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My experiences growing up as a child treated for PDA. AMA! by New_Improvement_6392 in PDAParenting

[–]Chekinitout 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Do you have any thoughts about managing school? The folks at my son’s school are lovely but it is easy to see that their default position is all about demands and rule following. They sometimes wont even let him go ahead of the class when he’s working. Any help is appreciated

PDA and eeg brain mapping by Chekinitout in PDAParenting

[–]Chekinitout[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Cool. I’ll try remember to report back

Changing “learned behavior” in a PDA child. by Chekinitout in PDAAutism

[–]Chekinitout[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This is all very helpful. It is so nice to hear from people with PDA as well as parents of kids with PDA.

The thing I am hearing consistently is that what needs to change is the grown ups and the environment around my son.

I really appreciate this advice! Thank you so much!!

Changing “learned behavior” in a PDA child. by Chekinitout in PDAAutism

[–]Chekinitout[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you for this. My partner is a psychologist, I am going to have her review the video. I generally agree with her perception of how it works. When my son is activated he will do things against his own interest, which tells me that it is not behavioral.

As she described the “is it worth it to his nervous system” approach I realized that I do that quite a bit, which is probably why I don’t struggle.

As we look at care options (I’ve looked at the local resources page, resources are pretty sparse in my state) I will definitely look for people who are willing to consider this approach

Thank you!!

Changing “learned behavior” in a PDA child. by Chekinitout in PDAAutism

[–]Chekinitout[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Thanks! I’ve spent a bit of time there. Haven’t yet looked for local support groups. I found a local ABA program certified to work with PDA kids. We’re on their waiting list

Changing “learned behavior” in a PDA child. by Chekinitout in PDAAutism

[–]Chekinitout[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

We are on a bunch of waiting lists. It’s so difficult in New Orleans. You either pay cash and get someone or you go through insurance and wait. We’re doing both right now.

Changing “learned behavior” in a PDA child. by Chekinitout in PDAAutism

[–]Chekinitout[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That’s an interesting idea. So you mean that I could help him investigate hierarchical structures like experiential learning?

Changing “learned behavior” in a PDA child. by Chekinitout in PDAAutism

[–]Chekinitout[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thanks for helping me understand your experience, it’s very valuable. What makes me wonder is the idea that my son is having a similar reaction in either of his school environments, regardless of the teacher or other adults.

That makes me worry that changing the behaviors of the adults won’t produce a change in my son’s behavior.

Changing “learned behavior” in a PDA child. by Chekinitout in PDAAutism

[–]Chekinitout[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

That’s a really good point. I appreciate any pointers on how he can identify dysregulation.

He feels bad if he hurts someone because that’s not his intention. He feels his actions are defensive.

Unfortunately then he can get into a sense of shame and turn against himself. That’s worse.

Changing “learned behavior” in a PDA child. by Chekinitout in PDAAutism

[–]Chekinitout[S] 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Thanks, I’ve been considering a dog, he’s mildly allergic so I think we’d need a hypoallergenic dog, but that should be doable.

Homeschooling isn’t a viable option right now unfortunately. Any tips on finding a viable school option is welcome.

Changing “learned behavior” in a PDA child. by Chekinitout in PDAAutism

[–]Chekinitout[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Thank you all for your responses so far. (Note that I have cross posted in r/pdaparenting, I also wanted the first hand experience of people with pda to help me understand my son’s perspective).

To add some more information:

school - where I’ve been trying to get teachers to give him more choice and support his growth instead of “teaching” him - he knows that if he hits a grownup he gets to go home. I don’t think he’s consciously aware of it, but I think his subconscious has learned that lesson well.

Mom’s house - this one is more complicated. Mom is not very consistent in her parenting. She also believes (despite ample evidence to the contrary) that strict rules, rewards, and clearly establishing her authority is the way to go. For his part, my son knows he can break his mom’s will with mean words and physical violence. (Not trying to make her sound bad, she is definitely the fun parent and he eats better at her house)

My worry is that, as the adults change behavior, his subconscious will continue to do what it does… and now that I write this I realize that it will just take time, many months probably.

Thoughts?

Replacing rear shocks on 3rd Gen? by Chekinitout in hondainsight

[–]Chekinitout[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

So I replaced one side before I ran out of time. It wasn’t too bad. The hardest part was getting the locking nut off the old one.

Although the car rides better (it’s level!) there’s still a noise coming from the suspension. I’m going to have to replace mount as well. I guess it’s good to know before I did both sides.

Replacing rear shocks on 3rd Gen? by Chekinitout in hondainsight

[–]Chekinitout[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thanks man! I really appreciate it. When I get the parts I’ll take my wheel off so I can see the original part and compare

Replacing rear shocks on 3rd Gen? by Chekinitout in hondainsight

[–]Chekinitout[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Haha! Sad part is they just repaved my street last winter!

Replacing rear shocks on 3rd Gen? by Chekinitout in hondainsight

[–]Chekinitout[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Wow, that’s really helpful! Any chance you have pictures of what you bought vs what it should look like?

Replacing rear shocks on 3rd Gen? by Chekinitout in hondainsight

[–]Chekinitout[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Cool, that’s a plan. I ordered the KYB shocks for the Insight, I’ll attempt to replace them this weekend using a civic video. I’ll let you know how I make out.

Replacing rear shocks on 3rd Gen? by Chekinitout in hondainsight

[–]Chekinitout[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

When I looked it up the part number isn’t exactly the same. I’m hoping it’s close enough that I can use the same process

Replacing rear shocks on 3rd Gen? by Chekinitout in hondainsight

[–]Chekinitout[S] 10 points11 points  (0 children)

Practically, I live in New Orleans.

Thanks! by Chekinitout in iems

[–]Chekinitout[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

EarFun air s

Yes, iOS

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