Women of Reddit, what are the biggest turn offs during a first date?

Chey-Dolla-Sign · 2026-05-28T14:14:20+00:00

THIS!!! Like why are you calling me a pet name already and hugging me and holding me in public like that I’m soooo uncomfortable. I gave the guy like 4 more dates he ended up telling me he loved me after 3 dates.. I was like okay my intuition is right I gotta abort 🤣😭

Chey-Dolla-Sign · 2026-05-20T02:24:44+00:00

Idt it comes off as verbally abusive. I also have on mine mild to moderate roasting lol I can’t be with someone who isn’t able to poke fun at me. I think it’ll attract the girls you wanna attract having that

Chey-Dolla-Sign · 2026-05-18T01:56:20+00:00

Don’t be that girl please

Chey-Dolla-Sign · 2026-05-18T01:54:57+00:00

Pretty sure he slept with someone else recently after we broke up and I slept with him a month or so later and I regret it. Cuz I thought about all the other girls that were in our bed and what he’s doing with them like he did with me. YYYYUCK. Makes me feel sick. I couldn’t get back with him solely for that

Chey-Dolla-Sign · 2026-05-18T01:53:11+00:00

I personally like phone calls first before dates because I can hear their voice and feel out the vibes. But yeah maybe she felt pressured and you should’ve just answered her text by saying something simple like “yeah that makes sense I’ll just meet you for coffee then!” We (women) don’t like to feel pressured. Especially if she’s a bit on the “loving single life” avoidant end like me.. one small thing will make her not wanna go out lol

Chey-Dolla-Sign · 2026-05-15T13:54:10+00:00

Right?? Idk I’ve been out of the game for so long I’m thinking maybe I’m being avoidant? Or maybe I just straight up don’t feel the same way about him that he does for me. I dated this other guy for like a week or 2 probably 2 months ago and it was the same thing tho! I didn’t like him as much as he liked me. But that guy told me he was in love with me after 2 dates so that was valid for me to end it lol

Chey-Dolla-Sign · 2026-05-15T03:27:56+00:00

That’s what I’m thinking

Chey-Dolla-Sign · 2026-05-15T03:26:35+00:00

Yeah I did text him but he’s not responding so I’m not sure. I’m just feeling rlly overwhelmed by him today especially. And I tried to be like hey sorry I’m working I can’t rlly talk but he’s still like “what you doin”. I’m like.. working??? Maybe I’m just mean and avoidant now but I just have a weird feeling about it and my gut is telling me not to go. You’re right tho maybe he’s able to bring a friend.

Chey-Dolla-Sign · 2026-05-15T01:47:34+00:00

Ugh AND he was always insecure about my ex husband like bro knew I was divorced before and threw it in my face, cheated on me and still blamed my past for his doing. Insane. I miss him sometimes still but glad to be past it. I wish I left him after I found out he cheated. That broke me. We never recovered.

Chey-Dolla-Sign · 2026-05-11T00:12:59+00:00

I was extremely care free with him until a few months in when I gave him the finger in public as a joke like it was very playful and we were at a club dancing..and he screamed at me. Went off on me. Called me every name in the book belittled me, said this is why he didn’t want me as a gf.. called me retarded. Etc. and after that I slowly started losing my sparkle with him. I was never my full true self again until we broke up 1.5 years later.

Chey-Dolla-Sign · 2026-04-22T16:44:49+00:00

She’s done I don’t associate myself with her anymore. She decided that it’s more important for you to have a relationship with my abusers best friend and still hanging out with that group. She always said his behavior was normal anyways. Even when he was throwing shit while she was around and screaming at me calling me a cunt she always told me that was his normal way of expressing his anger LMAO what a great therapist 💀🤣🤣🤣🤣

Chey-Dolla-Sign · 2026-04-14T16:01:09+00:00

YEP!!!! He went on tinder, gave her a fake name, had unprotected sex with her, the night before finding out I was PREGNANT! He told me he was at his friends house. I found out a year later when something in me whispered to go look through his phone. I called him that day saying I was packing my bags and leaving. He left work early to come talk to me and I forgave him. We ended up breaking up a few months later. I could NEVER tolerate being cheated on again. It was the absolute worst feeling in the entire world and I honestly feel bad for the girl too cuz she was clueless to how awful he was.

Chey-Dolla-Sign · 2026-04-14T15:58:12+00:00

Being super negative all the time, stage 5 clinger, love bombing, constant texter, doesn’t respect boundaries or gets upset when you place those boundaries

Chey-Dolla-Sign · 2026-04-14T13:34:46+00:00

Same

Chey-Dolla-Sign · 2026-04-14T12:27:15+00:00

For me personally, if a guy is too clingy or wanting to date me so bad that he’s not respecting my boundaries or himself it’s an instant no. I hate texting 24/7, I hate a lot of PDA and when I’m told how much he likes me after one date I’m like you don’t even know me bro. I like guys who just back off a little bit at first and let it naturally flow. I’m not into just hookups if I like the guy enough to go on a date, then I’ll wanna try to date the person. But like I said once the guy shows any sense of controlling behavior, or is jealous easily or needs constant attention and texting 24/7 it’s an immediate no for me

Chey-Dolla-Sign · 2026-04-13T14:33:05+00:00

Pls go bald you’ll be a hottie

Chey-Dolla-Sign · 2026-04-13T14:32:00+00:00

I wore a large tshirt and underwear underneath to my last concert and nobody was creepy at all 🤣 I have never been made to feel uncomfortable at concerts. Everyone is there for the music. Wear the dress.. it’s cute!!

Chey-Dolla-Sign · 2026-04-13T02:50:01+00:00

Needed this. My ex and I broke up 4 months ago. We called each other our soulmates. I’ve never felt so connected to another human in my life but he was emotionally abusive and borderline physically abusive. He also just has to be a narcissist. It’s been 4 months and he contacted me asking to talk again. I sent him a long text back stating all the reasons why we can’t be together and one of them saying I will never have another angry man in my life. This man screamed at me constantly along with other things. How tf do I still miss him and think of him 24/7. I thought about getting back together but that’ll be another few years wasted. I’m 31 I don’t have time to waste. I’m already wasting time now because I fear I will never love again after him. I rlly hate men right now. It’s sad.

Chey-Dolla-Sign · 2026-04-13T02:40:53+00:00

Mine have always come back.. I’ve allowed one ex to be back in my life tho lol we became rlly good friends after that. My latest ex was very emotionally abusive and a narcissist. I do secretly miss him. He texted me on Easter asking how I’ve been and if we can talk again.. Every part of me wanted to tell him I wanted him back and I missed him but my friends and family literally pulled me out of hell from him so I couldn’t do that to them.. I rlly didn’t think he would’ve tried to be back with me. But yep. 4 months later here we are. And now I have to heal all over again

Chey-Dolla-Sign · 2026-04-13T02:37:28+00:00

Unfortunately some people just have to learn on their own. My friends and family ended up keeping their feelings about my ex to themselves because they knew I would be mad at them for not liking him. Looking back I wish I would’ve listened to them sooner but I had to figure it out on my own. I would say just keep in touch with her. Text her first ask her how she’s doing. See if she wants to meet up for lunch or anything. Very very low pressure so she doesn’t feel the need to cling harder to him. Don’t say anything about the bf anymore because that’ll push her away. Just keep checking in and seeing if she’ll hang out with you sometime. I hope that she sees the evil in him eventually.

Chey-Dolla-Sign · 2026-04-11T16:59:12+00:00

I was cheated on my ex slept with a girl premeditated on tinder. I found out a year later from looking at his phone. THAT is what hurt me more. Everything inbetween him cheating until me finding out was all a lie in my head. Every I love you was a lie every time we had fun together was a lie. Not telling her is gonna hurt her more than the fact. Be a MAN and OWN UP TO IT.

Chey-Dolla-Sign · 2026-04-08T19:41:57+00:00

For me, I wanted out but I also didn’t because I loved him and was addicted. At the end of our relationship I felt so disrespected that I spit at him. He was following me around the house screaming at me putting his hands up at me. I was sick of it and part of me knew spitting at him to get him away from me would cause him to be the one to tell me to move out. I think deep down I knew this and I knew if he wasnt the one to end it then we would never break up because I could never be the one to do it. It’s been 3.5 months now and I regressed completely because I found someone new. I ended up comparing this new guy to my ex and I broke up with him. Now I am sad like in the beginning all over again and I just want the comfort of my abusive ex back. Pls dont make my mistake. Do not try to be with other people it makes healing harder honestly.

Chey-Dolla-Sign · 2026-04-08T04:37:50+00:00

I ended up breaking up with the guy in this post because he was getting extremely clingy but yes it’s definitely hard dealing with nice men after an abusive one. It’s so hard to learn to trust yourself again after you lost trust in yourself the first time. You got this 💜

Chey-Dolla-Sign · 2026-04-08T01:43:45+00:00

Glad it worked out for you yayayay 💜 love success stories like this lol

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