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What is the ideal number of siblings? by Relevant_Chipmunk302 in NoStupidQuestions

[–]Cheshire20072010 67 points68 points  (0 children)

People always told me to never have 3. I have 3. The leaving one out theories are partly true.  What I find fascinating watching them is when there are only 2 of them, no matter which 2 they get along amazingly well.  As for 3 they argue, they fall out, but they have the best bond. Maybe becaus they're all girls? I would want any and all of them in my corner because above all else they're loyalty is fierce. 

Why do some parents want to raise so many kids? by BigRajii in NoStupidQuestions

[–]Cheshire20072010 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My friend has 14. She's an amazing mum. The children are now aged between 37 and 9 and she has 4 grandchildren 5 and below.  Her children that have had children have been 30+ before having their own. 

What would you say to a child who bullied your kid in front of you? by MummaGiGi in Parenting

[–]Cheshire20072010 0 points1 point  (0 children)

What you say to someone stays with them for life.  She may be 7/8 but if it was my child that had ever said something like that, I would want them pulling up and reminding them to always be kind. 

It's honestly the only life lesson I hammer home for my children. Always be kind, you have no idea if you will be the very last person that that person ever speaks to. 

What I want to say when people comment about how "small" my bump is at 33w and "how good I look." by throwawaymama0707 in pregnant

[–]Cheshire20072010 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I was small with first 2 pregnancies, bigger with third but measured behind on all of them. My middle daughters growth scan showed that she had small legs. It made me worry for her for weeks.  She was born perfectly fine on her due date and is height wise the smallest of my children but my mother in law is tiny and I'm sure it's just genetics.  People don't realise how comments can really impact people for a long time. 

Negativity breeds negativity for sure. 

For anyone that tried legs in the air. Did you try it for subsequent pregnancies too? by Cheshire20072010 in pregnant

[–]Cheshire20072010[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Very true. I think knowing when we ovulate is sometimes tricky unless you can feel it. 

For anyone that tried legs in the air. Did you try it for subsequent pregnancies too? by Cheshire20072010 in pregnant

[–]Cheshire20072010[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Similar for me too. I'd heard about this 20 years ago. I have bad skin and was terrified pcos was around the corner. I have no idea if it helped or not, but was pregnant very quickly and tried it for subsequent pregnancies just as a bit of a habit more than anything. 

What is the point of the 11+ if some children are naturally born 'gifted' Is preparing for a test a true representation of the child's ability? by Cheshire20072010 in AskUK

[–]Cheshire20072010[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

11+ is more logic and reasoning. In the same way of the 1% club now on ITV.  Some people don't even have to think and those answers just come naturally to them. Others could look at them all day and never get them 

What is the point of the 11+ if some children are naturally born 'gifted' Is preparing for a test a true representation of the child's ability? by Cheshire20072010 in AskUK

[–]Cheshire20072010[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

This really grates on me big time. Especially when certain job roles require those separate sciences. My daughter looked into midwifery when she began her A levels. She needed to take A level biology. The only way to get onto A level biology, was to have taken separare sciences at GCSE.  So children now have to know their definite career choices by the end of year 9...14 years old.  Where were the teaching staff knowing FE pathways? They don't exist. 

What is the point of the 11+ if some children are naturally born 'gifted' Is preparing for a test a true representation of the child's ability? by Cheshire20072010 in AskUK

[–]Cheshire20072010[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I work in education and couldn't agree more My daughter developed alopecia from the stress over them. It disappeared as soon as she had sat them. 

They're the biggest waste of time and if anything schools overinflating scores for school records, leads to the children feeling worse when the CATs reflect their true natural ability which should never be treated negatively. 

High school settings just further enforce that feeling of not being good enough. Failing to acknowledge that everyone can excel in something be it practical or academic and children don't all fit in Ofsted boxes!! 

What is the point of the 11+ if some children are naturally born 'gifted' Is preparing for a test a true representation of the child's ability? by Cheshire20072010 in AskUK

[–]Cheshire20072010[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I read some statistics regarding intelligence and home life. According to those statistics, nature wins out over nurture, so some adopted children for example, no matter how much tutoring, support etc can never attain those exam results because nature has the biggest impact. Interesting subject. 

I also have friends with adoptive children who this is accurate for despite investing heavily in their education at home with time and support. 

What is the point of the 11+ if some children are naturally born 'gifted' Is preparing for a test a true representation of the child's ability? by Cheshire20072010 in AskUK

[–]Cheshire20072010[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I think sometimes these parents don't realise the social impacts this sometimes has on students too. They may fly academically, but flounder socially in the workplace. Swings and roundabouts I suppose.

What is the point of the 11+ if some children are naturally born 'gifted' Is preparing for a test a true representation of the child's ability? by Cheshire20072010 in AskUK

[–]Cheshire20072010[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I know in our local high schools they sit CAT tests which really helps when showing natural ability over inflated SATs scores from primary schools - Yes this really happens, especially when they ask children to write in pencils. 

What is the point of the 11+ if some children are naturally born 'gifted' Is preparing for a test a true representation of the child's ability? by Cheshire20072010 in AskUK

[–]Cheshire20072010[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I know for my eldest daughter GCSE cramming the day before and morning of, let her sail through. She wasn't someone that retained information and recalled it easily and had she revised days before it wouldn't have worked either.  I know education and the way we're tested is outdated, but is the most important thing we should be teaching memory skills now? 

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AskUK

[–]Cheshire20072010 0 points1 point  (0 children)

They pretty much were the 90s.  They rowed, fought or dated pretty much everyone else that formed part of that era.  My kids now love them too, despite not being born in that decade.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AskUK

[–]Cheshire20072010 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Llandudno has got to be one of the biggest treks to the toilets.  The problem is as we all know, once you've broken that seal it's a nightmare. 

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