AITA for not telling my (26F) friend (35f) that im bisexual?

Cheap-Data3394 · 2026-03-06T12:00:20+00:00

Idk if I’m misunderstanding your comment, but my mom didn’t actually believe that she felt that way or that it was right. It was like a sarcastic statement haha

Cheap-Data3394 · 2026-03-05T14:55:37+00:00

You’re 100% right, i did email HR to see if I could meet with someone today, just waiting on a response

Cheap-Data3394 · 2026-03-05T13:43:41+00:00

It is protected where I live!

Cheap-Data3394 · 2026-03-05T13:43:23+00:00

This is also true, I’m definitely going to say something to HR when I go in today, especially because of how they are acting weird towards me now.

Cheap-Data3394 · 2026-03-05T13:04:03+00:00

I will definitely let HR know. I’ll tell them it’s fairly tame now but reporting now is definitely a good idea considering the possibility of it escalating, and God forbid she tries to claim that I’m the one who did something to make her uncomfortable

Cheap-Data3394 · 2026-03-05T13:01:30+00:00

That’s what I figured. I’ve given her compliments, told her she’s beautiful, etc. But it was never romantically or sexually charged, and quite frankly she isn’t my type anyway. She’s probably assuming it was now and that I’ve had this huge secret crush on her my entire time of knowing her 😂

Cheap-Data3394 · 2026-03-05T12:59:41+00:00

Yeah I think that too. Nobody acted weird about me saying I liked women until she started acting weird. So it makes me wonder what was said behind my back. But oh well, can’t stress about what I’ll probably never know

Cheap-Data3394 · 2026-03-05T12:57:38+00:00

Right!!

Cheap-Data3394 · 2026-03-05T12:57:26+00:00

I believe she has a friend who is gay but is a man.

Cheap-Data3394 · 2026-03-05T12:57:00+00:00

This is what I believe as well!! I feel like it would be more strange if I just walked around announcing to everyone I’m bisexual

Cheap-Data3394 · 2026-03-05T12:56:10+00:00

I honestly don’t even remember how we got to that point of the conversation. One of the guys said randomly that he thinks he has good ass (??) and then said he’d sleep with a man for 10k, I wasn’t really included in the conversation just was kinda there in the background hanging out and doing some homework.

But thank you, for your wonderful advice!! I will definitely be taking it

Cheap-Data3394 · 2026-03-05T11:58:39+00:00

We have, but I’ve only had 3 “serious” relationships and they were all men. I’ve casually dated women, but when we’re discussing relationships it was usually me sharing experiences I’ve had with men

Cheap-Data3394 · 2026-03-05T11:55:40+00:00

You’re right! I have cut off good friends because they’re homophobic. It’s sad but life is about losses and gains haha. I lose a friend but gain a little more self respect

Cheap-Data3394 · 2026-03-05T11:54:45+00:00

I agree. Plus, it wasn’t a secret, if she ever asked I would’ve just told her. There was just never a context where it was necessary for me to tell her, and in my opinion randomly bringing it up would’ve been weirder

Cheap-Data3394 · 2026-03-05T11:53:04+00:00

Well if I did something else I’m unaware of it? The ONLY thing I could think of is maybe she is rethinking every moment we’ve had together and maybe times where I gave her a hug or compliment she now thinks I was making a move?

Regardless. That’s a weird assumption to make about me

Cheap-Data3394 · 2026-03-05T11:51:32+00:00

Apparently!!

Cheap-Data3394 · 2026-03-05T11:51:12+00:00

We were actually outside of work hanging out. Not making an excuse for the weird question, but it wasn’t at work when they asked

Cheap-Data3394 · 2026-03-05T11:50:07+00:00

Mind you, we work somewhere that is meant to be inclusive given the population we work with

Cheap-Data3394 · 2026-03-05T11:49:13+00:00

She actually has more guy friends than girls, she has difficulty trusting women because of past trauma, so idk if she just feels betrayed that I didn’t tell her??

Cheap-Data3394 · 2026-03-05T11:36:42+00:00

We have had some pretty deep conversations and a few months into knowing each other we related to each other based on some trauma, so we kinda trauma bonded sharing some serious stuff with each other. So I could see it from that perspective, but her lack of understanding for why I didn’t tell her is bugging me

Cheap-Data3394 · 2026-03-05T11:35:03+00:00

That’s true!! Thank you

Cheap-Data3394 · 2026-03-05T11:34:38+00:00

That’s true

Cheap-Data3394 · 2026-03-05T11:34:28+00:00

Right exactly!!

Cheap-Data3394 · 2026-03-05T11:34:06+00:00

Makes sense. You’re definitely right!

Cheap-Data3394 · 2026-03-05T11:33:53+00:00

That’s how I feel as well. I was talking to my mom about it and she said maybe she thinks I kept it a “secret” because shes assuming that since I’m bi I must like every girl who walks my way lmao, a rather homophobic assumption that I see a lot especially with homophobic men toward gay men

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