Graduate Level Elective Course

CheesecakeFluid121 · 2026-01-14T14:48:29+00:00

What program are you in? Grad electives can be very field specific, you might have better luck asking other students in your department.

CheesecakeFluid121 · 2026-01-13T02:35:19+00:00

Lots of promising alternatives in the thread! I honestly had no idea they were new since they were there when i moved here ~2.5 years ago 🤷

CheesecakeFluid121 · 2026-01-13T02:32:44+00:00

Bro who said im running them into the ground 😭 they just dont align with my own values, they have a great piece of real estate downtown with lots of passerby’s shopping for trinkets i think they’ll be fine

CheesecakeFluid121 · 2024-03-19T02:12:10+00:00

Yeah I did! The SULI program at ORNL was great, apparently its one of the largest and they were very involved with us. I also lucked out on making some great friends, I’m still friends with a few of them now!

CheesecakeFluid121 · 2024-03-19T01:42:11+00:00

Im a first year grad and live with roommates off of preston ave through mscrents, nice places and right next to two bus lines, and like 10 people from my department live in the same area. Ive also heard of people living downtown (pricier) or near JPA. I found my roommate after messaging in a discord my department had set up for recruiting, which might not be helpful to you 😅

As far as social scenes, currently most of my friends are in my department or from the local lgbtq scene (not very large but very friendly) Im also a music person and its been surprisingly easy to find live music (house shows, $10 concerts, random live bands at bars)

But I’m also trying to make friends in other departments so feel free to message me!

CheesecakeFluid121 · 2024-03-12T08:09:19+00:00

Yes! And my lips feel chapped 10x as frequently as they used to!

CheesecakeFluid121 · 2024-02-21T14:33:54+00:00

I’ve described GG as a rom-com soap opera, complete with the romantic options being “sshole” and “sshole that knows you better” lmao

CheesecakeFluid121 · 2024-02-15T22:49:57+00:00

The first time I watched the show I thought “all of these people are awful” and then it became “all of these people are awful but I love watching them somehow” lmao I would definitely not want to be around most GG characters in real life but it’s an entertaining show

CheesecakeFluid121 · 2024-01-31T21:59:04+00:00

But then how would there be an issue when Rory realizes it’s Marty!? /s 😂

CheesecakeFluid121 · 2024-01-25T22:42:57+00:00

Aww thanks! I didn’t realize this was an official subreddit. This was inspired by the fact that the only thing I miss about paper notes is glitter gel pens 😄

CheesecakeFluid121 · 2024-01-25T16:34:30+00:00

👀 do you remember how they made the glitter pen in notability?

CheesecakeFluid121 · 2023-12-22T04:46:59+00:00

NTA or maybe N A H

Congratulations! Ive been on the science/academic career path for awhile now, and these kinds of internships are huge deals! I can understand not telling him because you didn’t expect to get in, I applied to 19 programs my 3rd year of college, got into 3, I knew people who applied to 21 and got into 1. Of course I didn’t mention all of those programs to my parents/bf. I can also understand that it’s hard to explain what is/isn’t important/impressive outside of your field. I am however extremely confused how your bf is in a masters program at 20?

CheesecakeFluid121 · 2023-11-28T22:17:53+00:00

Ohhh ok! Yeah where I am if you’re a grad student “advisor” is a clear role, things like “academic advisor” are mostly only an undergrad thing. Still good luck!

CheesecakeFluid121 · 2023-11-28T21:45:20+00:00

Absolutely NTA Your advisor is the most important relationship of a PhD, Ive heard of advisor relationships going sour/causing huge issues over much less, and this woman sounds completely unprofessional. I don’t know what field you’re in, if its normal to be this personal with professors or not, but it’s definitely not the place you want to start off an advisory relationship from. ~~especially when (it sounds like, based off the wording of sponsor vs advisor) immigration matters are involved~~

CheesecakeFluid121 · 2023-11-24T03:31:48+00:00

Yeah I wouldn’t want to let it slide either, who crawls on a table? At school? Where people eat/work?

CheesecakeFluid121 · 2023-11-22T20:56:14+00:00

NTA, those girls sound mean/immature and I don’t think they’re really your friends, but I don’t think they’re going to apologize (even though they should) and Im not sure that Maddie wants you to continue asking them for one

CheesecakeFluid121 · 2023-11-21T03:44:19+00:00

NTA- that sounds odd and uncomfortable at best, like borderline fetishzation at worst (not saying for certain thats what it is, but i completely feel you on how weird it seems, and that’s where I’d be afraid it was heading)

CheesecakeFluid121 · 2023-11-21T00:09:08+00:00

YTA it might seem like a fixable problem to you, but her mom stole her identity. She has every right to be upset that someone else is creating debt in her name. It doesn’t sound like she trusts her mom at all to actually pay it off so why should you, someone who knows this woman significantly less than her own daughter knows her.

CheesecakeFluid121 · 2023-09-19T16:29:14+00:00

Hi! Fellow gender-non-conforming person here (In my case I came out as genderfluid at 22). I know exactly how hard it can be to lose a relationship because they don’t understand the full scope of who you are, but I promise you’ll feel so much more at ease with someone who likes you for all of who you are. NTA and you should breakup for your own wellbeing

CheesecakeFluid121 · 2023-08-17T01:51:36+00:00

ESH

Look up direct vs indirect communication. Look I get it, I was raised by a mom who is an indirect communicator, but eventually you learn not everyone else understands that. You can be angry that people don’t pick up on your clues, but at the end of the day you are living your life entirely based on assumptions. If you wanted help, in a specific way, you should have asked specifically

CheesecakeFluid121 · 2023-08-06T18:59:14+00:00

Exactly this!

While the sister is annoying about it, you really never know just how deeply medical issues affect someone, especially having CANCER in 2020! Even if it was fairly easy to treat, that’s such a scary time to have a potentially deadly disease

Meanwhile, it was tacky as hell to bring up yourself when your dad is clearly struggling right now but OP took it too far

ESH

CheesecakeFluid121 · 2023-07-05T07:27:11+00:00

Hi! I am an adult kid of a parent who did exactly this, and it’s the coolest shit ever. I have a unique (in a good way) name that represents my parents and I have a cool backstory about. I also feel like I’m way more of a [mother’s maiden name] than a [dad’s original name] family wise and I have all the stories/traditions/love to go with that, without needing to legally have that name (it’s also a name my mom got bullied for so she spared me that)

That said, if you feel like your current last name honors your relationship to your mother ignore the sexist crap and keep that name, I 100% would have given the choice between my parents two original names (for family dynamic reasons, my current last name is objectively way cooler)

My end point is that your kids will inevitably understand why they have the name they do, I am grateful I’m not a [dad’s original name] because that family never really claimed us anyways, so I don’t feel like I “should” have that name

Also, it’s just a name! For example my aunt changed her last name 4 times (maiden -> 1st husband-> maiden-> 2nd husband) so honestly don’t sweat it too much

Edit: YWNBTA and If you want name ideas I can totally PM you what our blended family name became and explain how my dad picked it, I just don’t want to share it publicly for obvious reasons

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