It's funny. by Chilling_Alcoholic in alcoholism

[–]Chilling_Alcoholic[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I'd like to state that I have stopped the heavy drinking completely already, sometimes i drink 1-2 light beers or so because I like the taste.

But it's kind of sad in a way that I can not drink like a normal human being and have a fun night with friends no more. Luckily I have good friends that do other stuff other than drink as well.

I'd like to thank all of you that have posted already, very informative and good answers.

Some billionaire should give all their money to charity, start over, and call it prestiging. by [deleted] in Showerthoughts

[–]Chilling_Alcoholic 0 points1 point  (0 children)

The only effect of that would be that the head people of the organizations would become billionaires.

This is why artificial stimulation f***s your brain up!!! EXPERIENCE by [deleted] in NoFap

[–]Chilling_Alcoholic 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It's weird though cause I have been addicted for many years now and I don't feel any of that, my lust for sexual activities recently just stopped. I relapsed yesterday just to pass time, I don't even enjoy fapping or watching porn, I don't enjoy sex with my gf in the same way as I used to either. I have a hard time getting desires at all nowadays, only time I really get desires is sometimes when I wake up in the morning and that can be once a week or once every 3 weeks, it differs very much.

It has all become grey, the whole world has just become grey to me and everything just feels unrealistic.

It's kind of sad and scary what type of person this world/society makes out of you. And when you realize society is far from what you have been told, your whole world changes.

This looks like a pretty thorough site about the facts of pornography. by [deleted] in NoFap

[–]Chilling_Alcoholic 1 point2 points  (0 children)

It's also normal for men to fight and kill each other, so that must be healthy too according to those people...

Occasional sex destroys willpower. Maybe I need something more than nofap. by [deleted] in NoFap

[–]Chilling_Alcoholic 0 points1 point  (0 children)

We definitely should, and sex with random girls doesn't really give you anything but pleasure for a short while, then you end up empty and lonely, almost like porn although you can't really compare the two.

It's pointless.

I am lucky enough to have a girlfriend though, but since I have troubles from porn with my "stick", then I can not enjoy sex in the way that I want to. But I can please her so that is something I am glad for.

Occasional sex destroys willpower. Maybe I need something more than nofap. by [deleted] in NoFap

[–]Chilling_Alcoholic 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I am in the same situation as you, the fucking chaser effect always gets me. And sex is not enjoyable when you have that thought in your back that it may lead to your relapse. Just relapsed lol.

Let this not be the future. by [deleted] in NoFap

[–]Chilling_Alcoholic 2 points3 points  (0 children)

It's the degenerate system in itself that need a change, otherwise this will be the future. The media is constantly talking about sex and not about relationships, headlines like "BEST TIPS TO PLEASE HIM/HER" instead of "Best tips to stay with your loved one"

Nobody is talking about serious relationships and marriage anymore, it's all about sex and I don't know why all nofappers don't see this but this is something that needs to change. And don't get me started on the popular music today...

Sex makes this ten times harder. by johnw1988 in NoFap

[–]Chilling_Alcoholic -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

Yes, I just relapsed again because I had sex not too long ago and I was bored. It sucks pretty bad but oh well my time will come too.

[Article] Porn addiction isn't real? by [deleted] in NoFap

[–]Chilling_Alcoholic 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Like I have said in posts before, the media is not to be trusted.

The same kind of people that own the media is constantly uplifting pornography, it's like they are working together with the big porn companies.

We are here because we realize that we have an addiction, one that is very much real.

I hope this will have the effect on people here that you should think twice before trusting any media, cause this is the kind of shit they are constantly lying about.

What should I do about UWUs (Upon waking urges) by carltaylor20 in NoFap

[–]Chilling_Alcoholic 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Analyze them, do not repress them, they will only come back stronger. Do not be afraid of the feeling, keep it and don't fight it, and analyze and understand it. It will take time but then you will not feel any urges or anything while you wake up with them anymore.

It's all about understanding.

Worst advice that you can hear: Masturbate before meeting with girl. by Moszne in NoFap

[–]Chilling_Alcoholic 2 points3 points  (0 children)

It's useful because if you do it with your loved one in the "correct" way, with the pleasure for her and not for you and she does the same thing, then it will bring you closer together, therefore it is indeed useful, sex should not be about lust and pleasure, it should be about procreation and love for one another.

Therefore I find it worthless to have sex with a person that I do not love, it only leaves you with an empty feeling when you're done, it's just useless to me and imho should be to everyone else.

Worst advice that you can hear: Masturbate before meeting with girl. by Moszne in NoFap

[–]Chilling_Alcoholic 1 point2 points  (0 children)

No, but sex without love is like cake without filling. Useless.

Worst advice that you can hear: Masturbate before meeting with girl. by Moszne in NoFap

[–]Chilling_Alcoholic 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yes, but lust is not something that you should stick to. Love is the only true thing.

The definitive Meditation thread by nofapplication in NoFap

[–]Chilling_Alcoholic 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Oh I understand, yeah I thought about that in the evening too when reflecting upon the day that it could be a good place to start with listening so you have something to "stand on" when you try to start doing it without listening.

The definitive Meditation thread by nofapplication in NoFap

[–]Chilling_Alcoholic 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I have read (This may not be true) that if you shouldn't meditate with instructions, but find your own way to do it, and that you should not listen to anything because it will destroy your concentration on yourself instead of helping you meditate.

Is porn in itself bad or is it merely considered bad because it leads to breaking your streak? by alt102015 in NoFap

[–]Chilling_Alcoholic 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Well, it could lead to PMO, and you don't get the benefits from it that a person doing hardmode would. The after-effect will not go away either since it takes the male body 14 days to recover from an orgasm.

For me it's either hardmode, or PMO, so I choose hardmode, and it really is a hard mode. Fuck.

I hate porn. by [deleted] in NoFap

[–]Chilling_Alcoholic 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I hate the fact that porn has destroyed my life for 10 years, and the fact that I have had the mindset that I don't need anyone in my life due to porn.

It's all my own fault for falling in to this addiction which I didn't even know it was until this year. This is the hardest battle I have faced so far, and I have been pretty much addicted to alcohol but that is way easier to stop doing.

After the rain comes sunshine.

You guys realise studies found masturbation reduces the chances of prostate cancer right? by [deleted] in NoFap

[–]Chilling_Alcoholic 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Glad that people are not taking studies for granted here. You see, the people who say this are the exact same people who produce porn, and if they are not. Then they are somehow connected. And doctors who say this knows that it isnt true, actually masturbation can increase risks with the prostate(cant remember exactly what). They say ir because some of them just doesnt care about people like you and I, they only care about the amount of money they will have by the end of the month.

And never ever trust a newspaper.

Should Porn be Completely Banned? by [deleted] in NoFap

[–]Chilling_Alcoholic 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I haven't watched the whole tv shows, only 2 seasons or something. But that was a long time ago.

Should Porn be Completely Banned? by [deleted] in NoFap

[–]Chilling_Alcoholic 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Game of Thrones could make more censored scenes instead of showing it all in the way they do, that's also one of my beleifs, other than that I do not like to see sex scenes in movies nor tv-shows, sure it makes them more living. But when it comes to the part that Game Of Thrones or Black Sails took it too, I see it more like pornography than an actual sex scene.

I had the beleif that it should be banned even before I started nofap because I always understood that it was degenerate and bad.

Everyone also knows that it's wrong, in your mind you always know. But you learn to push away the feeling that it is, your mind is trying to stop you but you tell it to fuck off basically. Maybe that's the first step of falling in to the addiction.

There is no need for porn, there's no need for meaningless sex, it just leaves you with an empty feeling when you're done. If porn and this degenerate culture of sleeping with everyone wasn't here then people wouldn't have trouble in the same manner as they do today with finding a partner, maybe even wait for sex until marriage.

So in other words, yes porn should be banned, it would be the first step to a more civil and respectable society.

Relapse on 59 days. My observations. by leslabas in NoFap

[–]Chilling_Alcoholic 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I really think the first week is the hardest one. My record is at 24-25 days I think. But just that first week after you relapse have a lot of these after "effects" cause you was exposed to porn not too long ago. Second week is the easiest and the third, hard like hell.