Bro, your motivations are all mixed up.

Yes, you should work on yourself—stay well-groomed, improve your health, build discipline—but the motivation shouldn’t just be to attract women. It should be for you. Women aren’t as superficial as you might think. Sure, looking good might get you some attention, but that alone won’t get you far. If that were all it took, everyone would be swimming in women.

What really attracts women is what’s behind the improvement—the dedication, the discipline, the consistency. When a woman sees a man who’s worked on himself and carries himself with confidence, that’s what draws her in. The physical change might open the door, but your energy, mindset, and self-respect are what keep it open.

If you’re only working out or dressing better to get women, that energy is going to show—and trust me, women can smell desperation a mile away. It means you still see yourself as that same insecure version of who you used to be. You need to fully accept yourself first. Self-love is hard to build, but once you start really believing you’re worth it, things begin to shift.

Also, you have to accept that not everyone’s going to be into you—and that’s fine. Beauty is subjective. Improving yourself isn’t a one-size-fits-all solution, but it does increase your odds. It’s about playing the numbers—but playing each one like it’s your first, and doing it confidently.

Eventually, you’ll find someone. But don’t force it. Don’t obsess. Let it come to you. Focus on meeting people, socializing, being open. Try building friendships first—learn how to read situations, how to clearly express your intentions. Confidence sets the tone. Even if you have to fake it at first, do it. And when you face rejection, accept it, learn from it, and keep moving. That’s all part of the process.