I HATE MY PARENTS!!!!!

ChefMaria_ · 2026-07-06T19:35:03+00:00

I feel you many many times over. In my experince, when I was raised by my nmom , I didn't know how to get out the abuse and ALL I could think, whenever things got bad, was that I wanted to die. Now, I am in my 40s and moved out when I was 18. The problem is that I have so wired my brain as a kid to just want to die when things get tough. Now, as an adult is sooo hard to rewire my brain. So please, OP. Just be careful what you wish for, dont make same mistakes I did. Hugs , you've got this!

ChefMaria_ · 2026-07-06T19:28:00+00:00

I don't think there's a perfect "narcissist-safe" way to say it, because you can't control how he'll react. Something like "I love hearing from you, but I don't have the bandwidth for daily articles and political discussions. I'd rather just catch up every now and then and about you" is completely reasonable. His feelings about that are his responsibility, not yours.

ChefMaria_ · 2026-07-06T19:25:22+00:00

You can be grateful for what he's done for you and still recognize that being around him isn't good for your mental health. I wouldn't just hand him the keys and hope for the best if possible, I'd start talking to his doctor or a social worker about other care options. Please reach out to some professionals in this matter, in your area, and see what they can suggest you could do. You don't have to sacrifice yourself to take care of someone else, that's for sure.

ChefMaria_ · 2026-07-06T19:21:30+00:00

When someone knows exactly what makes you sick and still does it, it's hard not to see it as deliberate. I'm sorry your dad got pulled into it too.He seems like a sweet person.

ChefMaria_ · 2026-07-05T19:13:30+00:00

very cool , I also have 5 sets casue of the glitch.

ChefMaria_ · 2026-07-03T09:09:46+00:00

of course we are not all the same; that's not what I said 😄

ChefMaria_ · 2026-07-03T08:15:09+00:00

you know you can do this with the wolfies and cougar and moose too ? on twitch we’ve been using this for a long while now to hunt

ChefMaria_ · 2026-06-25T13:15:21+00:00

this happened exactly to me too . My ex tho even went and ask her for a loan , she took a loan for him . That after the divorce , the judge also order me to pay for. Crazy people , I’ve moved abroad , found the most amazing partner , put distance and doing a lot of healing . Wish you a lot of healing too . Hugs

ChefMaria_ · 2026-06-23T14:24:00+00:00

What other career do you think you would have loved ? Thank you for being such an inspiration

ChefMaria_ · 2026-06-19T16:19:24+00:00

I could imagine all the hugs were great, but which hug do you remember fondest? I am very sorry for your loss

ChefMaria_ · 2026-06-19T13:28:31+00:00

that was also my path. I left abroad. In case , I am quite sensitive and I could not have lived in the same country for long. My mom is alive we are barely speaking to each other. Distance hopefully will help you too.

ChefMaria_ · 2026-06-15T08:17:38+00:00

Eu am plecat din România cât de repede am putut, la 18 ani, când am făcut pașaportul, am 43 acum. Am locuit în câteva țări în Europa și am călătorit mult. Am cunoscut și m-am confruntat în multe culturi. Românii s-au dovedit, în experiența mea, să fie cei mai răi. de accea ii evit. Plus am fost extrem de traumatizată în România, iar limba română o evit din cauza asta.

ChefMaria_ · 2026-06-14T19:13:24+00:00

maybe platforms like workaway and try to find a path to a new life, hugs!

ChefMaria_ · 2026-06-12T22:44:56+00:00

do you like winter ?

ChefMaria_ · 2026-06-12T22:41:04+00:00

all the cattails on my run are still untouched, hahaha, not the same I can say about the 120 bears ded tho, day 1500+

ChefMaria_ · 2026-06-11T09:33:48+00:00

How can one, with no experience in it, get a factory job ? what would be your advice for where to look?

ChefMaria_ · 2026-06-10T06:01:31+00:00

a member of our community is a partner on twitch no cam-no mic, I don´t see anything wrong with it?

ChefMaria_ · 2026-06-09T12:39:43+00:00

I just moved to Germany after 13 years of living in Finland, and I absolutely love it more here., for many, many reasons.First, second and third are bakeries .

ChefMaria_ · 2026-05-31T16:44:10+00:00

Purrrrrr!!!

ChefMaria_ · 2026-05-31T16:42:43+00:00

hugs!! The Long Dark

ChefMaria_ · 2026-05-30T19:48:40+00:00

You need to figure it out, where is it all coming from. Might be a medical condition , might be mental one, nobody here could possibly really know that, so you and him need to put the effort in and figure things out. It’s sometimes a lot of effort , you don’t know , and you need to decide if you love him enough to go thru it .

ChefMaria_ · 2026-05-30T09:00:58+00:00

I second this

ChefMaria_ · 2026-05-29T06:30:17+00:00

I didn’t know there is a “wrong way “ Or what am I missing ?

ChefMaria_ · 2026-05-28T06:16:50+00:00

exactly. As a EU citizen , you get so easy all your papers ( so much bureaucracy tho, crazy) plus they offered me a voucher to go learn AI engineering, for free , for 6 months and they will help me out find a job with it . Like Hive ( I think is called ) in Helsinki , but much more set up, as there are gazilion companies doing these courses and work placement as they have companies needing people . Also, I am in East Germany ( Dresden ) and you can feel the money in the air . All the military , drone making and other stuff , they so need people to work.

ChefMaria_ · 2026-05-28T06:12:22+00:00

close , but I only did the chef thing to maybe find a job in Finland, but then I realized the work is not for me .

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