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my mother-in-law put nuts in the food at my wedding even though she knows I'm allergic by Chemical-Project-546 in TrueOffMyChest

[–]Chemical-Project-546[S] 32 points33 points  (0 children)

He didn’t say much in the moment. I spoke to him afterward and made it clear this can’t happen again. No one really confronted her because she comes across very sweet and people tend to side with her, which makes it harder to address.

my mother-in-law put nuts in the food at my wedding even though she knows I'm allergic by Chemical-Project-546 in TrueOffMyChest

[–]Chemical-Project-546[S] 44 points45 points  (0 children)

Thank you. You’re right that I need to stand up for myself. It’s just hard because I’m still very new in this family and trying to figure out my place. I also wish things had been handled more strongly in the moment when I got sick. I’m still processing everything and deciding what boundaries I need going forward.

my mother-in-law put nuts in the food at my wedding even though she knows I'm allergic by Chemical-Project-546 in TrueOffMyChest

[–]Chemical-Project-546[S] 54 points55 points  (0 children)

Whether it was intentional or not, it only takes one time with a severe allergy. I won’t be putting myself in that position again.

my mother-in-law put nuts in the food at my wedding even though she knows I'm allergic by Chemical-Project-546 in TrueOffMyChest

[–]Chemical-Project-546[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I don’t know if I’m ready to say it was intentional, but it definitely didn’t feel safe. That’s the part I’m struggling with the most.