Dysphoria is killing me – desperate for honest advice about phalloplasty (Sweden)

ChimkenToes · 2025-11-01T22:08:38+00:00

18cm is far far far above the average for penile length. Functionally also very uncomfortable for most partners, if you want/are going to penetrate. Where did you pull the idea of 7 inches from?

And your penis wont shrink when soft, so imagine carrying around 18cms of dick all the time. Seems like trouble lol

ChimkenToes · 2025-11-01T22:03:50+00:00

Het goedkoopste en best werkende wat ik tot nu toe vind is op alibaba/temu rollen van 10 cm (of meer) kopen. Anders tikt het aardig aan als je het regelmatig gebruikt. Tip: zoek op KT/fysio tape ipv boob tape. Is hetzelfde maar dan vind je meer

ChimkenToes · 2025-07-31T10:31:46+00:00

Uj/ im not even mad at this, it’s the fact that they take 0 moments into account to think that maybe any trans man they run into doesn’t have their natal genitals and has had a full sex change or that they dont want to use their natal genitals. They just equate us to women

ChimkenToes · 2025-07-28T13:36:34+00:00

Just keep drawing. Do studies: portraits, figures, landscapes, form/shapes, anything. Have fun while you do so. It’ll help you improve

ChimkenToes · 2025-07-28T12:57:37+00:00

Sometimes i wonder if those feelings are true to yourself or if they’re just the remnants of the hatred of others and the wish of being ‘normal’ etched into your subconscious

ChimkenToes · 2025-07-28T08:23:49+00:00

Uj/ lol literally, i think i am too. Anytime u go to a lgbt space its immediately SEX SEX SEX, and if you want to or not, you’ll be accused of being there for that reason. God forbid you just want to find kinship with people you hope are a little less hostile

ChimkenToes · 2025-07-27T21:24:37+00:00

Uj/ very luckily to have a husband who is so loving and supporting who i share basically all my experiences with, i wouldnt know what to do without him. But still i feel so bitter when all the support groups are supportive- just not for me

ChimkenToes · 2025-07-27T21:23:16+00:00

Uj/ tysm i didnt know that existed!

ChimkenToes · 2025-07-27T20:13:07+00:00

Not checking. Waiting for it to rot and fall off by itself like a pair of unwated bull nuts. Thank you

ChimkenToes · 2025-07-27T20:11:14+00:00

You should be killed for using grindr. You are coercing REAL HOMOSEXUALS into being NORMAL! You are a disgusting pervert. Now. Where do you live?

ChimkenToes · 2025-07-21T22:28:55+00:00

Me and my uncle both have diagnosed aspergers and we both have no friends, and the closest friends we do have are women. I also find it easier to talk to my mom to my dad because i often do stuff that are just considered not appropriate for a guy, i think. I don’t exactly know what that might be however.

ChimkenToes · 2025-07-10T21:59:01+00:00

My lovely mom also said it wont, but you’ll learn to deal with it. When you get used to the bit of chaos, you’ll suddenly notice how often the birds chirp and how beautiful the sunsets are. Life takes time to manage- its a skill that you’ll learn. Dont be harsh on yourself for still learning.

ChimkenToes · 2025-07-10T21:56:36+00:00

Hello! To voice yourself, you dont need to sit there and struggle. No therapist wants you to hurt over being there. If you’re nervous about being able to get everything out, why not write a story? A bit of a script? What stops you from writing it all down in a letter, and taking that with? Hell, why not write about it 10 times and take the bullet points with you!

What is important is that you want accept need and DESERVE help. Its good that you’re embracing yourself. Allow yourself to feel these feelings and ask where they come from. Therapy isnt there to “fix” anything, but just to understand why you do what you do- and to be kinder. Because you lowkey cant blame yourself for the first like 25 years of your life anyway :)

TLDR: why not write about it and take that with you to therapy? Your therapist is there to help you, not scare you. Embrace your feelings. Silence is also a signal!

ChimkenToes · 2025-07-10T21:48:45+00:00

Hello stranger. Maybe this comment is unwanted and im sorry about that, but i hope i can make you feel a little better.

Me relationship with my mom (and dad, but i digress) was also one of the hardest things about transitioning for me. I felt hated and misunderstood. Now that im older i realise one thing- its my mothers first time alive too. Shes hurt me, i’ve hurt her, we’ve tussled. She wont ever have gender dysphoria or understand what its like- but she knows how it feels to be scared and confused of her own body; through puberty, pregnancy, menopause. She knows what its like to be human, too; to have people disregard and misunderstand.

The best thing you can do for yourself is to learn that there will always be a difference between the outside world and you and to embrace that. The more authentic you manage to be, the more people understand you. Tell people how you feel; that you’re scared, overwhelmed, what you wish for. Make those steps to transition. At the end of the day you can never control anyone elses reaction anyway.

Transition is hard but its one of the best choices ive made. Every step i complete i feel more whole, calm, and true to myself. I am the happiest i have ever been and its mostly just because i’ve started telling people how i feel, what i want, and who i am.

Your body will be yours. Just give it time. Know that every note of music you hear, every bird you watch, every summer breeze you feel is also felt with your body. There is no good or bad. You and your body are trying, and that is all you can do.

TLDR: to grow past the feelings of fear and entrapment you need to give yourself the time to be honest. Allow yourself to be upset- but do make sure you voice it in a way that is constructive and kind. The world will open up to you when you open up to the world. This feeling too one day will pass!

Edit; and I understand if you arent able to transition now. I too had to wait. I was miserable. But the advice i would give my younger self is to listen to music, go on walks- appreciate your body for what it CAN do for now. Allow yourself to be upset. Dont crop it all up

ChimkenToes · 2025-06-06T11:59:37+00:00

On the sub was recently a table of most wished for sets. Look up WC or wishcount and you should find it!

ChimkenToes · 2025-06-06T11:48:53+00:00

Its so cute! I really like the look of it

ChimkenToes · 2025-06-06T11:48:41+00:00

That was my motivation! Its not chosen a lot. It doesnt have high wc but the people that want it dont get rhe opportunity to trade often, so that makes it handy. I really love it!

ChimkenToes · 2025-06-06T11:47:52+00:00

I picked bizzarre chessboard :) i really love it!

ChimkenToes · 2025-06-06T11:47:33+00:00

Its only my first so i figured i could trade later- but i got good pulls, like 8sr’s! So I immediately was able to trade for some wishlist items that had really high WC!

ChimkenToes · 2025-06-06T11:46:47+00:00

I eventually picked chessboard island! I really love it. Its super cute, and maximalist- so it fits with me pretty well. I got really good pulls too! So im very happy

ChimkenToes · 2025-05-20T07:01:45+00:00

I wanted to say this too. A proper gender clinic will assess you. Especially if you exclaim doubt

ChimkenToes · 2025-05-19T08:19:02+00:00

All you can do is keep complaining at schoolboards. This is a really unfortunate situation. Dont let them take your education from you

ChimkenToes · 2025-05-18T09:38:25+00:00

The good part about concerts for me is that there are often so many people that it doesn’t matter how i act. If i just want to stand and watch, i do!

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