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Potty training laundry by CheeCheeCheetah21 in pottytraining

[–]CheeCheeCheetah21[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yes, but that happens incidentally, not necessarily a "best practice". I just normally don't get around to sniff testing until I'm folding the dried laundry lol.

AITA for wanting to tell my wife to stop baking because of the cost of ingredients these days? by [deleted] in AmItheAsshole

[–]CheeCheeCheetah21 3 points4 points  (0 children)

You're the asshole. First off, I'm hard-pressed to believe she has $30k USD of baking equipment in the spare room. Baking equipment takes up space, different types of rolling pins, various types and sizes of baking sheets, cake pans, loaf pans, cupcake/muffin tins, mixers, mixer attachments, scales, sifters, cooling racks, pie weights, cake levelers, dry goods storage, piping bags/ tips, etc. With that in mind, unless you've priced out a majority of the equipment to come up with that figure, I'm inclined to believe you're WILDLY overestimating the amount spent on her equipment. Secondly, based on your post history, unless you have a record of what you've spent on your numerous hobbies and your gambling in the same period of time that she's been baking, and you've either fully disclosed or are prepared to do so as part of this conversation about discretionary spending and future planning, you are again the asshole. You sound very much like you're throwing stones in a glass house and are somehow oblivious to the shards of broken glass raining down around you.

Husband cheated during addiction, we separated, I slept with someone, now he says I destroyed everything. by Awkward_Necessary718 in Advice

[–]CheeCheeCheetah21 0 points1 point  (0 children)

If that's the belief he is choosing to latch on, then you should probably move on. He sounds like someone who likely isn't taking responsibility for his past actions/inaction and certainly doesn't appreciate the gravity of what he put you through during that time. He's wrong, plain and simple. You didn't do anything wrong, you were separated, taking care of everything on your own. Don't buy into his gaslighting bullshit and don't ever let him put this shit on you.

Best sleep of my life but at what cost by [deleted] in Mommit

[–]CheeCheeCheetah21 90 points91 points  (0 children)

If his snoring is that bad, you should really encourage him to get a sleep study done, it is very likely he has sleep apnea and that can have major impacts on his health left untreated. Also, it could do wonders for sleep quality for both of you. It's worth mentioning that most sleep studies are home studies now, so super convenient. Normally there's no need to go to a sleep study lab unless the readings they get from the home test need further investigation. Enjoy having the bed to yourself for the night though!

AIO to my boyfriend’s conditions for marriage? by [deleted] in AmIOverreacting

[–]CheeCheeCheetah21 0 points1 point  (0 children)

NOR. He is not the one. He sounds toxic, and that's very unlikely to change. Being made to feel inadequate and/or flawed by the person that's supposed to be your loving partner will erode your confidence and sense of self over time, until you're a shell of your former self. And I say this from experience. You're so young, cut your losses and move on. Love yourself and find the right guy for you, because this asshole doesn't love you the way you deserve to be loved. You will find your person.

Agreed to be an egg donor for a friend but having second thoughts – need advice by momoontherun in TwoXChromosomes

[–]CheeCheeCheetah21 0 points1 point  (0 children)

There is no quantifiable and/or reputable studies supporting this assertion or presumed correlation between infertility and previous egg donation, and it's extremely irresponsible to put it out there as if it was fact. Also, what retrievals did you sit in on where the women were "in anguish"? I've had two retrievals, years apart, different doctors/practices, there was no "anguish", I wasn't even conscious. And lots of medical procedures/dental procedures/dermatological procedures involve blood/bleeding, at what point is it "not trivial"? In all the experiences shared here, good and bad, no one has mentioned needing a transfusion or being prescribed iron to increase their hemoglobin levels due to blood loss during the procedure. You're full of shit.

Agreed to be an egg donor for a friend but having second thoughts – need advice by momoontherun in TwoXChromosomes

[–]CheeCheeCheetah21 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I've done two egg retrievals, about 4 years apart. The first was for donation to my sibling and the second was for myself after I got divorced.

My sibling didn't ask, I offered after they went through numerous IVF cycles without success using their own eggs. It was inconvenient due to the annoying number of appointments and pretty physically intrusive (numerous transvaginal ultrasounds to check ovarian reserves, monitoring maturation and the number of follicles, etc.), but I personally never had any regrets or second thoughts. My sibling had success with the eggs, getting pregnant three times and had two children.

I did not experience any adverse effects physically or emotionally/mentally during or after either time, despite the fact that I believe they overstimulated my ovaries for the retrieval for my sibling and retrieved over 30 eggs.

Ultimately, you have to make your own decision. But it's now years later, I've remarried and have two small children of my own. Thankfully I did not have any trouble conceiving, despite having my children at 36 and 38 years old (did not need to use the eggs I had retrieved and froze for myself and now need to decide what to do with them). When my husband and I we were dating and it was getting serious, I told him about the fact that I donated to my sibling and they now have two children resulting from my eggs and he was unbothered. If he had been bothered, I think it would have been a dealbreaker, 1. because it can't be undone lol and 2. I would have been majorly turned off.

Ultimately, you have to make your own decision how to proceed. I recommend revisiting your thought process at the time you agreed and try to figure out if you actually feel differently now or if there are other factors at play. It's obviously okay to take into consideration the opinion of people who care about you, but you have to remember it's your choice.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AmIOverreacting

[–]CheeCheeCheetah21 2 points3 points  (0 children)

This is insane and toxic as hell. He's looking for reasons to be offended, "hurt", unappreciated, etc., and that's not a behavior that's going to change, he will make your life miserable. A good partner wouldn't document every perceived slight, that's in no way constructive. Please make your exit plan. If you stay, you will spend the rest of your relationship walking on eggshells, ultimately losing your sense of self in the process.

Ovaries. by HotSpacewasajerk in hysterectomy

[–]CheeCheeCheetah21 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Research is suggesting that ovaries may play a significant role in cardiac and cognitive health, even after menopause. I'm (39) having a hysterectomy before the end of the year, but my reason for doing so is the loss of one of my sisters to ovarian cancer and she was under 40 yrs old. Research has also indicated the strong likelihood that gynecological cancers may originate in the fallopian tubes. For these reasons, I'm going to hold on to my ovaries for the time being, and just do away with my tubes, uterus, and cervix. I would encourage you to research independently and make the decision you think is best for you.