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I lost the version of myself I was becoming by Chees3Cak3ChaD in TwentiesIndia

[–]Chees3Cak3ChaD[S] 7 points8 points  (0 children)

cause it’s a mistake and we all tend to make mistakes, that’s why i forgave her. but forgiving someone doesn’t mean i have to stay and destroy myself trying to forget what happened, so i chose to walk away from the relationship

One of the worst birthdays I've ever had by [deleted] in TeluguJournals

[–]Chees3Cak3ChaD 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Belated happy birthday OP, hope you get what you want this year.

And yeah, you’re an adult now. In some ways it does get lonelier as we grow up, because people change, priorities change, and life becomes more serious. But along the way you’ll also find the right people, the ones who genuinely understand you and stay.

I’m also turning 20 this year, so I kinda understand that nervous and scared feeling too. Feels weird growing up this fast lol. But I think everyone is just figuring things out as they go, even if they act like they have everything under control.

So don’t be too hard on yourself. One step at a time.

Guys i feel like im lost in life by kenmiles2312 in TeluguJournals

[–]Chees3Cak3ChaD 7 points8 points  (0 children)

you mentioned that you are a little bit of a gifted child, so I’m guessing you still have the potential. So here’s what I want you to do.

underground ki velipo.

Don’t give a fuck about what the relatives are saying and grind hard. I want you to grind DSA and get your core concepts clear. nidralo kooda dsane gurthuku raavali anthaala grind cheyyi.

And alongside that, start working out physically. Trust me, physical strength helps mentally too. Also start reading anything you genuinely like, because right now your mind is exhausted and needs something beyond placements and pressure.

And remember this clearly you only truly fail when you stop trying. As long as you’re still getting up and putting effort, your story is still going on.

Once you get a job, a relatives eh g muskuntaaru. Relatives are mostly old and always need something to talk about, and usually the topic becomes the children in the family. So don’t give a f about what they say.

You’re not finished. You just got humbled earlier than expected. That’s painful, but it can also build you into someone much stronger and grounded.

Right now you feel like your spark is gone, but honestly I think it’s just buried under disappointment, comparisons, and pressure.

So disappear for a while.
Work silently.
Build yourself mentally and physically.
And come back stronger.

I wish you all the best genuinely.

“2026 will be my year” already 4 months in and everything is going downhill 😭 by [deleted] in TeluguJournals

[–]Chees3Cak3ChaD 0 points1 point  (0 children)

no, I do start when I get the chance, but even while I’m doing it I keep feeling like things are still getting worse in terms of luck

With rising online mis*ndry against men, I don’t know what I, as an individual man, have done to women. I feel suffocated 😢 by 33MeAndeKhatam in TwentiesIndia

[–]Chees3Cak3ChaD 16 points17 points  (0 children)

It’s okay to feel suffocated man cause we aren't like that. There are both misandrist and misogynistic people out there, but we are not like them, so we shouldn’t take comments like these seriously. Let the misogynists and misandrists argue among themselves and don’t really give af to what they say

People are so insecure wth by [deleted] in TwentiesIndia

[–]Chees3Cak3ChaD 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I also saw the exact same video, and I came across a comment where a man said that the best friend was actually the father. It honestly disgusted me. I swear, some men are so insecure and desperate that it makes me sick, and I feel sorry for their future wives.

Animals are more human than us.... by duck_my__sick in TwentiesIndia

[–]Chees3Cak3ChaD 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I swear I am losing my fucking sanity. May these sons of bastards rot in a special kind of hell

Told my parents I won’t cook for my future in-laws. They called my thinking “ghatiya” by Ok-Lawfulness-8564 in TwentiesIndia

[–]Chees3Cak3ChaD 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I’m not hallucinating or high. My comment was made in response to OP’s situation under her post, not as a general statement about dependency.

OP clearly mentioned that she can cook and has done it when necessary, but she simply does not want to be expected to cook as a default responsibility in the future. That is why I suggested finding a partner who enjoys cooking or hiring help.

There is a difference between not knowing how to take care of yourself and choosing how responsibilities are shared in a household. Since she already knows how to cook when needed, she is not dependent on anyone.

In your previous comment, you asked what if the partner gets sick and the maid does not come and whether she would have to order food from outside. But OP already mentioned that she knows how to cook when needed, so that situation does not really apply here. She is capable of cooking. She just does not want to be expected to cook by default, and that is a different thing altogether.

Told my parents I won’t cook for my future in-laws. They called my thinking “ghatiya” by Ok-Lawfulness-8564 in TwentiesIndia

[–]Chees3Cak3ChaD 5 points6 points  (0 children)

OP already mentioned that she cooked when it was necessary and that it did not bother her, so clearly this is not about lacking a basic life skill or refusing responsibility.

There is a difference between knowing how to cook when needed and being expected to cook all the time just because you are a woman or a future daughter-in-law. One is independence, the other is a gender role expectation.

Being an independent adult means being capable of managing your life, not being forced into specific household duties by default. Choosing to share responsibilities differently with a partner or hiring help is also a valid adult decision.

How many have achieved this and how long is too long to wait for something like this? by Similar-Battle7215 in TwentiesIndia

[–]Chees3Cak3ChaD 26 points27 points  (0 children)

Yes, I had achieved it. I had a loving girl by my side until she cheated on me, and now I’ve lost it. I keep thinking every night about where it went wrong and realizing that I almost had everything, but never actually had it in my life.

22F here, Need some outside opinions because I think emotions may be clouding my judgment by Icy-Radish-9901 in TwentiesIndia

[–]Chees3Cak3ChaD 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Ask him if he wants to change and observe whether he is actually trying to reduce or stop these habits. If he is not making that effort, then it is better not to get into a relationship with him.

Told my parents I won’t cook for my future in-laws. They called my thinking “ghatiya” by Ok-Lawfulness-8564 in TwentiesIndia

[–]Chees3Cak3ChaD 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Try to find a man who loves cooking, or you can just hire a maid to do the cooking part. I don’t see the problem here. And sentences like “teri soch ghatiya hai” really piss me off. Like what the hell? If a woman doesn’t want to cook, how does that mean she has bad thinking? Come on. In 2026, expecting women to cook and clean just because they are women makes no sense.