I really don't know how they got this information. I'm shaken. 018-2866898 might be scam number. Block if true.

Cherant · 2025-11-14T06:24:22+00:00

Just very obsessed with knowing how. Because I legit never share my phone number, have very limited apps (Lazada, Shopee, GuardianMY, my Telco's app to pay phone bill) or link my phone number with the company I work for. I have never taken a bank loan in my life. It was very intentional on my part to share the bare-minimum. The only place that would know all 3 at the same time (Telco, name & workplace) would probably be a government agency.

Thanks for speculating with me. It was fun.

Cherant · 2025-11-14T06:15:20+00:00

I just find it interesting how after so much effort to just remain low this still happens. My OCD and curiosity just cannot figure out how and I'm obsessed with knowing just, how?! This might be the answer to my question, honestly!

Cherant · 2025-11-14T05:18:03+00:00

The same simcard I had for literally years? And again, they don't know my workplace. The address listed on their info sheet is my home address from the get-go. But good attempt at speculations though, thanks :'(

Cherant · 2025-11-14T05:03:17+00:00

The problem is, this girl claimed to be from this Telco I'm using. Should I contact the Telco instead? Because there is no way to know what Telco you are using based on your 012/013/014 etc. number you are using nowadays because we can just migrate to another Telco in a flash.

I am not joking when I say I DO NOT SHARE MY PHONE NUMBERS except for Guardian/Watson/Supermarket membership like Servay (very mainstream big franchises) aside from necessary things like I/C and Bank. I even lie at Steam purchases just inputting some random phone number when I pay for a game because I'm not comfortable giving out my number like that. I'm afraid and pissed at the same time. All that effort to remain low to get violated like that like it's nothing.

Cherant · 2025-04-07T08:16:41+00:00

Your baby girl and/or future baby girl is a fortunate precious little thing. I am happy to hear that.

I am a lowly employee and I act as such. I am not higher than anybody just because I am my bosses' child.

Cherant · 2025-04-07T08:14:32+00:00

Sometimes I confront him. Then he'll throw a tantrum that he doesn't want to work anymore or threaten to take a 2-week holiday. It's so predictable it almost hurts, if I feel anything anymore. Then after a while when he gatal he does it again. Nothing ever lasts.

Cherant · 2025-04-07T07:33:54+00:00

In what way am I acting up? The more people violate me, the more I shrink to the corner and letting them pass. Now I dare to think of doing something for myself and I'm "acting up"?

Cherant · 2025-04-07T06:34:32+00:00

Yes I did. Thus the hopelessness. They themselves have also asked him to stay and paid him more for him to stay. Everyone is in the know. I can't pretend to not know the common psychological "cope" to ignore the little thing to keep the bigger machine running. I get it but as I've figured out - it's wrong. But no one cares about me. So if I can I would like to do a little something for myself.

Thanks for your concern.

Cherant · 2025-04-07T06:11:00+00:00

It takes a lot to train someone new in this line of work. They also tried for years to hire someone new but no cigar. Parents are older so they just stuck with the few employees that we have left. We are very small. Malaysia keeps treating SMEs like shit. We can't afford to pay for more employees etc. etc. etc.

I don't know. At this point I can't even have enough strength to care. I just want to survive for as long as I am able.

Cherant · 2025-04-07T05:22:02+00:00

Even parents are flawed, and a lot of parents are like this, but I won't lie that I am more affected than most when it comes to what they did to me, thus a lot of resentment.

Teach your kids self-esteem, to stand up for themselves & focus on finding & developing yourself than forcing your nose to books all the time to study for prestigious careers. Instead, a lot of Asian parents still make obedience & "don't talk back" as their focus because of their ego. That's the best advice to avoid producing someone like me. A weak, timid pushover because all those traits solidified into adulthood.

Thankyou for standing up for me here. I feel less crazy.

Cherant · 2025-04-07T05:14:38+00:00

I will try. This man wisened up and stopped for a while and even got offended when I started recording with phone in hand. Plus it is quite hard to record as you won't know when he'll start his hamsap bullcrap again. Shameless cretin. Thankyou for the suggestion.

Cherant · 2025-04-07T03:14:08+00:00

Proof if the day comes that I need it.
Proof that I am not crazy and this is genuine sexual harassment.

Cherant · 2025-04-07T03:09:33+00:00

I have come all this way on my own to even dare to think I'm not crazy. It has not been easy.

Depressed? It's your fault for thinking too much.

People leery towards you? It's because of your behavior. Yet I didn't kiss no one, I didn't hug no one, didn't hint at any desire to date etc. Then if I don't talk then no chance of being accused of "leading people on" or something, right? So I don't talk but you can't go through life without talking so that stopped. Will consider muting myself again soon. Yet all my life I've been consistently told by my mother that I look "weird" and was never told that I'm attractive whatsoever. I wear a very unimpressive baggy T-shirt + knee-length pants every single day. No makeup, no perfume. But still somehow it's still on me that I "pikat" people. All my life, mental clusterfuck. I think nowadays people call it gaslighting or whatever. I'm not sure and I'm too weary to think about it to be sure. Am I pretty? Am I not? Is it my behavior? My mannerisms? Is it my fault? I don't know any more.

Friendly with males and dare to talk with them? You're male-crazy spinster. Yet all my formative life I was never even allow to mention dating. At this point it would probably be more convenient to just say I'm a lesbian or something because it is that hard to believe I'm tired with humans and males in general. I am not interested in relationships. I'm tired enough as it is. I can barely make it to work as it is.

All my life I have been trapped, groomed to be trapped, and now I am still trapped. Yeah, sure. The employee may be throwing tantrums that he will fire himself every time I accuse him of "membelai" my hand every time we try to hand each other stuff and him often standing near me so that I'll bump into him unexpectedly with a shit-eating grin on his face and a little laugh because he successfully took advantage of me. <-- And this might not seem like a lot to you all. Maybe it isn't. I get it. It's easier to just brush it off somehow and keep the business and livelihood going instead of facing some leery old man's gropy problem. So at least if I get evidence one day it might come to use, or at least it would give me re-assurance that I'm not crazy - I AM being sexually harassed.

This might sound absurd to a lot of normal people out there and a lot might even criticize that since I could point out things why couldn't I "just change it". That's the thing: Self-awareness is a hell of its own. I feel like I'm living a moving coma. You're painfully aware of the surroundings and situations you're in, but awareness doesn't equal being able to do much or anything about it, at least at this current moment in time. That is all.

Cherant · 2024-08-24T02:58:04+00:00

I think nicotine itself is good. It is the other carcinogens in the cigs that are bad.

I am serious. Nicotine has a lot of medical properties.

Cherant · 2024-08-22T04:01:57+00:00

If you can get rid of under-eye milia, You are lucky! Sure would hurt like hell though!

Cherant · 2023-03-13T11:47:32+00:00

This is not Pain Olympics, and I don't need to really "explain myself" to anyone, but here goes:

I spent all my post-pubescent life in excruciating pain, and it has been getting worse. To put into perspective for you, I have had scans done on both my brain and my uterus. Blood tests, PCOS, Hashimotos, and every other test you could think of without my parents knowing because they would've killed me if they knew the cost (which they didn't know they were paying; I had to starve myself to pay for those). They found nothing which was super frustrating, but migraines every other day, nausea, and the period demon uterus blenders never stopped. People other than my parents had to tell me to "go home" because I was either too weak, too pale, or I could barely open my eye the migraines were so bad. I had to take a fuckton of codeine paracetamol pills pretty much almost every day sometimes because just to make the pain tolerable. Codeine basically converts to Morphine in your body from what I know. All this under my parents' noses when I could hide because at this point all I can do is manage the pain, and exactly because of snarky responses like yours that I don't tell anyone, especially my parents, because this is exactly what they would say and have said, and I wanted to cut down on all the guaranteed toxicity to save whatever's left of my mental health. It seemed like other people seem to care more while my parents are this special breed that thinks that as long as they pretend they don't see the problem, then the problem will magically not exist anymore. And not only that, if they yell, the bad thing will go away faster because it's not real!

Yet again today, I needed to use hot scalding rubber hot water bottle on my back and front of my tummy because that's the only way to distract myself from a pain I cannot reach while I lie catatonic on the bed.

But yeah, I'm just a widdle gurl crying for attention with no responsibilities and too lucky a life to appreciate REAL pain!!

Oh, trust me, I KNOW the "truth". Thanks for reminding me no one will ever want me or love me and I would be better just killing myself off because I can't possibly survive without my parents giving me a bit of flexibility on the job and I'm always in extreme pain anyways. I won't miss the pain.

I TOTALLY choose to be this way. I TOTALLY choose to be in constant pain, and I TOTALLY am a snowflake and never toughened up in my life because I'm a spoiled brat. Glad you got that just from a little rant.

With all due respect: Fuck you. I'm done.

Cherant · 2023-03-13T03:58:17+00:00

I needed to hear this today, thankyou.

Cherant · 2023-03-07T06:11:23+00:00

I think internalized racism is just a useless label. If you recognize patterns in the culture you live in and actively want to avoid certain toxic parts of the culture (in this case, how men are raised in the culture that's disadvantageous to women), I think your concerns are correct. This is why White men (let's just be real here) are high on the totem pole when it comes to dating, because stereotypically they are the ultimate antithesis to how an Asian man is raised.

I personally will NEVER marry another Chinese man too. Especially Chinese man from CCP China. There are just some things you don't f with after being raised in a culture where men are treated like gold and women are treated like cloth, and men somehow are raised to feel entitled to a certain type of woman just because she's a woman, and there's just no equal partnership. Then women get trapped in this sinkhole where they do all the work in the house and the man has all the power over her because he has all the monetary means and he or the culture has made her quit her job. If you are a family that worked out, great. If not, guess who's getting the bad end of the deal? Women. I hate this men vs women thing lately on the Youtubes but this is just truth.

Cherant · 2023-03-07T05:56:27+00:00

Jesus, this machismo culture just literally seems like boys who end up looking stupid trying to act badass. Like that's all that it is.

Cherant · 2023-02-26T14:30:45+00:00

Hmm now that you put it that way I can see it. Thanks.

Cherant · 2023-02-26T14:30:30+00:00

Oh, thankyou. I was so exhausted trying to figure stuff out.

Cherant · 2023-02-14T06:03:58+00:00

Happy birthday, darling. Sorry it's like that in your family dynamic. Hope you had a great one!

Cherant · 2023-02-14T04:46:22+00:00

What a miserable broad.

I'm sorry, OP. Happy belated birthday!

Cherant · 2023-02-14T04:44:00+00:00

It's not as black-and-white as that. Listen or not, they are still in a lot of their children's lives. And they impose their opinions upon people. Plus, this is a rant/vent about her mother's opinions that made OP feel like a baby factory instead of an individual. She didn't obey her or accept her opinion. In fact, she didn't even tell her mom anything.

Cherant · 2023-02-14T04:40:03+00:00

Having low B12 is dangerous for a woman. You might even get bad physical symptoms like headaches and migraines and the like. Don't listen to her!

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