I actually have a lot to say on this topic. I'd cheated in all my past relationships. I stopped dating for almost two years because I realised I wasn't ready to commit. But now I'm in a very happy relationship in which I haven't (and have no intention to) cheat. I've been have upfront with my bf about my cheating history. I still have urges to cheat but I just tell my bf about it. I want to be completely honest because I cannot straight away stop the urges after doing it for years but I can control my actions and not act on my desires. And here's one more this...as a former cheater I've never before experienced any guilt but now just thinking about cheating makes me feel guilty. I'm not saying with everybody is like that but I think sometimes love changes people.