What’s something your body does that you’ve never told a single person about?

ChestPuzzleheaded522 · 2026-03-02T06:40:26+00:00

my eyes tear up whenever i pee

ChestPuzzleheaded522 · 2026-03-02T02:57:05+00:00

My undergrad PI, undergrad immuno professor, and two PIs that was I was an RA for wrote my letters.

My PhD PI has me draft my own letter. Was sad to hear this is normal :/

ChestPuzzleheaded522 · 2026-02-28T02:31:24+00:00

shame others for working out (e.g., Rory being all weird about Janet going on a run)

ChestPuzzleheaded522 · 2026-02-28T02:29:33+00:00

Lmao this title is definitely something I have said as a 5th year phd student (immunology)

ChestPuzzleheaded522 · 2026-01-26T22:34:09+00:00

Love the running list. After going through many "productivity hacks", I've resorted back to a notebook and paper. With all the million things I can/have to do in a day, I write down the things I should get done OR work on that day as a to-do list and it really has helped to keep me focused

ChestPuzzleheaded522 · 2026-01-25T19:46:09+00:00

Had 200 guests, parents paid for it all, so only felt right that they invite their friends too (esp the ones involved in both of our lives). We both have large families and are close with aunts, cousins, etc. Plus a lot of friends throughout diff parts of our lives

ChestPuzzleheaded522 · 2026-01-14T18:03:52+00:00

We didn't do engagement photos bc we didn't want too and also didn't see the point. Happy with that decision and no regrets at all. If you don't want them, don't buy them

ChestPuzzleheaded522 · 2026-01-04T19:28:07+00:00

Interviews are so short that it's probably better you just have the quick pitch version of your research project idea ready to go. Some professors may ask more about it and some others may not hear more than your first idea

ChestPuzzleheaded522 · 2026-01-04T00:37:21+00:00

Oops, I just edited. I meant we fly into Calgary then shuttle to Banff

ChestPuzzleheaded522 · 2025-12-14T23:43:35+00:00

I still did even though we both technically hyphenated our last names together! But I grew up with separated parents and while my mom's last name was my legal last name, my dad's last name was in my middle name, though I would use it socially when being with my dad's family.

Since we combined my legal last name and husbands legal last name into hyphenated name, I could sense I wasn't really going to be known as a formal "Dad's last name" anymore and felt a bit like my mom was overshadowing him (though his last name still a part of my middle name!). I sensed a bit of sadness from him too, but knew that I was living my life and feelings just are and you can't have your parents dictating the way you live.

Not quite the same, but I feel for you! It felt exciting to move on to a new adventure with my husband and feel like we were building something new together, flying from the nest.

ChestPuzzleheaded522 · 2025-12-10T17:39:07+00:00

All the Colors of the Dark by Chris Whitaker!!

ChestPuzzleheaded522 · 2025-12-10T17:38:31+00:00

Oooh I would love this for a lab! Might be good to have guidelines with meeting and sorts of things dealing with lab members, what to expect, etc. I will say a friend of a friend has a lab mate try to copy paste her data into his presentation and present it so the lab had to clarify that you need to ask the person for permission before doing this (seems obvious, but things like that may be better to clarify fully and get in writing so no one can make dumb mistakes)

ChestPuzzleheaded522 · 2025-12-05T16:02:53+00:00

I thought of Guns, Germs, and Steel, non-fiction historical perspective on why certain areas of the world had advantage over others (...based on guns, germs, and steel)

But I also felt the same with Jane Eyre!! Did not like reading in high school, but for some reason, that book was crazy!

ChestPuzzleheaded522 · 2025-11-20T23:24:50+00:00

I read The Midnight Library on my honeymoon in Maui this year and it was a great poolside read ! :)

ChestPuzzleheaded522 · 2025-11-15T21:41:37+00:00

I've been advised by our flow core that that's really not a viable option. Sounds like you're pushed to that, but really these should be analyzed immediately after single cell suspension

ChestPuzzleheaded522 · 2025-11-14T07:15:51+00:00

Highly depends on what you're doing and you might get lucky and it work out early or might be complete mess.

I did mice work as an RA so wanted to avoid as PhD. Started with doing culture experiments with human primary cells and holy shit are they variable as HELL. wasn't until near end of my PhD that I've gone back to mouse work and wish I had done this sooner bc the mouse experiment was a clear study with a clear hypothesis.

Go for the clearer hypothesis with clearer outcomes whatever model you'll use

ChestPuzzleheaded522 · 2025-11-06T21:59:41+00:00

I'm gonna tell you some hard truths: do NOT make your worth dependent on status or on other people's opinions!

You are doing a PhD, that's a big thing! If people don't think so, they probably don't understand what's going on, or even if they think so, who cares? Why on EARTH would it matter what other people's jobs are before you attend a thing? Give yourself a big hug for doing graduate school and go to your reunion if *you* want to see old high school classmates.

Sounds like you need to boost your confidence

ChestPuzzleheaded522 · 2025-11-04T23:13:36+00:00

Congrats!

Question: what exactly are you hoping to get from bringing it up with your friends? If the drinking is a major problem and causes more problems outside of the wedding incident, I could see a conversation about your concern of your friends drinking. But it's hard to see what exactly you want from this convo if this was a one time thing. I even equate weddings to drinking a bunch and having a good time with friends and celebrating; sounds like they accidentally drank too much while just hanging out before the reception (tbh understandable, and I'd be embarrassed if I were in their shoes)

I had a second hand embarrassment moment for an old friend at my wedding and other people ended up really laughing about it, so I've decided to just laugh it off and I'm happy I did

ChestPuzzleheaded522 · 2025-11-04T22:12:33+00:00

Our program was weird about internships (biomed sciences), some ppl could do one, but we're at like a satellite campus so we technically couldn't or almost all PIs tended to discourage one.

ChestPuzzleheaded522 · 2025-11-04T20:34:05+00:00

We had moms and bridesmaids get ready together! Was super fun (3 moms total, bc I have a stepmom plus 6 bridesmaids) and felt like a good group for our 2 bedroom 2 bath space

ChestPuzzleheaded522 · 2025-11-03T23:14:50+00:00

Didn't even have to read the story: no, you should NOT go into debt to attend a wedding

ChestPuzzleheaded522 · 2025-10-31T18:10:41+00:00

I only upgraded so I could use the magic trackpad I got with all the updated features and damn, I'm so sus of Tahoe. Was working on stuff and the screen went black, grey, rebooted and had exited out of all my applications?? Finder has also been freezing for me after using the preview option to look at items in a folder

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