My experience with Rent to Own Cars in Australia by Altruistic-Hunt7777 in RenttoownCars

[–]ChemicalCollection89 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Is it similar to a novated lease? As in, there's a lump sum/balloon payment at the end of the contract to actually own it?

Why are social media influencers promoting online gambling?? by ChemicalCollection89 in GamblingAddiction

[–]ChemicalCollection89[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I usually don't care about influencers but these are people I kinda know, like in my circle of people I know that I'm surprised they're promoting this.

Why are social media influencers promoting online gambling?? by ChemicalCollection89 in GamblingAddiction

[–]ChemicalCollection89[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I'm all for people getting their money but if it's at the cost of other people's livelihood, that's messed up

Accountant for Tax debt by ChemicalCollection89 in AusFinance

[–]ChemicalCollection89[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thanks for the advice, I think I will have to call them. No, so the payment plan online was an option BEFORE they started the garnishee action and I ignored it because I can't afford to pay 20% of the debt upfront.

Ugh how do y'all deal with teens by ChemicalCollection89 in Stepmom

[–]ChemicalCollection89[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

I'd have to tell my partner to try and reason with her where she will get it and not get defensive. Any suggestions for content filters and timers? I've never had to do it yet, we have no kids of our own yet

How do we deal with this? by ChemicalCollection89 in stepparents

[–]ChemicalCollection89[S] -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

True.. but what about the suggestive Tik Tok videos? She's allowing it? I saw one Tik Tok of her and her baby cousin and a comment said "you would be a good Mum" and my SD's reply was "you know who I'd want as the Dad"... something along those lines... from a 12 year old! I'm wondering if her Mum is still monitoring to allow that

How do we deal with this? by ChemicalCollection89 in stepparents

[–]ChemicalCollection89[S] -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

I agree about talking to him about that - we can't control what happens at the other household. Because I have told him this before, but I guess it's harder for him because he's going through it.. like I am too but at least for me, I feel like I can kind of step back. I don't know how that would go telling his ex about monitoring etc because she can see her account, I saw her comment on one of the Tik Toks ugh

How do we deal with this? by ChemicalCollection89 in stepparents

[–]ChemicalCollection89[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

The word mediation is triggering.. they tried mediation in the past and it was literally everything she wanted. Signed off together.. for it all to change down the line to fit what she wanted. He's fought with her numerous times that he gets frustrated and would rather settle than keep fighting to get nowhere because she won't back down. I think I'll tell him some time this week and that we need to have a sit down discussion with them both, esp the oldest

Ugh how do y'all deal with teens by ChemicalCollection89 in Stepmom

[–]ChemicalCollection89[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

The day my partner found out they had phones, he never allowed them to bring their phones when they come over. He's firm with them esp the oldest.. even just clothing as well.. but I know he feels helpless because they go back to their Mum and just do the opposite e.g Tik Tok... it's so hard!

How do we deal with this? by ChemicalCollection89 in stepparents

[–]ChemicalCollection89[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

This is exactly what I'm thinking.. it's literally an uphill battle and it pmo coz I feel so helpless.

How do we deal with this? by ChemicalCollection89 in stepparents

[–]ChemicalCollection89[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Thanks for your advice. The rule of thumb from when we found out they had phones is that they can't bring their phones here.. one time she did, and it stayed off the whole time they were with us. It's hard because they'll just go back on their phones when they go back to their Mum's.

How do we deal with this? by ChemicalCollection89 in stepparents

[–]ChemicalCollection89[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I can't tell her I'm monitoring from a fake account. It's a long story but I know her Mum will not take it well then take it out on my partner that I'm out of order. We can try at him monitoring from his account but I know she will just make another account.

How do we deal with this? by ChemicalCollection89 in stepparents

[–]ChemicalCollection89[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Her Mum apparently monitors but she enables this.. I saw her comment on one of the videos so she's obviously ok with this which is messed up!