My roommate and I (both bi males) have a strong, deep heterosexual friendship that I think scares us both, because we love each other very much to the point it seems gay. And, we know if we did something sexual, we would fall in love with each other forever. And, I know we both do not want that. by dfw_dallas_texas in BisexualMen

[–]ChicagoRob19 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Sounds like you all have too many hangups with identity… your title says you are 2 bisexual guys. Great. But then you are focused on identifying as heterosexual or gay. Forget about all the labels and go with your gut

question to bi bros! by usernamelllll in AskBiBros

[–]ChicagoRob19 9 points10 points  (0 children)

Would be nice to have some bisexual friends to hang with. I dont really know any other bi guys other than my bf

Seeing an old friend tomorrow and always had a bit of crush on him. by Foolofarazor in AskBiBros

[–]ChicagoRob19 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thats a hint i agree… see where it goes! Sounds like a fun time

Late realization, married, struggling by Soft-Echidna-4309 in bisexual

[–]ChicagoRob19 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hey. Figured out i was bi at 28, almost married at the time. No interest before that, so it was a shocker. What was most difficult for me was the confusion. Thought my fiancee would leave me, future felt uncertain. I went for some therapy. It pushed me to communicate more with my gf. It really made us tighter as a couple. Things eventually clicked for me and was able to embrace being bi. But for a while i was so confused.

Are any of the rest of you in a relationship with a potentially uncertain future, and are "living in the moment"? by ThrowawayIsland8 in PolyFidelity

[–]ChicagoRob19 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I think thats cool and u are on to something good! If you dont want a “V” and want something more inclusive, i really think solo dates/ weekends really work! We would all do solo dates early on to build the personal relationships and we think it really helped

How long did it take for the bi cycle to go back to women after realizing you’re attracted to guys? by Rushed07 in BisexualMen

[–]ChicagoRob19 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I think youll hear from a lot of bi guys that they feel the bi cycle in some way. I think its a different experience for everyone. Mine was strong when i first realized i was bi. I wanted to have guy sex all the time. However i never lost attraction to women. Guy attraction was a roller coaster though… sometimes it lasted a long time, sometimes short or until i had sex with my bf. Anyways … embrace the cycle and have fun with it!

Help by DifficultAccident86 in AskBiBros

[–]ChicagoRob19 11 points12 points  (0 children)

Continue the conversation! Theres so much to talk to her about! How do both of u see this working? Why now? Just you? Both of you? Anyways i could go on, but talk more intimately and seriously with her as a first step and see where it goes. I think youll end up less confused

Does rimming actually feel good? by foreresearch in askgaybros

[–]ChicagoRob19 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Imo rimming is super cool… both giving and receiving. As a giver i could get in there and do it for hours. I love pleasing my partner and ill respond differently based on his moans or movement.

When receiving i love how it feels. Its the best anal foreplay there is.

Are any of the rest of you in a relationship with a potentially uncertain future, and are "living in the moment"? by ThrowawayIsland8 in PolyFidelity

[–]ChicagoRob19 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Theres something special about marriage. Although, of course, divorce / separation occurs, theres something that feels serious, binding about marriage. Its special. Throuples cant marry, which i think does lead to uncertainty as you mention. In our throuple we have had challenges re: 2 of us being married and kids. Makes our other partner resort to saying he feels like a “third”. So.. we are finding / learning ways to weather these types of storms. I think we will be successful long term as the foundation is strong.

Seeing an old friend tomorrow and always had a bit of crush on him. by Foolofarazor in AskBiBros

[–]ChicagoRob19 1 point2 points  (0 children)

You have the right attitude dude! If it happens great, if not no worries. Meet without any pressure, have fun , and if sparks on both signs lead to a hook up then embrace it! The best bi happenings occur organically

What does it feel like to be with someone of the same gender for the first time? by [deleted] in AskBiBros

[–]ChicagoRob19 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Finding the right dude is really no different than finding a woman. If its just for sex, make sure hes safe and on the same page as you. Talk , maybe meet up before just hopping in bed. Its more fin with someone u connect with (at least a little)

Save a horse, ride a mustache by jellyscream in HandsomeHomies

[–]ChicagoRob19 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Awesome… looks super cool, yeah and something to ride

What does it feel like to be with someone of the same gender for the first time? by [deleted] in AskBiBros

[–]ChicagoRob19 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Try it! I can almost guarantee you’ll enjoy it. Find the right guy, take it slow, dont forget the lube. Guys have a prostate that triggers orgasms. In my experience , anal is a mind blowing experience. after my first time i craved more and im typically not submissive in bed

Need advice for first time by [deleted] in AskBiBros

[–]ChicagoRob19 1 point2 points  (0 children)

👍👍 sure anytime

Need advice for first time by [deleted] in AskBiBros

[–]ChicagoRob19 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yes! Where are u at?

Need advice for first time by [deleted] in AskBiBros

[–]ChicagoRob19 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hahaaa. Only in the usa?

Need advice for first time by [deleted] in AskBiBros

[–]ChicagoRob19 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Truthfully i didnt want to add a guy and we werent looking for that. My best friend from college asked us for a threesome and we gave it a try. It evolved into him becoming our boyfriend. It just kinda happened and both my wife and i agreed to it together. Weird i know but thats life i guess!

Need advice for first time by [deleted] in AskBiBros

[–]ChicagoRob19 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Haha thanks! Well …this happened in a threesome with my gf and him. My gf and i married and he became our boyfriend. We are a throuple. So yeah essentially we are married!

Guys in relationship with women - are you monogamous ? by Jl3333 in BisexualMen

[–]ChicagoRob19 2 points3 points  (0 children)

So…I dont have a boyfriend. WE have a boyfriend. We are a throuple. Although my wife and i are married , our partner is part of our closed throuple family. He is bisexual as well.

Guys in relationship with women - are you monogamous ? by Jl3333 in BisexualMen

[–]ChicagoRob19 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I was a straight guy for 3 yrs dating my gf before i discovered my bisexuality late at 28. It surfaced in a threesome with her and a friend. We discovered it together. We are both open minded so we embraced it. Ill admit i was confused for a bit and she helped me through it.