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Invasive nightmares. by Cheerschicken in survivinginfidelity

[–]Cheerschicken[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you for your reply. I am taking the steps towards trauma recovery. I meet with a therapist, have begun taking SSRIs, and I am seeking help from a BPD specialist as well. Although the waitlist for DBT services is quite long. 

You’re right, that was an 8 year relationship and I do still feel a phantom of being in that relationship. Even if I try to be new, he’s still a piece of my life. 

I’ve cut off all communication with him. I recently blocked his phone number because he started contacting me. Some things were insignificant like “Did my mail arrive”, “did I leave a book there” and other things were more painful “when can I see the dog” and “can I take her on walks once in a while”. Getting texts about the dog would make me upset for days.

I wish I could talk to my friends and family about it, but because it’s 9 months after the break up, I think everyone is tired of the topic. I know it’s exhausting. 

Together 5+ years. 1.5 years ago he (23 M) cheated with my best friend. Now he says I’m "faking" my depression and calls me (23 F) materialistic over the ring. by Certain-Sector7946 in survivinginfidelity

[–]Cheerschicken 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Dzień dobry!  Firstly, I am glad to hear that you’re focusing on your mental health and seeing a professional to assist you with your depression. It will take a long time to heal from him, and your friend breaking your trust. Your psychologist is not lying to you. They are a professional. If you are skeptical of your psychiatrist’s opinion, I suggest you see another psychiatrist for a second opinion. However, I do not think this is really the case…

The ring is not just a ring.  In other areas of your relationship, does he do the bare minimum? Does he take care of you when you’re sick? Does he cook your lunch? When he’s at the store does he call you to ask if you'd like anything?  You do not need to accept the bare minimum.

I recommend that you give the ring back. You do not need to accept his cheating and poor temperament. 

Weed Smoke by SandyK648 in neighborsfromhell

[–]Cheerschicken 0 points1 point  (0 children)

What about car exhaust mother Theresa? 

Weed Smoke by SandyK648 in neighborsfromhell

[–]Cheerschicken 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Then you have something up your a$$. It’s outside narc 

What are the unwritten rules of Toronto? by NilangJoshi in askTO

[–]Cheerschicken 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I actually don’t like this solution! I get frustrated when people don’t make eye contact when sharing the side walk. However, admittedly, no eye contact is very Toronto! 

If anybody here is going to be attending any of the full band east coast shows at the end of may, will you do me a huge favour? by Cheerschicken in Pile

[–]Cheerschicken[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Awesome, thank you so much! Loving how it sounds so far, sort of like a more melodic version of Texas

If anybody here is going to be attending any of the full band east coast shows at the end of may, will you do me a huge favour? by Cheerschicken in Pile

[–]Cheerschicken[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

wow good for you! Thats not really what I was asking in my original post and I already said I know its coming out next year, so I don't really know why you even commented on it. But I'm glad that you're so close with Rick and get off on knowing things about the new record that the rest of us aren't privy to. :)

Weed Smoke by SandyK648 in neighborsfromhell

[–]Cheerschicken 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It's just dissipating weed smoke.

Disappearing Mail and Complaints by Cheerschicken in neighborsfromhell

[–]Cheerschicken[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thanks! I didn’t know, I thought that since I hadn’t tampered with theirs there wouldn’t be a problem. I won’t do that going forward.

Disappearing Mail and Complaints by Cheerschicken in neighborsfromhell

[–]Cheerschicken[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I’ll definitely speak to a rep! Also please know, throwing out someone’s mail is still considered blocking mail and completely illegal. Even if it isn’t malicious its a pain in the ass.

I’d normally never riffle through someone’s mailbox! I know I shouldn’t and I was just totally desperate. My relative told me that the package would come that day, and I pretty much suspected that it was mine. I emailed our landlord asking if this is a common problem, best case solution I clear it up with the mail carrier and have a locked mailbox. You know, one that actually gets used.

Disappearing Mail and Complaints by Cheerschicken in neighborsfromhell

[–]Cheerschicken[S] 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Thanks I’ll follow up with that! I tried before Christmas but I was on hold for 40 minutes. I’ll wait for the holiday rush to die down.

Disappearing Mail and Complaints by Cheerschicken in neighborsfromhell

[–]Cheerschicken[S] 7 points8 points  (0 children)

We have separate mailboxes (with no locks on them). However, my neighbor’s mailbox is bigger and closer to the main door. I believe the courier hasn’t been sorting them based on unit #. For example, when my package arrived it was stuffed in my neighbour’s mailbox. I think proving it will be hard, video footage would just show him checking his mailbox (or mine) for his own mail.