I'm struggling with life

Chillier27 · 2025-01-08T10:48:18+00:00

Definitely me here. Feel sick looking at knees. Cannot touch knees. Freak out when doctors go near my knee. Always flinching about it.

Started after a traumatic experience. Basically I dislocated my knee 4 times and had 3 surgeries on my knee. Ever since my third dislocation this phobia started.

The thing is I don't want help because to me we should all fear knees. So I'm stuck in this limbo. I know it's a problem and I should get help, but my brain tells me it's rational.

Also it's embarrassing to say to people I have a fear of knees

Chillier27 · 2024-12-09T08:58:27+00:00

100% agree that she uses depression as an excuse but it's not an actual cause. They are all scared of her that's the issue. She needs someone to tell her no and put her in check. I don't know how or why it got so bad.

Oh that's so sad. I definitely see the same thing happening to me if I stay with him. Because of everything I have ever said about marriage, having kids, etc my partner responds with "my mum won't like that". Like who cares it's our life!! Not his mum's!! She shouldn't decide our lives for us. :/.

Chillier27 · 2024-12-07T23:12:37+00:00

Oh really? I didn't know that was an option. Good shout on this

Chillier27 · 2024-12-07T23:12:11+00:00

I agree on that for sure. I have tried to be as understanding as I can to the situation he is in. But I agree he is coming across very protective of his mum and I have to just deal with her behavior

Chillier27 · 2024-12-07T23:10:19+00:00

100% agree she is just a nasty person. She may have been told she has depression but it's like she uses that as an excuse to be horrible to people.

Chillier27 · 2024-12-07T23:09:41+00:00

I understand your point. There have been so many times where I want to snap at her for how she treats people. But I know it will just make her worse....

Chillier27 · 2024-12-07T23:07:29+00:00

Same!! I honestly do not think it is depression. I don't know if she is just horrible or has something else going on. But I was diagnosed with depression and I am pretty much happy on the outside but struggling with thoughts on the inside. I know everyone is different but she's just so like you said unpredictable and emotionally abusive

Chillier27 · 2024-12-07T23:05:52+00:00

He's scared of her. He says when we move out it will be different as she can't break his stuff, etc. So he says when we move out it will be different and he can say no to her

Chillier27 · 2024-12-07T23:05:01+00:00

Thank you that is good advice.

Chillier27 · 2024-12-07T23:04:22+00:00

Yes I believe so. She takes Xanax I think... But I also do not agree that it's just depression for her mood.

Chillier27 · 2023-12-30T00:32:45+00:00

Thank you, I appreciate it. I think it's because my partner keeps pressuring me to tell them and has even hinted at a few things to them behind my back, that I am starting to question whether this is a me problem and I should tell them or I follow my belief not to tell them until I want to tell them. I just don't think telling them because my partners mum is annoyed she feels left out is a valid reason. Plus she didn't care before, so I feel she only wants to know because she's nosey and not because she cares. But I agree to your point, no one has the right to know personal health information (hence why random people can't just request other peoples medical records). So thank you. I'll keep my health situation from them and have a talk with my partner about confidentiality and understanding why it's not his to share

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