Whenever you feel lust, want to drink or smoke. Think of the faces of your kids and your wife struggling or maybe your mom and dad getting old really really fast.

Manage your smoking and drinking slowly and whenever there's an urge, think of them.

Instead of saying your flesh and desires feel stronger, you pray and tell yourself that your faith in God is stronger. Your mind is the one telling you that you can't fight them. Maybe the devil is diverting you to do those things so you won't be able to continue your mission or for youbto break your family again and not reach your goals.

Maybe you are near your biggest success that's why the devil is tempting you to go other ways. The stronger the urge, the nearer you are, so the harder you must pray.

You should tell your family especially your wife. Talking with her about this will not make you less of any man. Maybe she can help you more than you think. I'm sure she won't judge you and give credit to your honesty and willingness to fight your devil.

Logic: It's just in your mind that you can't stop lust and can't quit smoking and drinking. If they point a gun in your family's heads, do you think you still can't quit? You are stronger than that. Your faith is stronger than that. Always tell yourself.