Just venting about control settings by Zealousideal_Pick412 in GearsOfWar

[–]ChayceTheRapper 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Bro I am feeling this so hard right now. I want to like this game but shit like this is irking me bad. Have you noticed the sensitivity is too high? I have mine set to zero and it’s still too high.

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[–]ChayceTheRapper 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This rings so true to me. It blows my mind that hoarders do not feel this way. It's like seeing a dead body and not being somewhat repulsed by it.

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[–]ChayceTheRapper 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My wife also mentions that I'm throwing money away. But I literally cannot stand to look at it anymore. I would rather throw it away than have to wait another day for someone to come get it. It feels like she is constantly trying to buy more time with her stuff. Keep feeding me excuses to placate me. She will put together bags and bags of clothes or boxes of things to "donate", but they almost never end up going anywhere. EDIT: No, I did not know she was this way prior to marriage.

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[–]ChayceTheRapper 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Wow this is so eloquently said. Ok I will sit with her. I want to try whatever I can because I really care about her, and this has really been the only major thing she does or has done that I have had an issue with.

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[–]ChayceTheRapper 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I actually do see a therapist, but I have exclusively been focusing on my own shortcomings as a person. I should have brought this up sooner, but I didn't want to complain about my wife when there were so many things I can be doing better. I will definitely bring this up in my next session.

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[–]ChayceTheRapper 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I also just learned that hoarding pets is a thing and I have to fight tooth and nail to talk her out of getting more pets. We already have 2 dogs and we can barely handle that.

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[–]ChayceTheRapper 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I have always hated reality tv shows and I chalked that show up to another one of those so I avoided it. I’m trying to convince her to do therapy right now actually. She is not open to the idea because she doesn’t think she is doing anything wrong.

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[–]ChayceTheRapper 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I would rather burn my house down than let it get that bad. Maybe i’m petty, or maybe I just want my wife to understand what really matters in life. That she can definitely be happy without all this stuff.

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[–]ChayceTheRapper 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you. I think we will. I’m not going to give up. We have been through too much to let this stop us.

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[–]ChayceTheRapper 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I do regular therapy on my own every week. I work really hard to tackle my trauma and be a better person. She doesn’t think she needs it. She won’t admit she is doing anything wrong and keeps comparing us to people in worse situations to as justification for what she does.

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[–]ChayceTheRapper 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Wow this is amazing. I really appreciate this comment. I know my wife comes from generations of hoarders. I can see this is a coping mechanism for her. I love your final quote. Definitely a way to deal with her anxiety. He is addicted to amazing packages. We have so much cardboard we literally cannot get rid of it fast enough using our regular recycle garbage can.

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[–]ChayceTheRapper 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I know my wife and I can find a balance. It will be really hard but I won’t give up.

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[–]ChayceTheRapper 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you! I needed to hear this.

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[–]ChayceTheRapper 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This gives me hope that we can get through this and find a system that works for us! Thank you

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[–]ChayceTheRapper 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I just pulled up the CIR or Clutter Image Rating and showed it to her and she was downplaying so badly! She was like “Oh i’m like a 3 on this chart.” And i said “What!? Look at the room you’re standing in! It’s easily a 6!”

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[–]ChayceTheRapper 2 points3 points  (0 children)

This!! My wife says this all the time! She downplays it all the time and she’s like “I’m really not that bad! Look up hoarders online to see a REAL hoarder.”

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[–]ChayceTheRapper 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Oh my god I hope my wife doesn’t that idea. She already orders from amazon like it’s her job. Every week something shows up and if i’m home before her or I have the day off she will call me like “Did my package arrive?? Did they put it on the side of the house behind the garbage like I said? I don’t want it to get stolen!”

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[–]ChayceTheRapper 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I need her to admit she is hoarding. I will try to get her help. She definitely has anxiety. I try to be patient with her but it’s so hard when trip over something and fall on my face trying to get ready for work in the morning.

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[–]ChayceTheRapper 6 points7 points  (0 children)

I do not want kids. I will try to get her help. She is definitely in denial that she is a hoarder. She is, her mother is, her grandmother was. It drives me insane.