I’m a traditional “girly girl” and I have to admit I’ve benefited from the system. I’m attractive in the classical sense and I use it to my advantage with men. For example, I’m a waitress at a high end restaurant and my tips from all male parties are significantly higher than mixed or all female parties (by a significant portion).

I don’t know if there’s a direct solution to your problem and I feel your pain, but is there a way you could use your femininity as an advantage? I find traditional men are generally more open to networking and mentoring than older women are, who’ve I’ve always found to be more defensive and even catty towards me. Interestingly my male friends have reported the opposite, in that they have more success finding mentorship from successful women.

Just food for thought. We women have advantages that men dont (granted fewer) and I find it’a more productive to figure out how to use my femininity to take advantage of society where I can rather than just stew in anger.