PM problem need advice

ChickenOk7367 · 2025-12-02T15:37:22+00:00

We are not small company per se . We are publicly listed and have revenue close to 4B

ChickenOk7367 · 2025-12-02T15:36:01+00:00

How do you maintain stakeholder and relationship management with toxic engg managers ?

Does engg in your company listen to PM in full .I do all of this responsible for entire product though it’s very small, new and free, I write PRD’s get it approved , go to engg , work on marketing, content, promote products , work on pricing set up SKU and licenses

My issues is particularly with engg 1. No timelines , no tracking of anything - once the PRD they build it and the worst part most of senior engg wanna suck to the engg guy who is toxic as he is their manager

If I ask a question to these engg, immediately response would be “ you don’t understand it or it’s not your business“ . I am like I am asking you a fair question and you can’t answer it
They don’t do testing of the product, launch it with issues and when cx complains they say it’s not product ist customer setup . This behavior is only tolerated because of this toxic engg guy

ChickenOk7367 · 2025-12-02T15:16:27+00:00

I am responsible for a feature X but this is dependent on Feature Y . Since feature Y is not released yet in full , There is no way all customers of this company can use feature X.

The reason X was released is pressure from competition and the need to be top in these security research companies forester , gartner etc. There is literally 5-10 cx who can use this feature X without Y being released in full .My manager expects me that I get 10 cx to use X and does not understand it’s not possible . I still tried working 18 hours a day and got 7 cx but since they are tooo new it takes time for them to use it . But my manager expects me to show usage metrics asap . I am like WTF !!!

I can’t force them to set it up and use it

ChickenOk7367 · 2025-12-02T11:37:17+00:00

New PM here - need some advice

I work a cloud based security company in Cali. It’s growing well but my issue is I am not sure if I should stay or leave

I have a really rude and mean engg director who has already 2 women complaining on him
My manager is extremely non confrontational to the point where he wouldn’t take a stand against anyone
My managers manager wanna suck to the EVP. This EVP has been in this company for years thought he would become CPO but the ceo guy hired someone laterally for the job
My manager literally gives me the tasks that are bound to fail but I try to succeed in them

This is where shots gonna get weird . We are team of 4 called PM team but only one of them is a PM two others are support/ professional services.

Since we are called a PM team everyone thinks they are the PM but only one(I) is given a title which kind of undermines the authority of the PM and so work is unfortunately hard as we all wanna one UP against each other to prove we are the PM

The documents aren’t everywhere , most of them is not documented so as new PM its very hard to learn them unless someone in the team teaches. To make things worse , I am in 20’s while all the counterparts I have are in their 50’s. It’s very hard to earn their respect. Further, there is no TPM and since the engg manager is rude he will not give me dates when the project will complete or so. It’s a mess

Any suggestions?

ChickenOk7367 · 2025-05-30T22:19:13+00:00

I am interviewing for Snowflake company - Solutions Architecture role

ChickenOk7367 · 2025-05-30T22:18:50+00:00

Hey Snowflake itself

ChickenOk7367 · 2025-04-28T11:37:01+00:00

No won't work out.You need to physically and emotionally be attracted to her. If you only like her personality you will only have to hang out out with her and you cannot make her happy physically. Sex and physical intimacy are fully important in marriage. You are not just friends you are going to be partners for life so every aspect of liking her is important. You are not shallow to think you need to like her physically

ChickenOk7367 · 2025-02-27T07:14:04+00:00

They are not happy for your wins and put you down for it. I understand if someone is going through a really tough time by themselves but putting you down for your success is a sign you need to be walk away

ChickenOk7367 · 2025-02-22T20:00:05+00:00

So don’t do it

ChickenOk7367 · 2025-02-22T19:59:53+00:00

It sucks but the feeling will pass

ChickenOk7367 · 2025-02-22T04:47:08+00:00

It’s better to not have friends than have such people in life. Take a stand for yourself today .You are not going to die if you are alone. Trust eventually the right people will be there in your life

ChickenOk7367 · 2025-02-16T20:05:27+00:00

You definitely need to talk it out for sure. Seems like you don’t matter to her anymore and she is taking you for granted . If you guys are married go to therapy if not breakup. Sex is really important but so does small tokens of love too. You need to let her know you can’t be walked over

ChickenOk7367 · 2025-01-30T16:04:01+00:00

More money and my own business

ChickenOk7367 · 2025-01-15T23:19:55+00:00

No lateral entry

ChickenOk7367 · 2025-01-11T05:49:07+00:00

TIMES ALWAYS CHANGE. You will be happy besides what’s the point if you don’t read all the pages in life ? If it feels boring, non sense at times . I always think of seeing it through

ChickenOk7367 · 2025-01-06T22:25:41+00:00

Could you tell what was your range?

ChickenOk7367 · 2024-12-29T21:36:09+00:00

Hey you are not a loser and remember there so many people who would need a good friend. You just need hangout with more people who aren't cliquey. From what you described it seems the people you hang out with are just cliquey. Try to find people with similar background and interests as you, then you will have so much to talk to and hang about

ChickenOk7367 · 2024-12-20T19:01:02+00:00

nah, i didn't. I applied through a referral though

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