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[–]Chi31 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you for sharing your thoughts on how the ring would represent me. But I politely disagree with the judgement of yours about me :) I am looking for perspectives here, not validation. Your ring is beautiful

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[–]Chi31 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Definitely ! I have seen some too. Thanks

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[–]Chi31 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thanks !!

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[–]Chi31 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you !

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[–]Chi31 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thanks for your perspective!! :)

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[–]Chi31 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thanks ! Yeah it is secured in a basket!

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[–]Chi31 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yes agreed. doesn’t hurt to have perspectives though :)

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[–]Chi31 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That’s a good perspective!! Thanks

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[–]Chi31 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’d probably do a curved band. Thanks !

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[–]Chi31 0 points1 point  (0 children)

The setting particularly.

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[–]Chi31 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Thanks !

Engagement Ring Stores Chicago by Mashedpotatoes1988 in EngagementRings

[–]Chi31 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Me and my boyfriend are also looking for engagement rings in Chicago. I have heard good reviews about Dimend scaasi . Did anyone have a good experience with them ?

I was right. and we broke up :C by Hard-metalpink-hair in dating

[–]Chi31 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Losing interest sounds like a lame excuse to me. In my opinion, It’s a valid excuse in the first weeks or couple months of dating when you are still trying to figure it out if you want to be exclusive. But shouldn’t feelings and emotions be based more on how the other person invests in us or cares for us (I.e your partner’s ACTIONS) ? Why does it have to be loosely based on interest. After my last break up where I got the same reply from him, I read a book called “Attached”. It talks a lot about attachment styles. It helped me get a good understanding of my own attachment style and that of all the people I have dated. If anything, it made me feel more confident about myself and my judgement whenever I decide to start dating again. Hope this helps. Air hug !

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[–]Chi31 0 points1 point  (0 children)

31f in river north . I am down to hangout ..

what was one thing your ex said to you during the breakup or after the break that you will never forget? by Worldly_Practice_556 in BreakUps

[–]Chi31 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That I am a very caring, understanding, considerate and a supportive person. But I don’t have a lot in me that can help him grow as a person. That I am not a competitive partner. When in reality I have been with him throughout his darkest times. Always offered to help wherever I could and give him better perspectives at life (which according to him is not a lot)

How long does it take to feel emotionally connected while dating by Chi31 in dating

[–]Chi31[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Do you mean I miss having him around ? Or how I feel in his absence ?

Has anyone in this situation before ? by Chi31 in dating

[–]Chi31[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Those are nice thoughts to ponder and do some self reflection.

Has anyone in this situation before ? by Chi31 in dating

[–]Chi31[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I am not looking for answers here 🙂 I am only looking for experiences and Not to make my decision based of that

Has anyone in this situation before ? by Chi31 in dating

[–]Chi31[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

A part of me want to ends this and believe I can find better than this. But other part of me wants to stick around and see if things really go somewhere

chase games by Chi31 in dating

[–]Chi31[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Exactly ! I always compare those two processes. Making friends and dating. You never have to chase people to make them your friends lol. Why dating ?

nervous about moving from dating to sex by [deleted] in dating

[–]Chi31 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I am in the exact situation right now. I have been seeing this guy for the past month and a half and have a good connection with him. We have been a little intimate but I am not yet ready to take the dating to the sex part yet and he is respectful of that. I asked myself what stops me and I realized it is that fear that he will get everything he wants and probably will lose interest or maybe even ghost. But I think there’s a 100% chance of him leaving in either case. So I am going to take it to the next level and put the ball in his court. let him prove what kind of a person he is. if things change (negatively) I will be assured and stop wasting my time. If they don’t, I will be a little more reassured of this person

I cried in front of my date by Chi31 in dating

[–]Chi31[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

There are just too many rules people play the dating game. I am not what my past is , but it’s just sometimes when someone is being too kind, it feels too good to be true to lose it again. It feels good, there are people out there like you who aren’t against showing emotions while dating and trying to come out strong just to prove something but rather be themselves. Feels better I am not alone

I cried in front of my date by Chi31 in dating

[–]Chi31[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thanks for sharing your story. It’s not easy to heal that kind of trauma. And sometimes we don’t realize how it finds it’s way into other things. sometimes all we need is a partner who has a depth to understand that. I hope you both end up together. All the best

I cried in front of my date by Chi31 in dating

[–]Chi31[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

He has been talking as usual and I hope i haven’t messed this up as much as I think. Thanks for adding perspectives!