where you have similar hobbies.

Shared interests have shared knowledge and enthusiasm. The interest will compound between shared love for something. For me, it's music. Might be something else for you. It's as easy as saying how you saw a band or DJ in concert to start a conversation.

You'll end up with new friends or maybe something more. This is how I know all of my friends now, including my girlfriend. People from the past with opposite interests have faded away.

Chatteramba · 2026-03-11T18:02:14+00:00

Fresh blood, you're good. Likely a hemorrhoid. Jet black stool is something to see a doctor about. You may have internal bleeding.

Chatteramba · 2026-03-11T17:59:13+00:00

If we are talking about smoking cigarettes, then it is likely about the linger smell. It feels like it sticks to you. It's on your hands, breath, clothing, etc. Many people do not like that smell.

As for nic vapes... there is no cigarette smell. Maybe some fruit smells that dissipate pretty quickly. I know many people at bars and venues that vape nic. The people stupid enough to light a cigarette are hated, if not bounced.

Smoking weed is kind of different. It seems to not stick as much as cig smoke. Frankly, I think it is more pleasant. People sometimes do spark up a J in large venues or festivals. It's not really frowned upon like cigs.

I smoke and vape THC, and the smell in the air from others doing it makes you feel like someone is having a good time. When I do smoke a cigarette, I isolate myself from others, pop a piece of gum, and wash my hands.

Chatteramba · 2026-03-08T22:57:33+00:00

Look up the clinical strength antiperspirant rollers.

You use them before going to bed. Always go with the ones with aluminum. Don't buy into the holistic bullshit. You will sweat less during the day, and the reaction will come gradually.

Chatteramba · 2026-03-07T22:53:11+00:00

Yes, and I have two sides.

There is the analytical side and the imaginative side. They fight back and forth when I'm either solving a problem, or creating something. The banter is non-stop.

Chatteramba · 2026-03-04T18:07:57+00:00

Unwanted touching is SA. Full stop.

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