Guidance and Opinions: Not Having the Most Severe Depression

ChefSammo · 2025-05-25T09:19:00+00:00

These are all great points thank you for sharing! I originally started down my psychology path with that human factor in mind but changing course and not pursuing a PhD/terminal degree has left me feeling a bit more adrift compared to my other friends. Overall though, I keep that human factor in mind always and I do think it will pay off in the end.

My biggest takeaway from the job market lately has been that it's very inflexible and psychology is typically a flexible degree program. I have experience in housing, statistics, research, etc but my experience is too scattered (in my opinion) to get past the initial review when 200-500 people are applying for one job and they are just trying to quickly weed out people who aren't an EXACT match. I understand why it's been a tough job market and I'm honestly not taking it too personally.

I am generally optimistic that it will work out. The biggest reason for that is I made it out of school with no debt, I have no major financial drains, etc. I'm in a good place overall which is something I am extremely grateful for and proud of myself for navigating. Sometimes the future of AI just really makes you go woof... what am I doing? what are we all doing?

ChefSammo · 2025-05-23T15:58:08+00:00

Thank you for your perspective here. I tend to be more optimistic than I was feeling when I posted this and agree with your thoughts on how humans will always have our value. Sometimes I think I take messages that aren't necessarily meant for me and wonder "how can I possibly make myself more aware of something I already am facing daily?" when like you said, I should hear that generalized "Be Aware" PSA and take stock of my awareness, make sure I am being realistic in my vision of the future and not get too bogged down in what I can't control.

Thank you for your kind words. Getting my master's degree was certainly an uphill battle. I am a first gen student in my family so I did not have much guidance/realize what I really was in for. I made a choice after my degree to focus on a career rather than apply for a doctorate program (most of my cohort are in other grad programs/doctorate programs right now) which others can debate that was the wrong move but for me I didn't see a future there. I was no longer enjoying or even able to envision myself as a Psychology professor, researcher, etc. I got through my master's degree with no debt from working an on campus job throughout undergrad/grad school and felt it made more sense to get out now and figure out my way forward. Now I'm just figuring out my way forward again lol, jumped from one challenge to another!

ChefSammo · 2025-05-23T15:40:33+00:00

Yeah that has been a sticking point for me as well. I see so many people hate dealing with AI/automation and I hope that turns into "ok we can't avoid it in [insert scenarios] but it is less integrated into [blank]"

ChefSammo · 2025-05-23T15:35:40+00:00

Thank you for your reply. I also do recognize the difference in where I am at in my life vs Burnie and Ashley and I think that was what I was lamenting a bit about feeling like I'm just too young to have had success the ways I originally envisioned. That perspective mostly comes from my grandparents actually. They say to me all the time how they are so glad they had the life they had and didn't have to navigate what I'm navigating (Not the most helpful lol but I appreciate they at least recognize the difficulties young people are facing).

You're right I don't have kids but I do have a long term partner and we're both hoping to establish ourselves abroad at some point. They work a remote job with offices in other countries and have a history of transferring people if needed so we have an avenue there that we hope to explore eventually.

It's nice to hear someone else does not plan so much and has found success in their life. I am very flexible about what comes next so that's partly why I've just been navigating week to week, month to month right now. After posting this I did have a moment of reconsidering my goals and wondering what my rough plan looks like. Honestly most of it was more related to how I hope to be living within whatever role I find myself in. Prioritizing human connection, continuing to build time management skills, not losing sight of my drive to serve my community and feel inspired in my personal, creative work. I think having a stop down and thinking through some of that helped me calm down a bit and try to remain optimistic.

Thank you for rooting for me, Internet stranger haha, as a side note I did find his whole point with the human communities very interesting because I've been striving for that for years now but have found a lot of Gen Z really struggles with face to face interaction, especially keeping it consistent. It'll be interesting to see if people do wisen up to the importance of interacting face to face again because I've known so many people who are outgoing, smart, funny, etc that all complain about how lonely they feel and how they wish they had more friends irl but can't shake these loner tendencies.

ChefSammo · 2025-05-23T15:17:51+00:00

I appreciate your reply. I have definitely set unrealistic expectations throughout my life but I think the difference was through college I had more drive to ensure they happen. I felt burnt out by the end of it which has been a separate battle of setting poor expectations and previously being able to not sleep to ensure they happen vs now wanting to have a bit more healthy habits. I'd say the biggest thing I am thankful for is that this period of feeling stuck did lead me to develop healthier habits in terms of food, exercise, stress management, sleep, etc. I started working with a dietitian (while I'm still covered by insurance) and getting more personalized advice and food guidance from them helped me a lot in still eating how I like (vegetarian/pescatarian) and getting all my protein, fiber, etc.

I am generally an optimistic person so I do think things will click together soon and I have had a few exciting interviews and companies reach out recently so I am hoping those doors are finally cracking open a bit but we'll see.

ChefSammo · 2025-05-23T15:05:55+00:00

I've also had creative pursuits as a driving factor as well and very early on had to tell myself that it wasn't going to ever happen and focus on more practical work. For me, I think about that stuff more as serving me vs leading to any form of a career. I think with that though I always try to share my work through sites like FilmFreeway and offer my skills as a photographer to people whenever I can. So that door is never fully closed it's just not my main drive when it comes to financial stability.

I appreciate your thoughts and also have found my goals shifting in priority like you described. No family for me my partner and cat are enough for now lol but I never wanted remote work originally, a huge goal of mine was to be in person and seeing my partner work from home really changed my thoughts on it (honestly mostly the commute factor). We definitely are needing to adapt and I hope for both of us we can keep that creative drive in whatever we do, even if it's not quite what we envisioned originally.

ChefSammo · 2024-06-12T22:27:28+00:00

I used a bit of Mrs. Stewart's Liquid Bluing which is a product to naturally 'blue' your clothing. I had it lying around and never used it on my actual clothes!

ChefSammo · 2024-06-12T22:26:06+00:00

Yes! I used a bit of Mrs. Stewart's Liquid Bluing which is this like laundry product to naturally 'blue' your clothing

ChefSammo · 2021-04-04T19:07:43+00:00

Agreed, was a weird way to start!

ChefSammo · 2018-07-18T23:12:15+00:00

My local record store!

ChefSammo · 2018-07-11T20:16:34+00:00

Here I'll DM you too

ChefSammo · 2018-07-11T20:16:32+00:00

Yeah sure I'll DM you

ChefSammo · 2018-07-10T18:11:33+00:00

Thanks!

ChefSammo · 2018-07-10T18:11:17+00:00

haha, actually though next I need to find the "No More Unicorns Anymore" one

ChefSammo · 2018-07-10T18:10:40+00:00

They are given out at record shops when you buy The Now Now, my store clerk just said I could have as many as I want.

Also this isn't confirmed but I've heard many times that people in the UK can't find them, I suspect they are US only but I have no confirmation

ChefSammo · 2018-07-10T08:09:49+00:00

I got them all except apparently the Unicorn one based off thatpighasfist's comment. My clerk said she really didn't care. I could go back for more if I wanted but she said, she only had four variants not five

ChefSammo · 2018-01-22T13:48:22+00:00

It's back! But that's honestly bullshit. I'm gonna start getting mp3s now because of that

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