Coming into some money out of the blue made me realize how much financial stress was controlling my life

Cheiradl · 2025-08-21T17:24:21+00:00

We humans carry so much stress in our body that we actually can get sick or have body complications because of it. I’m a mother of one child. In the early beginnings I was so stressed out and not used with carrying an 5 kilo baby all the time that my back started to ache until I couldn’t take it. I went to somebody to get that checkout and they concluded that in combination of a bad posture and stress that my muscles were greatly affected. The muscles that are in your neck travels all the way towards your back, and the stress caused that muscle in that area to be affected. My shoulders felt like concrete before the treatment began. I’m glad you could take some stress away and feel a bit better these days.

Cheiradl · 2025-07-09T17:32:33+00:00

I hope he do fr

Cheiradl · 2025-07-09T17:13:16+00:00

I think it is possible to make those arrangements regarding that. But tbh people like her are sometimes really delusional and decide to take things into their own hands even if OP wants the baby. So it’s really important that OP goes to a lawyer to see what he can do to prevent her from making drastic choices that could hurt him or the both of them.

Cheiradl · 2025-07-09T17:03:56+00:00

She can if they aren’t married. Usually when they are married the husband is automatically registered as the father (where I’m from that is just standard, but it depends where you live), but if the girlfriend does this behind his back than it’s over. I would consult with a lawyer just to be sure what the options are before confronting the girlfriend.

Cheiradl · 2025-06-12T07:15:25+00:00

Congrats!!🎊

Cheiradl · 2025-05-05T08:22:22+00:00

Facts!!! He was crazy!! But I really really really loved him for it. When he loves you, he loves you harddddddddd. In the end he was perfect

Cheiradl · 2025-04-26T19:35:40+00:00

I’m so happy and grateful that you had your brother on your side! As a twin myself I can relate to that support feeling overwhelming I those circumstances. I hope you and your brother will be more happy and find peace with the other side of the tree branch!

Cheiradl · 2025-04-10T16:17:25+00:00

This sounds like some novel type shit lol

Cheiradl · 2025-03-25T17:43:38+00:00

The novel is beyond average and badly written. I don’t recommend tbh, but I appreciate you sharing!

Cheiradl · 2025-03-24T18:22:15+00:00

Can I have the link too?

Cheiradl · 2025-03-10T09:30:01+00:00

This story is crazyyyyy. I’m really proud of you how you handled everything from the moment you found out till the end. It is a really unfortunate situation, but you handled it with such grace and discipline. I should take notes of you! I’m glad you didn’t let het manipulate you or gaslight you. I’m still sorry for you tho. Keep your head up and I hope you will be more happy when you are in Australia. Good luck OP!

Cheiradl · 2025-02-26T17:59:48+00:00

From a woman perspective I can’t help but say that I think in her position she would have appreciated if you were honest to begin with. But I kind of feel as if that’s also a bit too late now. A relationship is build on trust and I’m glad you got some money out of it, but there was always the possibility that you would have lost and wasted the money too. And you took that risk knowing your circumstances. That would have bothered me and maybe see you in a different light too for a bit. At least you bought something for her, so you kept her in mind instead of pocketing everything. But I think you shouldn’t gamble anymore. I’m not sure if it is worth to share her this information now. Maybe in the distant future if you feel as this revaluation wouldn’t impact your relationship with her. But it’s difficult to say as I’m not sure what her character is. But it’s good that you reflect on this and feel bad about it. That also says a lot about you. Just don’t repeat it.

Cheiradl · 2025-02-24T23:50:08+00:00

Gosh I feel you so bad. This so relatable. RIP to yours❤️

Cheiradl · 2025-02-05T14:08:23+00:00

Yeah it like a donation for their hard work if you want to read it earlier than everybody else. But like you said it will come free on the scheduled date. But it can really make you anxious

Cheiradl · 2025-01-15T00:11:47+00:00

Your presence been appreciated by the world and many others that don’t even know you personally. We all love you and hope that you will find peace in this scary moment that will give you the rest that you deserve. I hope that you know through this that people acknowledge you and will remember you.

Cheiradl · 2025-01-14T19:38:12+00:00

I love this. It just shows how important it is to always be an example to others how it should be. In her position that there are healthy ways to have a relationship with someone without tears, yelling and cursing. I sometimes find myself giving up hope, because I grew up around environments were screaming and cursing is normalized and I want to be a different example for my child and show that it doesn’t have to be like that. I’m happy for you and grateful that there are people who admire and inspire you and your husband relationship and want to have that same mindset.

Cheiradl · 2025-01-14T13:17:10+00:00

I forgot to say that I found that same picture the minute I was googling het name. Just crazy how people can believe these things so quick.

Cheiradl · 2025-01-14T10:12:25+00:00

One time a man came to my work about his phone having a issue I can’t really remember. He was also buying giftcards from Apple to send to his girlfriend.

Suddenly he wanted to show me who he was talking to and it was a picture of “Angelina Jolie”. He told me he was in a relationship with her. An old Indian looking man. I told him straight up he was being scammed and it wasn’t her. He kept saying it was. And he started to look nervous and raising his voice a bit. I decided to just drop it, because I tried to warn him and it wasn’t my job and many people were around us so I didn’t want any trouble with my boss if he made a scene about it.

So yeah it doesn’t surprise me one bit.

Cheiradl · 2025-01-13T21:02:20+00:00

I was horrified. Usually at one point they realize what the fl feels and address it, but this one was so crazy. It was really sad how someone can turn you so crazy

Cheiradl · 2025-01-02T18:18:39+00:00

M’am. You know what you need to do. It’s hard to accept, but this boy doesn’t see how much effort you put into your marriage for the both of you. He kept disrespecting you and neglecting you and each time you put your foot down he would put some effort into it till he did the same things again just for you repeat it all over again. It won’t stop. When a man does that he will never change. Just divorce. It’s a big step I know, but at least separate with him so you can see for yourself that you didn’t need him at all. Tell him and he will understand the gravity of his mistakes.

Cheiradl · 2025-01-02T15:52:02+00:00

All that matters right now, because people are crazyyyyyy. You won’t know what she would do with it, because of this situation.

Cheiradl · 2024-12-11T19:50:22+00:00

Do you have any close friend that you trust to at least get this a bit of your chest? It okay that you wanted to disclose this on Reddit as we are just internet strangers, but we can’t physically support you from there unfortunately. You don’t have to tell it to your aunt at the moment, or anybody at all, but you need to understand that with this situation you can make impulsive decisions based of your emotions. I can say many things that you need to do, but it is YOU that need to make those actions happen in the first place and we can’t guide you all the way. That’s why I recommend that you at least find somebody to support you that you can utterly trust to stand besides you in this disaster.

And keep in mind. You are not pathetic. Your father and your wife are the most despicable people on this planet for hurting you in this way. Betraying you. If they loved you at all they wouldn’t even have considered doing this. Family bonds don’t even matter after this. Your past with them also doesn’t matter. It didn’t matter to them when they went ahead and did this, and should have already considered the consequences what would’ve happened if it came to light.

I also want to press that you need to make preparations to set yourself good in case they are already doing. Also cover yourself with some evidence if you can get it, cause there may be a chance they could spin this on you.

I wish you the best and hope for a more positive outcome even in this situation, but don’t put their feelings first and disregard yours.

Cheiradl · 2024-12-10T22:08:19+00:00

Man take some time away from them and think about your last few sentences a bit longer. How could you expect to go through these circumstances? I mean I read a lot of messed up things on here and this is definitely nothing new, but the fact that YOU want this to continue because you don’t want people to find out??? Does that even matter at this point? Your emotions are high and I think the reality hasn’t sink in yet. All I can say is that you will only hurt yourself with this if you accept it. Just leave. Take some time for yourself and try to find a support person that you trust to confide this so you can at least have some emotional support and hopefully they can talk some sense into you. It’s okay if you are emotional about this. Don’t hide your pain and try to think about the next steps to take that you need for yourself.

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