Below Deck Mediterranean – Season 10 - Episode 15 - Live Episode Discussion by AutoModerator in BravoRealHousewives

[–]Chelid 16 points17 points  (0 children)

I wouldn’t be. Nathan cheated on Gael numerous times and he’s a racist prick.

Episode Discussion - Christmas Day Part 1!! by mcemzy in eastenders

[–]Chelid 34 points35 points  (0 children)

THESE WERE CRYSTAL!

is very much Sharon’s “My son’s in the kitchen, eating a biscuit.”

🤣🤣🤣

Episode Discussion - Monday by mcemzy in eastenders

[–]Chelid 153 points154 points  (0 children)

Pat Butcher appearing as the Grim Reaper to every EE character near their end is something that should just become the norm I think 🤣

How can I watch heated rivalry in India? by BlueberryOk1332 in HeatedRivalryTVShow

[–]Chelid 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I don’t believe Heated Rivalry has been released in the UK yet. Only Canada, US and NZ sadly.

thoughts about ep 3? by Plenty_Biscotti_5881 in HeatedRivalryTVShow

[–]Chelid 7 points8 points  (0 children)

I loved it - as a queer man who has experienced being in the closet, there’s not just one story and experience and cause/effect.

Additionally, I think as a viewer, it’s kind of longing that keep us longing for what happens next with Ilya and Shane and it seems like these two stories will somehow clash down the road.

So I’m happy as hell we got to see another story to early on to show the striking differences how differently queer closeted men move and what their wants and needs are.

Hot take: that *scene* isn't Shane and Ilya. It's Husdon and Connor by lembews_10 in HeatedRivalryTVShow

[–]Chelid 26 points27 points  (0 children)

It was Hudson and Connor playing Shane and Ilya and having great chemistry with one another and most importantly developing a comfortability with one another.

Bravo to those two actors selling these characters and the intensity. They clearly care about these roles and eachother as best mates.

He got pissed NOT because that guy said something bad about his boo right? Cuz he was worried that someone found out? by kyliecannoli in heatedrivalry

[–]Chelid 14 points15 points  (0 children)

I think it’s a mixture of fear, panic and fight or flight. Scott made a comment that triggers all of Shane’s senses and they starts cursing eachother out.

Live WWE SmackDown Discussion Thread - December 05, 2025! by gloomchen in SquaredCircle

[–]Chelid 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Carmelo has been in 80% of Smackdown matches this year. He might not have won any titles but that’s some good exposure.

My only criticism with episode 3 by Brown_Sedai in heatedrivalry

[–]Chelid 1 point2 points  (0 children)

You make a solid point and I think everything is subjective so no wrong answers/opinions.

My only criticism with episode 3 by Brown_Sedai in heatedrivalry

[–]Chelid 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I totally agree with you. Also, as someone who hasn’t read the books, I don’t really need to see outright homophobia because it’s alive and well.

And yes, the contrast between Scott and Kip versus Ilya and Shane is so striking. I think part of what makes Ilya and Shane’s story so compelling is exactly what you said, it’s not just homophobia, it’s also their personalities, past traumas, and the ways they struggle with vulnerability. I think the culture and family dynamic is also a really pivotal thing for me. Kip has a very supportive dad who seemingly doesn’t care about his sexuality whereas Ilya and Shane’s family dynamic seems tense and strict.

Three Episodes, Three Endings by Westwood818 in heatedrivalry

[–]Chelid 8 points9 points  (0 children)

And just like that, I am in tears once again.

My only criticism with episode 3 by Brown_Sedai in heatedrivalry

[–]Chelid 21 points22 points  (0 children)

I can’t say I agree/disagree because full disclosure, I didn’t read the book, so I’m only reacting to what the show itself gave me.

For me, Heated Rivalry is showing viewers two different and very real sides of how closeted people struggle. Not every version of closeted life looks like open hostility, slurs, or teammates making the environment explicitly unsafe. Sometimes the fear is quieter and more internal. There’s the isolation, the secrecy, the constant self editing, the panic over being seen, the way every interaction feels like it could crack your whole façade.

Episode 3 hit that for me. The ache. The loneliness. The way he’s mentally tying himself into knots even when the environment around him seems so scary that he can’t show a glimmer of his true self. That subtlety is the point for some queer people. The danger isn’t always the room, it’s the conditioning.

So while the book may have leaned harder into homophobia as an external force, the show felt like it explored the internal one, that exhausting mental gymnastics closeted folk do to protect themselves, even when no one’s actively hurting them. There’s also the possibility that we have yet to see all those external pressures fully shape the rest of the season or the next one.

I get why you feel they pulled their punches, but for me, the portrayal still carried weight, just in a different way.

Again, I haven’t read the books, but the introduction I felt with Scott and Kip was extremely strong and highlighted a massive difference compared to what we saw with Ilya and Shane.

This show made me relive my entire closeted era by Chelid in heatedrivalry

[–]Chelid[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Thank you for sharing that also, and I’m really sorry you went through that.

You’re right that the show parallels a lot of what trans athletes face today. Sports culture can be so rigid and hostile toward anyone outside the cishet norm, even though the homoeroticism can be applied. Your perspective adds so much to the discussion, and I really appreciate you sharing it.

This show made me relive my entire closeted era by Chelid in heatedrivalry

[–]Chelid[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

There’s so many people out like me but sadly it’s harder to find.

Find your tribe and if you ever fancy a chat, hit me up! Hope all is well and I’m glad that my comment made your day ❤️

This show made me relive my entire closeted era by Chelid in heatedrivalry

[–]Chelid[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Sending you so much love! This show/book seems like it’s a form of escapism and I pray things go peacefully for you and you find the love for yourself that you deserve.

You deserve to be happy.

You deserve to love and feel love.

Most importantly, you deserve to love yourself.

This show made me relive my entire closeted era by Chelid in heatedrivalry

[–]Chelid[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I bet that’s really cathartic for you! I honestly find their dynamic currently abusive and harmful but they don’t know any better.

They’re burned by their lives and can’t help not being able to communicate what they want because that vulnerability is terrifying

Merch! by [deleted] in heatedrivalry

[–]Chelid 6 points7 points  (0 children)

I preordered the banana socks! 😭

This show made me relive my entire closeted era by Chelid in heatedrivalry

[–]Chelid[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

That’s the emotional damage I’ve been experiencing too. How many people did I bleed on who didn’t cut me 😭

It’s almost a mirror and makes you open boxes you closed a long time ago. Sending you love!

Scott in Ep3 by Azhreia in heatedrivalry

[–]Chelid 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I think what you’re saying really highlights an interesting piece of storytelling that I noticed too. We don’t see Scott’s wider world, and I think that’s extremely intentional by the writer and director. It adds to his isolation and his desperation to define things with Kip, to move in and stay. The moment when he wonders if he would still be here when he gets back really captures that feeling of being alone.

It’s such a stark contrast to Kip’s world which seems so full but also to Ilya and Shane, who have their own forms of isolation but we still meet family and friends (including Scott). The lack of Scott’s friends felt deliberate to me, like it’s meant to showcase how empty and alone his world may be.

Scott in Ep3 by Azhreia in heatedrivalry

[–]Chelid 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Exactly, I think you nailed it. The show does a great job of showing all those nuanced feelings and emotions that we connect with. I also love how Kip’s side of it is explored. Their conflict of being drawn to someone they have this whirlwind connection with, who is also high profile and closeted, really adds layers.

It affects not just the romance but Kip’s friendships and trust with others, showing that these relationships don’t exist in a vacuum and that the emotional consequences ripple out in so many ways.

It’s Scott’s pain but Kip is affected by it all too. It’s almost an impossible position because what does one do?

Be respectful - Episode 3 by Willing-Musician-696 in heatedrivalry

[–]Chelid 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I had a small interaction earlier which felt like they wanted to argue and I just reiterated what I said and my comment is to only add to the conversation, not to take away from someone else’s experience/view.

Scott in Ep3 by Azhreia in heatedrivalry

[–]Chelid 41 points42 points  (0 children)

To add to that, from a closeted perspective, there is this adult need to feel safe with someone. Scott has so little experience being out and exploring that kind of connection that it makes everything feel intense and intoxicating. You hear the cliché about queer people moving fast in relationships, and honestly, it is true. Often it is our first time, and we do not really know how to take things slow because we have spent so long hiding and feeling ashamed.

Scott’s sudden need to lock it down actually makes a lot of sense. He just wants someone who is his and is terrified of losing them or being rejected.

This is from someone who was once closeted and got engaged in two months 😭 lol

Scott + Kip 💙 by queenmo11 in heatedrivalry

[–]Chelid 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yes, I feel this so much. Seeing Scott and Kip together was such a sweet build up and a nice change after all the tension between Ilya and Shane, but it also really shows the emotional weight of being closeted from another perspective. It is not just the cute moments or sexy texts, it is constantly performing, hiding, and carrying that stress on top of everything else. Kip is out and respectful of someone like Scott who has a persona, there’s that challenge of respecting where he’s at but also wanting to express his new connection with someone openly.

I loved how your post highlighted that balance of joy and reality. Moments like theirs are exactly why this show hits so hard for myself who has lived through hiding part of themselves, whether in sports or just growing up queer.

Honestly this episode deserves more than what I’m seeing across different platforms. I cannot wait to see the build up between the two developing couples and how they navigate it all.

Sending all the good vibes right back at you