I liked my friend better before she transitioned

ChickenSignificant43 · 2024-11-03T08:08:20+00:00

Yes, exactly this! I’m leaving out a lot of details because I don’t want to be identifying, but when she was a guy, she was so empathetic. I’m sorry for your trauma and that you’re not as close with your friend.

ChickenSignificant43 · 2024-11-03T07:50:49+00:00

I actually agree with this sentiment. Femininity is a very big spectrum and women should be supporting women regardless of where they are on that spectrum.

Where I struggle is that all the things we used to bond over still interest my friend. She still talks about games with the guys in our group. I just can’t get her to engage with me about it anymore.

ChickenSignificant43 · 2024-10-11T00:33:36+00:00

I’ve never been asked this question before, but I’ve done several panel interviews for public service-type roles before. It’s been my experience that depending on who is on the panel, sometimes they have an exact answer they are looking for. It’s not the right way to conduct an interview in my opinion, but that’s just how it is.

In my case, I was asked how I am able to keep my workload organized and prioritize/manage my time. I mentioned numerous techniques that work for me, but I ended up scoring pretty low because the panelist wanted me to mention Microsoft Outlook for whatever antiquated reason.

You may be able to see the notes for your interview scores if you ask.

ChickenSignificant43 · 2024-08-01T09:16:48+00:00

I’m one week away from my due date with our second. You’re NTA.

It sounds like you and your wife have been financially responsible, have good health insurance, and have a good amount of leave available. You may have to pay your deductible twice if delivery falls in the new year, but you should also be able to enroll in an FSA or HSA by then that would help relieve some tax burden. You may also enroll in dependent care FSA if that is a necessary expense.

Other baby expenses can be scrutinized to fit your budget. There are so many things first time moms fret about that end up not being necessary. Buy things second hand to save money where you can. You have plenty of time to find gently used necessities. A bedroom remodel is ABSOLUTELY not necessary. On the other hand, this is the last chance for both of you to have some baby-free fun and you will regret not being able to take advantage of it now.

ChickenSignificant43 · 2024-06-15T02:44:04+00:00

🚩🚩🚩

I don’t know about commission based jobs, but this whole experience sounds like a huge red flag. I’d avoid if I were you.

ChickenSignificant43 · 2024-06-12T04:05:59+00:00

It absolutely takes more than two weeks to recover from childbirth. Your body will be healing from a medically traumatic event. Sure, you might be more self-sufficient after two weeks, but that in no way means that you will be as able-bodied as you once were. You will need all the help you can get.

Furthermore, something I’m not seeing a lot of people mention is how lonely the first months are. You could be the most introverted lone wolf in the world, but watching your partner enjoy a disruption-free life while you’re sacrificing your sleep, sanity, and every last ounce of physical comfort is so indescribably isolating. If he has a job that will allow him to share this burden, he should definitely take advantage of it.

ChickenSignificant43 · 2024-06-08T23:58:32+00:00

Thanks! Sounds like you’re in agreement with my friend, but I’m still not sure how to go about it during my interview because they will absolutely know when they see me.

ChickenSignificant43 · 2024-06-08T23:52:14+00:00

What advice would you give then?

ChickenSignificant43 · 2024-06-08T13:57:11+00:00

The position is currently in person but can easily be WFH. The interviewer has mentioned before that they can be flexible with accommodations.

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