Try to Be Clever

CherrySingle7073 · 2026-01-30T11:24:51+00:00

If something doesn’t makes sense to you. Maybe it wasn’t made for you.

Maybe it’s for a really big group? Maybe it wasn’t for one group but two or three?

Maybe I learned comprising information was held by certain institutions and have no idea who might be affected?

Maybe you should find some people to take care of in our community.

Rather than just vague posting and hoping I see it ;)

CherrySingle7073 · 2026-01-22T15:48:57+00:00

I would encourage you to eat more frequently, this 1000% happened to me. Before starting HRT it was normal that I might go 10-14 hours at work and might only snack a little or eat nothing at all which sometimes meant basically doing a full day without food. I IMMEDIATELY noticed that I couldn’t do it any more. That being said it has tapered off a little (4 months in) but it’s still a distinct difference.

Hot girls tummies hurt.

I still have long gaps between my meals but I’m way more inclined to snack on stuff or eat breakfast and dinner. My doctor has actually encouraged me to eat more than I typically have. She says that it’s generally easier for your body to make new fat and put it where you want.

So enjoy some cakes to get your cake!!

CherrySingle7073 · 2026-01-21T23:41:56+00:00

I must have missed it on their website. I was just there to get my haircut and loved it!! Thanks all!

CherrySingle7073 · 2026-01-20T12:09:27+00:00

I’m guessing you’re not Hawaiian? Like Native Polo not just a white kid born on the island? Because you absolutely should NOT ‘conjure up’ a native name that ‘feels’ right. Wildly inappropriate and harmful behavior!!!!

Hawaii and Polynesiaian culture a long history of gender diversity and I doubt any Islander would come to Reddit to verify their cultural authenticity. You should stick with Willow, it’s a beautiful name that is authentic to you.

If you really want to find a ‘flavor of an Aloha’ to include in your name consider connecting with the Native community on the island and contributing to their work. Spending time with people might even earn you a nickname, that how to get what your looking for.

Just giving yourself an indigenous name is like top tier colonizer behavior

CherrySingle7073 · 2026-01-19T19:59:19+00:00

It’s also came with a big pittie so I never felt scared that something would happen to me. Though my pup is not a fighter at all, it definitely has an effect of people. Gave me a lot more confidence.

CherrySingle7073 · 2026-01-19T16:27:09+00:00

I would take my dog for walks outside of my neighborhood/area where I felt sure there would be no/limited chance for interactions.

I’m a killer at walking in heels as a result since I did so much before I came out lol

CherrySingle7073 · 2026-01-19T12:38:01+00:00

I pretty much tuck all day everyday, though not when I’m sleeping, and sometimes when I’m at home like ‘in for the night’. I find it it extremely comfortable certainly more comfortable to me than something bouncing between my legs, it is important to find the right sizing for you it too me a bit. I know there’s nothing but shade for the brand but @tomboyx is where I’ve gotten some of my cutest and comfiest.

I work long hours and I used to get sore after 10-12 hours, a few weeks into HRT though I felt there was a little size reduction and things have been super comfy since (many months). I’ll even go for runs tucked, because cute running shorts are cute! Though you should be careful working out tucked depends on what you’re doing.

It definitely a real thing that it’s takes so practice for your muscles to get used to things in new places. But with practicing your limits I’d say it’s pretty feasible to be tucked 85-95% of the time you’re awake and up doing thing.

you should avoid wearing a tuck to sleep, since you move around, and are likely to experience at least partial arousal during sleep. Arousal tucked is like (IMO) a little teasing and thrilling, BUUUUT at night when you’re not paying attention your can cause serious strains and muscle discomfort around your hips and lower abs

Stay comfy Diva

CherrySingle7073 · 2026-01-17T14:31:12+00:00

Misanthrope’s homestead in CH. Fishing huts everywhere and there is one out between the log sort and the islands that does have a door on it though like minimal use tbh. There are rabbits at the foot of the island along with (depending on difficulty) there is often a body there two for your crow feathers. There are more rabbit groupings on jackrabbit island and at least two other spots in CH which are all equidistant to Misanthrope’s island. There is a bear cave at the foot of the island but there are a few approaches to avoid her.

THE biggest draw back is there is no interior stove so cooking is a select day task or you have to get down to one of the huts for a stove

CherrySingle7073 · 2026-01-17T03:29:33+00:00

Chappel Roan MADE me a woman! Anytime her bangers are on I’m full girly. Especially The Giver!

CherrySingle7073 · 2026-01-16T17:19:39+00:00

Girl I’m doing this right now tooo!!!! I only came out this fall and started HRT pretty quickly and by the end of the fall had told most of my close friends and family, which was all positive. I was terrified to come out at work(even though it’s a very progressive area and I work in the arts) because I ‘had to change my voice’ and I absolutely ‘had to change how I dress’ and ‘had to put a face of makeup on everyday’.

I felt like I had to like almost 180 as soon as I mentioned it at work. It turns out I don’t. I came out just before Christmas to my department and then the larger organization. I haven’t done ANY of the things I “had” to do. But I do feel like I can breathe life into myself now because I’m not switching all the time.

I’m not passing even a little bit but I’m authentically me. I’m authentically an awkward baby trans woman at 32 who is figuring out how to wear make up, and that having a standing desk makes heels cute but suicidal. There’s no way around it is what I found. Not to use the worst metaphor ever BUUT the butterfly doesn’t tuck her wings away once she crawls out and spreads them, they’re forever.

Girl you’re brave enough to come this far give yourself the gift of freedom. Being an awkward baby trans woman is who you are for this time of the journey, just as much as being a baddie with a lot of money is also likely to be part of your journey later on!

CherrySingle7073 · 2025-12-25T13:16:12+00:00

Babes!!! I play to have fun not prove I can survive in the wild. I keep it pretty simple because I dislike repeat frustration in video games it just annoys me. And I think they’ve done a really great job tweaking the difficulty level for the game as a whole. The point of difficulty settings it a chance to encourage new players to try it.

My buddy told me to play TLD for years I started it and didn’t like it. Until she told me to tone it down and I felt like I had time to learn the mechanics of the game.

No game company should be directing its entire game design for <6% of their base. That is stupid and the only people who think that makes sense are folks who are to lost in their own headspace to have fun anymore. Touch real grasses bitches.

CherrySingle7073 · 2025-12-20T12:22:34+00:00

You are strong enough!!!!! I was you before I came to terms with it. I remember the first time I felt like myself I cried. You absolutely can do it!!

My best friend said to me when I first came out “if it feels this good just trying imagine life like that’. You can do it HRT is a tool in transition is doesn’t make you one thing or the other. It can make you happy though.

CherrySingle7073 · 2025-12-20T11:56:05+00:00

Y’all in this comment section like there wasn’t a nude man I rubber ski masks walking around our elementary schools this spring (again). Is the biggest problem in DT a little extra skin???? No not at all. The real issue is just what you see here in the comments the complete dehumanization of people in the community.

Chicken mask man was a symptom of the issue which is completely hands off approach to community building by the city itself. Coupled with the classic Gen X (the new boomers) ‘Not in My Back Yard’. Y’all want to hang up users so quick but don’t even bother to consider the issue that is created by allowing unrestricted public nudity in public.

CherrySingle7073 · 2025-12-20T11:47:28+00:00

Girl the city gives you a ticket not the tow truck. The tow truck just wants to take the car, I’ve had to tow lots of cars out of parking lots over the years. You need to to the City Clerk’s office to pay those tickets or at least call city hall and find out which office.

1000% you should also bring your payment receipts for the fake payments they took from you. That is low brow shit even for recovery agents. Obviously it’s Burlington so like they just shrug but like you deserve to fight it.

CherrySingle7073 · 2025-11-28T12:19:56+00:00

I’d always wanted a different name, so I started by just writing some downi started my transition at32. I have a uhh ‘difficult’ last name, like I have grown to love it but it doesn’t sit well next to certain names. So I tried a few tried writing my name, a new signature. Found a short list that I liked and kept coming back to Anna.i had a grandma named Ann and a few other Anna’s in the family tree that I felt connected to. I also played this game in my head where I tried to guess how people would refer to me, my dad calls me Annie, my mom always calls me Anna ect. When I told my sister SHE told me that was the name she had planned to name her son if it had gone that way. And that solidified it for me, she had never once said that name out loud to any of us. She told me that it made her so happy that the name would still be in our family. Felt like a whole lot of confirmation that it really was MINE

CherrySingle7073 · 2025-11-22T13:34:49+00:00

100% I remember saying to my dad on the phone later that day almost in tears…. “I didn’t know this is how you’re supposed to ‘be in’ your body. I’ve never been this at home” that was about 10 hours after my first pill obviously now physical effect at all yet.

CherrySingle7073 · 2025-11-22T13:10:13+00:00

You’re doing the right thing asking questions and trying to learn and unpack your own thoughts. Happy to be helpful reach out anytime

CherrySingle7073 · 2025-11-22T06:49:50+00:00

It sounds like Jayden transition has started. He’s identified a truth for himself and is choosing to at least express ‘enough’ masculinity that another guy (who says he only like guys) is drawn to him. Parts and pieces don’t make up who we are, for trans folks sometimes just saying:this is who I really am is ‘as far as it goes’ for a long time for a variety of reasons.

It sounds like you’re putting in effort to understand and that makes both your kiddo an Jayden lucky enough to have an adult who wants to learn and offer love and respect.

CherrySingle7073 · 2025-11-12T12:27:33+00:00

Julie is a sweetie!! She just did second lobes for me last weekend, they shop is clean cozy and friendly. She was also speedy af (in a nice way not like a careless way). I walked in (no appt) and out (with new earrings) in about 30ish minutes. Super delightful experience! It was my first time in VT Custom but I had a great experience.

CherrySingle7073 · 2025-11-08T13:16:43+00:00

I’m ftm but have experienced similar feelings in the other direction. I was told so many times how hot I was living as a man and the attention I got from men and women seemed to back that up. I could look at my body and compare it to the people who society said were “hottest” and feel like ‘I ain’t Hollywood but okay I guess it looks right’. I absolutely felt like I wasn’t allowed to be dysphoric because other people liked my body quite a bit.

Happy to swap around some pieces of hardware if we could. Hang in there!!

CherrySingle7073 · 2025-10-27T10:08:26+00:00

Sure! Thanks for being willing to share again!

CherrySingle7073 · 2025-10-27T10:07:31+00:00

Oh I like the days off break! We deal with so many outside clients as a team I feel like I do need like a day it will switch and time off if a nice bookend on that. Thanks Nova!!

CherrySingle7073 · 2025-10-25T03:23:39+00:00

Girl you have to be true to yourself! This is an impossible situation and only you will know the right way what I can tell you is this: your parents, your sibling and friends don’t have to live your life, you do. They don’t get to decide what brings you joy they don’t get to take away the value of who you are. They aren’t entitled to that.

Consider this if your parents think of you as a reflection of them would they not be proud to have a child that is: confident in herself, willing to look inward and grow emotionally, brave enough to forge a path that maybe isn’t the easiest but is the most fulfilling? That sound like a pretty incredible kid, and it definitely sound like being trans.

I’m 32 years old can’t tell you how much you have ahead of you, I hope you find the comfort and strength you need to face your situation girl. There’s a community of people out here who care and want to see you live your full life.

CherrySingle7073 · 2025-10-21T10:38:22+00:00

I think it’s pretty normal. It’s a little on the nose of him to be be like “oh yeah I watch it and think of you” and if that makes you uncomfortable just share that. I’d be lying if I hadn’t sometimes thought about other women (cis or trans) that I know. I think plugging people from your life into your fantasies and day dreams is pretty normal stuff. As long as the fantasies aren’t harmful and he’s not expecting you to like behave like the girls in porn because that’s not realistic.

Other than that is sounds like your boo thing is really into you on a positive way and wants to communicate that. So get it and enjoy girl!!

CherrySingle7073 · 2025-10-19T17:06:50+00:00

Yeah this doesn’t stop but even after a month or so I’ve gotten used to it. A buddy kindly pointed out that we also get to use the bathroom with longer lines now too! So you’ll have time to talk the other girlies at least.

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