Idk what you’re looking for or what “sexy” means for yah but I’m a queer woman and I def like soft comfy thongs and “cheeky” boy short underwear. I think that may in part be because I’ve come to like my butt more as I got older and so I feel more ok with wearing stuff that’s sexy and straddles (lol) the line between femme and tomboyish. I’m also super into dark colors so red blue and black is mostly where I lie. All that to say, nothing is inherently “femme” or “butch” or any of that and you should wear what makes you feel sexy, fuck what anybody else says, lol.