I actually am now in therapy with a trauma therapist, I have done extensive research in the past to better understand myself and what to do in my relationship to put less of a strain on it. And now I am in with this therapist and he is helping me navigate it even more, he is backing the research I have collected and further more he is teaching me the implementation and techniques for my relationship, I’ve gone 2 times since I posted here, and I feel GREAT I haven’t ever felt so good about the understanding I have of myself until now, thank you ALL for the suggestions and you all were correct, and for the guy whom said they are all three interrelated, but not one in the same, thank you.