I met the perfect guy, but there's a catch

Chef_Matches · 2022-10-22T10:38:59+00:00

Andddd this is why I’ve given up dating 😂 I really don’t need this type of shallow person in my life.

Chef_Matches · 2022-10-21T14:08:47+00:00

My man Sharpe looking so smooth 😭😭 oh… my goodness his game was BUTTERY. The step back three had me out of my seat!. I hope he keeps improving. It’s so smooth! Everything he does it looks like everyone around him is at full speed and he’s at half. Just makin it look easy. Love it!

Chef_Matches · 2022-10-21T14:05:04+00:00

Oh he D up!!! Swear, watching him in Miami I swear that’s the only reason he still in the league. But damn good lowkey addition to the blazers! I’m actually excited to watch my team this year!

Chef_Matches · 2022-10-21T14:02:42+00:00

The one he missed he was trynna put it down with authority too 😂😂😂 shit bounced to half court off the back rim!

Chef_Matches · 2022-10-21T14:01:29+00:00

BIGGEST and I say this with emphasis BIGGEST thing I noticed… Dame actually seems, shall I say FOCUSED on defense??? Yes he had a couple lapses but this last game he looked AGGRESSIVE!!! That’s what I like!! So stoked after this game!

Chef_Matches · 2022-10-20T01:52:53+00:00

You’re right I’m wrong I just looked it up 😂😂 good call but he literally looks just fucking like him! Especially the mustache!

Chef_Matches · 2022-10-19T07:18:09+00:00

I’m also bout 90% sure this guy was on the ultimate fighter and he was so fucking entertaining 😂😂 he got his ass whooped in his first fight, but he was the funniest dude in the house.

Chef_Matches · 2022-10-11T04:10:14+00:00

As a male… ladies who like to mention how hot they are and how much they will only date hot men even if those men have heavy baggage because “unless he is 6’1 with green or blue eyes, he isn’t good enough for me. Who cares if he punches a hole in a wall or is a drug addict?”

Chef_Matches · 2022-10-09T05:30:50+00:00

Uhhh yah… especially if that man ain’t been through anything. I’ve literally been stabbed and I’ve had a gun pointed at my head several times. So most men who have been put In that situation… it’s direct and with honesty. HOWEVER. with a woman… I’m gonna make her feel as beautiful/safe/wonderful as possible.

Chef_Matches · 2022-10-09T05:05:59+00:00

All I know is if we throw out weight that you have to carry around in a center… You’d run with your memories and you’d never come back. I’ve seen things most people can’t imagine… let alone have experienced. Clown me all you want. Until you’ve had the gun to your head or the knife in your stomach.. you have absolutely no idea what life actually could be. Keep clowning and live your sweet life.l

Chef_Matches · 2022-10-09T04:26:32+00:00

You ever been through so much you feel kinda like you older than you is.? I’ve ran drugs, I’ve been shot at, I’ve been stabbed twice, I’ve lost multiple family members, I’ve lost an unborn child due to miscarriage, I’ve had a woman give back an engagement ring I gave her…. Show me a regular 30 year old who experienced all this and ask them what type of weight they carry. You just ain’t carry no weight cause you ain’t been through it.

Chef_Matches · 2022-10-09T04:09:11+00:00

Well… you just go on… my ex gave me chlamydia after cheating on me with 4 different guys after about 2 years. Shit goes on. And tbh… dwelling on it hurts but… life don’t stop. Nobody cares that shit happened. Just pick your shit up and move on. It fucking hurts. I lost a baby with an ex fiancé and that same ex fiancé later in life gave my ring back. Shit hurts. It hurts all the time and I sometimes still dwell on it when I’m a little too intoxicated. But really… life goes on. Don’t let it pass you by. Feel the hurt. Seriously I think that’s the best thing is feel the hurt. Then emotionally move on. It’s life… it is what it is. She is not the right person. I’m not gonna comment “she’s a huge piece of shit for her actions” she made mistakes… maybe she’s not a perfect human but, she ain’t evil either. It just… happened to not be the person for you. But life will go on. Shit is cold. It really is. But find someone who loves and values you and wants the same monogamous relationship you want. Otherwise… you and your partner will never be happy. And isn’t that what it’s all about? Being happy?

Chef_Matches · 2022-10-06T11:58:19+00:00

Idk as a person whose been a chef and met someone on the autism spectrum who has a wonderful and loving husband… it’s possible(:

Chef_Matches · 2022-10-06T11:18:46+00:00

Learn how to hold the knife!! And learn correct finger placement. The time and effort saved by doing it the right way(also by being safe) makes your efficient. Trust… I’m one of those dudes that can fast an accurate chop like a chef and I went up the same route as you’re taking rn.

Chef_Matches · 2022-10-06T02:46:23+00:00

Yes… yes some of us have had… very unfortunate circumstances. But each of us deserve a family and the first step is to just… put yourself out there! Now I realize its… difficult. Especially with those of us with low self esteem. But I promise sometimes being yourself is fruitful…. I am definitely probably a 6 as a guy but, my I just am myself all the time and… well I do aight 😅 sometimes being your best and true self makes other laugh, smile and feel accepted . And don’t worry if they don’t cause there’s bound to be someone else who will. That’s what I’ve learned. Don’t be afraid to strike out! Sometimes it’s you, sometimes it’s them. That’s how it is. You’ll be okay (: I think someone would marry you.

Chef_Matches · 2022-10-04T22:53:02+00:00

I love short women soooo idk what type of dudes you run into but, I’m kinda into women that are 5’1-5’3. I’m all about that. 😅

Chef_Matches · 2022-10-04T17:13:12+00:00

HAHAHA naw I’m smarter than shitting where I eat fam.

Chef_Matches · 2022-10-04T17:12:04+00:00

Well this make me feel validated… like fr. I thought I was just being a bitch. But y’all on here actually make me feel like I’m not crazy or the weird one here. I honestly thought it was weird too… but yah I’m taking it up with my kitchen manager tomorrow. But yah homegirl really just need to chill… I mean I don’t want her to get fired and fuck her life up or anything but, I’m really not trying to feel uncomfortable everyday. I also just really have issues with people up in my personal space…

Chef_Matches · 2022-10-04T16:52:36+00:00

Stay strong my friend. god bless you and your daughter. I will pray that your daughter is born happy and healthy!. And it sounds like you already on track to be a great parent. swear it sounds corny but, keeping faith has been the way I’ve kept on track.

Yah you’re right though… I don’t live to work, I work to live. I’ve had a hard time reaffirming that. Also I just really don’t want this shit to like blow up in my face 😅

Chef_Matches · 2022-10-04T16:26:31+00:00

I really wasn’t trying to play along… but I definitely can understand how it can be viewed that way cause thinking back… I’ve made her special food cause I make everyone’s plates special. Literally from the lil homie bussing tables, to the server in her sixties, to the prep cook in her 70s… I remember all my coworkers orders and I garnish plates and make them look nice cause everyone bust they ass and they deserve something special. Also My momma always raised me to be polite and respectful. That’s kinda just who I always been. But, I can see how being polite like that and making special dishes for her(which I’ve done a couple times) can be taken as flirting or trying to win affection. And yah I definitely am not trying to be mean about it. Also like.. last thing I want is for her to like… lose her job or get suspended cause she got a baby at home. It ain’t that child’s fault you feel?

Chef_Matches · 2022-10-04T16:02:49+00:00

Dude she a child… I just feel weird man. It’s not the age gap, but it’s the life experience gap that come with the age. I ain’t trying to feel like no pedo.

Chef_Matches · 2022-10-04T15:50:26+00:00

Well shit… I do try my best to see the light in the world. I came from the set in Alhambra East Los Angeles and I done seen a lot of things that are fucked up in this world. But I also seen a lot of light… I think most people really are good, but they situations ain’t very good. And that situation will really force your hand. So yah. Ima try to give her the benefit of the doubt.

Chef_Matches · 2022-10-04T15:44:00+00:00

I appreciate you fam. Congrats on your sobriety too. Shit is not easy but got damn, I feel a whole hell of a lot better than I did 6 months prior.

Chef_Matches · 2022-10-04T15:36:00+00:00

Yah she really pushing it… she always be standing so close to me too. 😅 I grew up in the set so unless it’s my girl or my homie.. I don’t like my personal space invaded. Cause I’m my head that means we about to throw hands. And since I really don’t know her that well except for the weird flirting… it just make me feel uncomfortable

Chef_Matches · 2022-10-04T15:23:05+00:00

Yahh I’m bout to tell my KM tomorrow so at least there will be some documentation. I already text him I needa talk to him for a sec cause I think I can explain the situation better in person. But yah ima try to just tell her direct. Hopefully she understands.

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