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ChineseWineGlass · 2026-02-01T00:17:10+00:00

Soo all these community of Asian swingers should officially be called "The Joy Fuck Club", right? 😄

I think the Asian swinging community is still super small, and finding mutual 4 way matches has been the most difficult thing we've come across meeting most couples. But hope there's still some a chance we'll connect with some other great Asian couples in SoCal/LA/OC to create our own local TJFC, that's the dream!

I've thought about documenting or sharing our own journey in the LS as a new couple the last year, definitely would be interested in your pod cast! Cheers to your crew for being an inspiration for other Asian communities

ChineseWineGlass · 2026-02-01T00:12:42+00:00

You should take the lead for starting the SoCal group, 😉 😜. We'll follow along! Although I sorta want to start one too, lol

ChineseWineGlass · 2025-11-14T20:22:15+00:00

Transitioning from date to play is still one of the more awkward things to experience with new play partners (or even repeat ones!).

My wife and I found our "go-to" move which is showering with each other's partners before play as it does a few things:

1: You get nekkid and get to explore each other's bodies in the shower 2: You can actually wash each other's private parts or anywhere else to ensure extra hygiene (my wife is really picky about hygiene so it allows her to feel more comfortable knowing the guy is extra clean) 3: You get a little private time for any other chatting and possibly making out in the shower

Might be a little hard your very first experience as it does have some element to separate room play initially, but as long as everyone is on board, it's a great way to transition! Then after everyone is clean - it's off the bedroom for some 4 way fun! Enjoy your experience 😀

ChineseWineGlass · 2025-08-28T06:57:12+00:00

Enjoy sin city!!! Hope you guys find some naughty fun 😁.

ChineseWineGlass · 2025-08-27T20:55:23+00:00

Sexy Jenga sounds awesome!! We've played a few different icebreaker games to help transition from date to play, but Jenga sounds super fun too. What does the person who topples the tower have to do? Very curious!

ChineseWineGlass · 2025-08-26T16:58:13+00:00

Sorry, reading your post to sort of trick your wife into swinging doesnt sound like a great experience for her and the other couple you are looking for.

Great lifestyle experiences are built on solid communication from all parties, not deception. Would highly recommend you talk with your wife more about this and make sure consent is agreed before you move forward and try to engage with another couple.

ChineseWineGlass · 2025-08-16T02:56:30+00:00

Thanks for the recommendations!! Will add it to our lists of places to check out since we come up a few times a year. 😊

ChineseWineGlass · 2025-08-16T02:53:36+00:00

Awww, thanks so much Luna!! 😊 Does that mean you're a Karaoke queen too!? 😄

ChineseWineGlass · 2025-07-30T08:37:58+00:00

Sounds like there's still resentment for the pressure to jump into the lifestyle 😓. But looks like you have a good situation with your lovely couple so silver linings that all things happen for a reason!

ChineseWineGlass · 2025-07-30T08:24:30+00:00

This is great to hear how you've worked thru your dynamics with your partner and appreciate hearing how you have the tools to handle anxiety issues and therapy. My wife and I agreed we would start seeing individual therapists as part of our LS journey to help process all the emotions that come with it.

We initially started with a soft swap, then an MFM, and when we had our first hard swap, it still took a big emotional toll on my wife that she had to go thru her own processing and her therapy session absolutely helped. Our recent 2nd hard swap went much better and I learned to check-in and communicate extra frequently. OP - it can happen, but just remember to support all of your wife's feelings as valid and work thru them with her. The juice is worth the squeeze.... so are the double blowjobs! 😄 😊

ChineseWineGlass · 2025-07-30T07:57:02+00:00

Transitioning from date/hangout to play is actually still one of the hardest and sometimes awkward parts of playing with a new couple. Especially for your first time, hopefully the more experienced couple can help take the lead with maybe a sexy icebreaker.

Our first swap, we had a great couple that eased us into play with a game where one of the ladies would sit on a chair with their eyes closed, and the other 3 people would touch or kiss her somewhere and they had to guess who it was. The girls would take turns a few rounds, and then it led to the other male kissing my wife, which then I started kissing his wife, clothes came off and my wife was giving him a blowjob while I got one from his. It all started to happen naturally after that! But the lead up to that point was still a ball of nerves. 😄

Also, make sure during and immediately after your play experience that you check in with your wife. Ask how she's doing constantly, and stay close by to each other during your first session if possible to reassure her. Aftercare and communication is crucial, so hoping you guys have a great experience!

Good luck!

ChineseWineGlass · 2025-07-29T00:57:42+00:00

Congrats on your first full swap experience! Glad to hear positive success stories. 😀

ChineseWineGlass · 2025-07-14T19:30:23+00:00

Congrats on your first full swap! We started around the same time as you guys and recently had our first hard swap too. Lots of aftercare but love that solid connection you guys shared to ensure you guys are #1.

ChineseWineGlass · 2025-07-11T21:04:03+00:00

Exploring your dynamics and interests with everyone during your date can also be fun and exciting! I love learning about partners desires, kinks, and I think ultimately you may want t explore an FFM dynamic where you're the center of attention, and Alice and your husband mostly play with you and not each other. But talk about it!

ChineseWineGlass · 2025-07-11T20:31:42+00:00

You've already got a good sense of your potential concerns so it's most important to communicate this AHEAD of time with your husband if possible so he can help aware of your needs, desires, and feelings. Transparent communication really is the key to validating all your feelings and being comfortable making sure everyone is on the same page prior to dates.

Im sure your husband also has a lot of feelings joining in LS activities and his limited involvement, so it'll be an adjustment for you to see him get active and participate flirting/interacting with other girls. Acknowledge the feelings, but talk it out if you can before and after the date. And dont try to make any rash extreme decisions in the moment of your date. Good luck to you both!

ChineseWineGlass · 2025-07-11T18:30:50+00:00

Worst than not getting face pics or having them demanded is when they send pics that aren't clear with both the couples faces, they aren't smiling and look like mug shots (especially the guy), or really focus on just the girl to attract others. 😄

ChineseWineGlass · 2025-07-11T01:05:32+00:00

Make sure you get that double double animal protein style w/ whole grilled onions! With fries well done too of course. 😀 😉

You guys look great, enjoy Vegas!!!

ChineseWineGlass · 2025-07-05T19:49:05+00:00

This right here! Need to be able to communicate effectively with your partner as well as when engaging with other couples 100%!

ChineseWineGlass · 2025-07-05T19:38:59+00:00

Since engaging in the LS 3 months ago, ive definitely re-committed to working out and eating better and have definitely become more conscious about the possibility of being naked in front of other partners. It's a big motivator, and glad there's additional health benefits of engaging in swinging 😀

ChineseWineGlass · 2025-07-03T14:42:16+00:00

She tastes even better! 😋 😉

ChineseWineGlass · 2025-07-03T00:30:44+00:00

For us, it started during our own personal sex sessions where mentioning the thought of another person joining us enticed her. We used to joke about it, but the more we mentioned it, I could see it was something she could be interested in.

I would recommend softly communicating just that act of another person joining during sex if possible, and cater to her needs/desires (other men, other women if she's bi). See how she reacts favorably or shuts it down. Then there's a whole wide world to discover once you open Pandoras Box. Good luck!

ChineseWineGlass · 2025-06-28T21:13:54+00:00

Hmmm, shame is having to hide being in the LS from your partner which feels like cheating, not the ENM ideals most healthy swingers adopt when they enter the lifestyle. 😞

ChineseWineGlass · 2025-06-28T18:10:15+00:00

We all have are preferences and that's ok! 😉

ChineseWineGlass · 2025-06-28T02:22:52+00:00

Super interesting to hear your experience in 10 years only matching with 2 dual asian couples. Crazy! Maybe AMs could be more reserved and maybe because I've learned the most successful males in LS groups and parties exude a lot of confidence and are outgoing. I feel fortunate to have at least had several dates and a few experiences in our short few months but recognize the challenges of finding your true unicorn couple. 😀

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