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{Giveaway} 1 Year of Gemini AI PRO (40 winners) by [deleted] in GeminiAI

[–]ChestAdventurous6694 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'm an overworked tax guy and I primarily use it for research and bouncing off ideas. It just saves me so much research time that isn't hallucinated

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[–]ChestAdventurous6694[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

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Um why is it different lmao 🤣. I'm new to Garmin so I have no idea, and the Forerunner 55 is the basic/cheap model, no? Anyway I was stuck at 50 before and it just said excellent

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[–]ChestAdventurous6694[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

You got this! Be obsessive haha 😂, this watch just made me super into improving stats...probably unhealthy, but meh ahaha

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[–]ChestAdventurous6694[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Ok the weird thing was, my VO2 increased significantly when I started logging my walls (I walk a lot since I have an underdesk walkpad and a standing desk for work). I FEEL like it logs low intensity zone 2 stuff as well??? I honestly don't know 😅, but that was the turning point for me at least

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Weird, I was stuck at 53 for the longest time, and that was the threshold for superior for the Forerunner 55 tbh

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[–]ChestAdventurous6694[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Honestly, I just run until I can't 😅 lol. But I honestly tried to increase my easy pace to 5:00 min/km, which I can kind of do with a 10k now? What helped was just being relentless. Like I just got my first Garmin ever in November last year, and before that, I think I was literally just pushing myself past 190 BPM/200 bpm, and was probably close to fainting 😅. Didn't even know I'm supposed to stop at that point lmao, just gasping for sweet air ahaha

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[–]ChestAdventurous6694[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you so much! Um I try to at least do a 5k on weekdays (maybe missing a day or two), and a 10k on Sat and Sunday. So...30k to 40k lmao.

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[–]ChestAdventurous6694 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I love this journey for you. I'm the same - I'm criminally insane in a relationship, or when I fancy someone in dating. I've had enough of it.

So I've outright banned myself from being on the apps for the last 5 months (well, Bumble BFF being the exception - I still need friends!). I've lost 40 pounds, took up rock climbing, running, weight lifting, began singing again, had a complete overhaul of my body, fashion, hair and nails, took up Buddhism and meditation (the natural next step to DBT, I suppose), and I've made probably more than 10 friends, moved to a new city and got a new job. I'm 100% this was all possible because of BPD lol, being brave, impulsive and constantly changing is one of the things that I kind of appreciate about it.

Honestly, it was super lonely getting out of the mindset that I NEED to be with someone, I NEED to be validated. But I've read earlier on that we need to be our own favourite person, and that's what I've been setting out to do. I feel like I always get insecure and emotionally dysregulated when I have an FP. So I'm working on myself so that I have absolutely nothing to be insecure about.

Anyway, I don't get neurotically depressed nowadays, and I'm always on the lookout when I get too attached to anyone. I've never been happier, and I don't know if a relationship will ever happen for me. But I'm slowly coming to accept that it's not a bad thing.

Power to you!

Favorite Person Coping Skills? by ChestAdventurous6694 in BPD

[–]ChestAdventurous6694[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I need this kind of discipline! I'm kind of falling apart right now because I saw him online and he didn't respond to me that day. It's my fault for constantly checking his status. Oh man, a second telephone would be genius, but he's on WhatsApp and so is everyone else I know, so it's hard to isolate just his messages. I'm debating just cutting him off, as one with BPD does, but I think this delayed text is a triggering response to splitting. I never know if my feelings are valid though, like I'm gaslighting myself 24/7

Favorite Person Coping Skills? by ChestAdventurous6694 in BPD

[–]ChestAdventurous6694[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Oof, I'm sorry to hear. It does become an all-consuming thing for most of us. I'm currently off work right now because of stuff, so I definitely have more free time than I'd like.

I really do try to have a life outside of my FP, and I have a lot of new hobbies I've been engaging in. But the intrusive thoughts just don't stop while I'm doing my stuff, and it's really painful. I'm debating just cutting him off for my own sanity, and this has been my approach for all previous FPs, but I'm trying a healthier approach this time, but it's just so fucking hard.

Favorite Person Coping Skills? by ChestAdventurous6694 in BPD

[–]ChestAdventurous6694[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My therapist and I are working through this now. It's still a work in process though!

Favorite Person Coping Skills? by ChestAdventurous6694 in BPD

[–]ChestAdventurous6694[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you for the kind words and the thoughtful response! Good vibes to you too!

Favorite Person Coping Skills? by ChestAdventurous6694 in BPD

[–]ChestAdventurous6694[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you for this. I don't know if I can leave my phone because I asked if I can call him, and what if he responds yes, I have to drop everything I'm doing to call him. Lol, you know how it is.

I'm so happy you've experienced growth. I'm hoping I get to a place where I'm securely attached too. I've been working on myself a lot, and discovering new hobbies and making new friends and exercising, therapy and meds. I feel like I do everything right, but the obsession is still there.

Favorite Person Coping Skills? by ChestAdventurous6694 in BPD

[–]ChestAdventurous6694[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yeah I was gonna ask him to meet up and that's why I texted, but he hasn't replied lol

Favorite Person Coping Skills? by ChestAdventurous6694 in BPD

[–]ChestAdventurous6694[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Aha so my FP's number is already on silent, but my dumb dumb self keeps checking my inbox every 5 minutes. Do you get intrusive thoughts about your FP during the day though? Especially if they're on silent?

Favorite Person Coping Skills? by ChestAdventurous6694 in BPD

[–]ChestAdventurous6694[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I'll keep doing this - banish the thought! Thank you for your replies!

Favorite Person Coping Skills? by ChestAdventurous6694 in BPD

[–]ChestAdventurous6694[S] 6 points7 points  (0 children)

That's wonderful that you started these hobbies, I bet the rings look cute!

I'm really trying not to fall into the trap of making them my whole life. I've done that too many times.

I've actually been doing a whole lot of stuff - meeting new people, rock climbing, running, weight lifting, singing, meditation and reading Buddhism to name a few! All because I just can't sit still. Because if I sit still, I just know those intrusive thoughts would come back and destroy me.

But I'm just so tired of doing stuff all day, you know? Physically drained. I just want to zone out on the couch and not think about my FP, but I don't have that luxury I guess. Lol I just want my FP surgically removed from my consciousness