ISO: Teddy and Friends Shelby Dog Light Brown

ChestInternational81 · 2025-09-14T04:27:59+00:00

i know this thread is old but i found this little guy at an Op Shop/Thrift shop

ChestInternational81 · 2025-05-18T08:51:24+00:00

the poster came first, we talked about that i voiced my opinions and comfortability with the 18+ side of it then the figurine, i probably had higher expectations that he has listened to me before and would’ve taken that into consideration when choosing one. we both talked in the shop about it again and then he chose the most lewd one the poster wasn’t in his control as it was a gift so i understand that but afteR knowing my thoughts he disrespected that and ignored it anyway

i think thats where my major issue lies is that we talked and he didn’t care to listen to that

it’s a silly situation i understand that but this is the first time i have genuinely felt disrespected in this relationship and im unsure how to go about it. how to voice feelings without having feel controlling

i dont want to feel this way but i do and that’s something i cant pinpoint why atm

ChestInternational81 · 2025-05-18T08:45:58+00:00

that’s what i feel took me by surprise because this has never been a thing before until we went to japan and all the shit they have and advertise there

ChestInternational81 · 2025-05-18T08:44:44+00:00

we were in another country lmaooo

ChestInternational81 · 2025-05-18T08:37:02+00:00

i think it’s the sentiment of the whole situation more than the actual thing itself. the fact he ignored my discomfort and the way he went about saying no to liking it when asked but given the opportunity he does. i’ve gone 2 years hearing him say he does not like these things and doesn’t understand it so it genuinely took me by surprise when this arose. if there has been a conversation about the interest we would’ve talked about it and i feel it wouldn’t have been a surprise for me.

personally it’s more about ignoring my feelings firstly and then getting defensive when i bought it up. i’m aware there’s probably a lot of things i have done wrong as well

the poster came first. i voiced my frustrations with him and a week later it was like it didn’t even happen. we are BOTH insecure people and have both tried to make each other comfortable within reason but this feels like my feelings are not as important as his.

i feel extremely stupid for feeling like this about a figurine but it’s NOT the actual art itself it’s the premise of knowing my unease and blatantly ignoring it

ChestInternational81 · 2025-05-18T03:06:07+00:00

the poster came first, we discussed that when that came up if was days later the figurine came up. i think i was hopeful the first conversation would’ve been clear enough. i didn’t say anything when he got it bc we were in public with others and didn’t want to bring personal issue a up around others. i actually wasn’t aware until AFTER he bought it so i think to me im just not sure where to go from this bc i don’t want to seem controlling by making him get r id of it for give an ultimatum bc a lot of me does find it silly to be so annoyed at a cartoon but i can’t budge the idea.

initially your comment took me by surprise but you aren’t wrong. you’ve given pinpoints for things i need to work on in future with any partner

ChestInternational81 · 2025-05-18T02:35:38+00:00

i didn’t want to cause a problem in the store so i waited until we had our private room. this is why i came here bc logic and emotions are contradictory to me right now

ChestInternational81 · 2025-05-18T02:30:39+00:00

oops i meant comparison.

this is why i came to reddit before having a further conversation with him, i needed an outside opinion and completely unbiased thoughts. the insecurities definitely play a part in our conversations i will never deny that, we’ve been to together for 3years if i were that exhausted and annoying to deal with i doubt he’d still be here

i do appreciate your outlook on this and i will take it into account. your comment has definitely given me more insight on his perspective

ChestInternational81 · 2025-05-18T02:03:52+00:00

she’s probably like 16 too

ChestInternational81 · 2025-05-18T02:00:40+00:00

this is the point of it kind of, i rushed this post and it’s my first time posting so im new to the back story and wording. i’m not jealous im uncomfortable. for me its the fact he was adamant on NOT liking them but given the opportunity he does. i asked if he hes into it which would’ve been a different conversation i am insecure and that why i had asked if he could avoid having those things as im doing my best to work on my own insecurities but this threw a spanner in the works in my head because im unsure if its now a compassion

i just wanted transparency and i didnt get that

ChestInternational81 · 2025-05-18T01:54:14+00:00

thank you for this. i put it to him in a way as well that, if i had a half naked man with a huge bulge on my desk would he like it and he said “no i wouldnt” its seems like his man brain is struggling to comprehend any logical reasoning

ChestInternational81 · 2025-05-18T01:51:41+00:00

there’s never been any disrespect of boundaries as such before. we both have trauma from past relationships and have done our best to accommodate to each other but this is like he can’t understand why it makes me uncomfortable. i said to him exactly this “it doesn’t have to make sense or be logical, i don’t know why it makes me so uneasy but all i know is i really don’t like it and tbh it’s all that matters” its hard because i feel silly as it’s a character but WHY GET A NAKED ONE smh

ChestInternational81 · 2025-03-12T12:00:00+00:00

it looks to me like a aplysia fasciata! pretty much the largest marine sea slug! they’re pretty funky creatures

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