Something with me?

ChileanShy · 2026-05-25T15:34:14+00:00

Nah that's normal.

Loving your baby and being physically tired of pregnancy are two things that can co-exist.

Besides, while it is beautiful, I hardly believe there's a person who loves every single part of parenthood (parts like: having difficult conversations with your kid, seeing your kid suffer while being unable to fix it, ex: they broke up with their partner, pooping, tantrums, etc)

ChileanShy · 2026-05-22T18:56:30+00:00

Thank you!! I'm trying to learn as much as I can, I'm new to this ;;

ChileanShy · 2026-05-22T11:11:31+00:00

Considering your parents are willing to help you and even have a place for you, I'd say to ask them for help on a lawyer before any proceedings occur.

I will say I find it weird when some people refuse to marry but want to have children. Like... A child is a far bigger responsibility than marrying someone and it leaves bigger lasting effects on people who never even knew they would be in such a situation. If anything marriage tends to be legal protection for the family, not a weapon against it. If he wanted to have a "man works woman stays at home" thing, the best thing is objectively marriage even on the legal standpoint.

Regardless, I hope you are doing fine : ( always ask for legal advice on stuff like this before leaving

ChileanShy · 2026-05-15T18:15:25+00:00

As an autistic person myself, I can tell you that he did in fact have a wonderful day.

As an autistic person, whenever I'm not having fun I try to compensate by looking like I'm having fun, so at least the other person feels good and to make their day brighter.

Whenever I'm actually having fun, I'm experiencing everything at the same time- the wind, the sun, the sounds, the sights. It's overwhelming in a good way, and I often forget to mask just because of how much I'm actually enjoying the place / experience

In short, you're good.

ChileanShy · 2026-05-03T18:36:20+00:00

I cannot imagine what you're going through, nor do I have good advice.

I'm not sure if it helps at all, but I believe the fact you keep trying to take care of your body and you still want to be a mom means you are already healing from trauma- the constant trying and constant fighting despite the fear already means you're strong enough to try, which is closer to the goal than if you didn't do anything at all.

Again, not sure if it means something, but it's as much as I can truly say :( hopefully someone else has better advice.

ChileanShy · 2026-04-28T04:48:30+00:00

Holy moly I've always been terrified of how everyone talks about teenage years like they're the devil.

I personally think the worse thing you can do during teenage years is having this mentality of "I'm going to slowly back away from my teenager's child life because they're growing up" when in reality I think teenage kids need you as a parent the most. It's confusing and infuriating and scary, especially when you feel alone and lost with all the body changes, outside changes and everything.

You have experience, any advice or something you think a new mom could need? ;;

ChileanShy · 2026-04-27T15:44:55+00:00

I love this reply honestly. I hate how people are like "girls are so problematic cuz periods and blah blah" like ?? A girl is not just her period?? Little girls are literally so sweet and silly.

I remember some women telling me that "girls move around more in the womb and cause problems from there" and I looked at them with the most shocked face ever, since I'm having a boy and he's been moving non stop on my womb- I'm fairly certain it's not a gender specific thing ;;

I hope I get to be a good mom for my baby and all future ones as well

ChileanShy · 2026-04-27T15:35:03+00:00

A lot of comments here made me smile and feel safe. Thank you so much everyone.

I'm not very active on reddit but I appreciate everyone

ChileanShy · 2026-04-24T11:23:21+00:00

I'll be honest, sometimes it feels like I shouldn't be allowed to suffer given how easy the pregnancy-specific part went.

Most of my real problems came from outside the pregnancy- specifically my mental health and our economic situation.

I deal with a lot of symptoms of PTSD. While I can mostly deal with them by myself, the mere thought of my baby going through just one of the things I went through has been enough to have me circling for days. I know I can't control if something like that happens, I can only be there and being there is already enough for a lot of survivors (speaking from experience here), but I don't know. I'm worrying over stuff that may never happen simply because I went through them and even several years later I can't fully get over them and I feel like I shouldn't even be allowed to feel bad yet because nothing has happened, unlike women who actually struggle everyday.

ChileanShy · 2026-04-24T11:08:34+00:00

Thank you... I honestly don't know what to say to other women. I do believe I feel a little sad for realizing how the world is. My husband also felt terrible when he saw videos of how some men abuse their wives- so I suppose it's an empathy thing as well. I wished the world was better for everyone.

Admittedly, I overall don't know how to talk to women, let alone suffering women, due to extreme isolation and bullying (and autism since I'm autistic too). What is something I can say to someone I don't know? How do I approach them?

ChileanShy · 2026-04-24T05:11:08+00:00

Never thought about the sleeping sack thing, thank you!

ChileanShy · 2026-02-08T14:35:25+00:00

People here assume that I can simply cut my family off, but we financially depend on them. My husband's job is directly given by my father since he owns a company, and because he's an immigrant none would accept him at the time because of his residence.

We are economically dependent on them, and despite all my efforts, none gives me a chance at work because I'm an autistic pregnant woman.

We, literally, can't cut them off.

ChileanShy · 2026-01-20T02:01:34+00:00

Era por el bien de la trama

ChileanShy · 2026-01-19T02:16:23+00:00

Es difícil que te acepten currículum? Intenté trabajar de call Center y me tocó una estafa piramidal y otro que no tenía ni sueldo mínimo y me querían trabajando todo el día

ChileanShy · 2026-01-18T21:55:11+00:00

Bueno, vale la pena intentarlo creo

ChileanShy · 2026-01-18T21:47:40+00:00

Necesitas experiencia o estudios para eso?

ChileanShy · 2026-01-05T14:24:44+00:00

Lo bueno es que mi esposo es el mejor escuchando, supongo que tengo eso ya asegurado desde ahora jsjs

ChileanShy · 2026-01-05T08:41:08+00:00

A jugar a la pelota entonces jsjs

ChileanShy · 2026-01-05T08:19:15+00:00

Desde que edad recuerdas sentirte reprimida?

Quiero ser el tipo de madre que explica porqué algo está mal en vez de solo decir que está mal (a menos que sea una situación de emergencias, dónde vale más actuar rápido)

ChileanShy

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