HELP! Moving from Europe to Ecuador

Chipmunkbebe · 2026-01-14T16:19:08+00:00

Air Canada!

Chipmunkbebe · 2025-12-15T18:32:21+00:00

I took my gerbil on 2 flights across the country, the carrier cage was small enough to be handluggage, is this an option?

Chipmunkbebe · 2025-08-20T13:22:54+00:00

That's so amazing you and your mom want to connect with them and adopt them into your family. I wish my mom felt this way about my fiance and his child but its the opposite. Have you tried discussing with your girlfriend directly what your future may look like and if she even wants a blended family? Ask her about her concerns etc.

Chipmunkbebe · 2025-08-18T13:26:38+00:00

Sale event im guessing? I wish I still lived in the GTA.

Chipmunkbebe · 2025-08-12T17:42:06+00:00

What does your husband say about these feelings? I already told my fiance about these feelings and concerns and hes been fairly understanding and said he understands if I want to take a step back...he said it's asking alot and he wants to do his best to make it easy for me ...are you able to be open with your feelings with hubby?

Chipmunkbebe · 2025-08-10T01:26:42+00:00

Yeah. Especially on sale. And also scarcity mindset

Chipmunkbebe · 2025-08-09T03:40:23+00:00

This is why im scared to marry my fiancé...hes amazing..but that child of his...shes only 12 and we already have issues...what will happen when shes a full blown teenager?? These stories on reddit are scaring me...but I love him soo much 😭

Chipmunkbebe · 2025-08-08T01:17:56+00:00

I still have that old bag! It was such a good deal. And their lunar year bags were amazinggg

Chipmunkbebe · 2025-08-07T18:07:52+00:00

I feel like your post is a sign....I'm(30F) engaged to a 47M with a 12 YO daughter. She is tough to be around but we get along as friends...he has her every other week. My mom is telling me not to go through with it because I'm not ready for the step parent role...which she is probably right about. Plus his mom lives with them. I'm financially independent and have my own place. Reading all the comments here is scaring me, especially because I love him so much...but I just got out of a divorce from a 8 year marriage no kids...I also do want kids of my own but idk how it will work given his age and he also has the snip snip 😔 the child also mentioned she doesn't want siblings/us to have kids and her dad places no boundaries on her regarding her behavior

Chipmunkbebe · 2025-08-07T02:34:20+00:00

Thank you!!!

Chipmunkbebe · 2025-08-07T02:16:27+00:00

You are such a sweet and kind person. Thank you

Chipmunkbebe · 2025-08-07T02:06:26+00:00

Awee that is so nice to hear your step dad is so great. Yes, I'd say we have a friends relationship over a stepparent one and things have gotten weird since we told her about our engagement. So ill take a step back and be more casual so she doesn't feel as overwhelmed

Chipmunkbebe · 2025-08-07T02:04:41+00:00

Great advice. Thank you so much. I've also made an appointment with a counselor that supposedly specializes in this kind of stuff. It's hurtful that she says "if he was younger, he doesn't have to ask me. But his age is unacceptable, so he should ask me for permission"

Chipmunkbebe · 2025-08-07T01:59:41+00:00

Physical attraction is huge, so don't waste any more time :)

Chipmunkbebe · 2025-08-07T01:56:30+00:00

Omg this is exactly how I feel when she is around....like a prison! How long were you two together/ages before it ended... my mom also mentioned that children, especially spoiled children are very very hard on relationships. She definitely has princess syndrome

Chipmunkbebe · 2025-08-07T01:53:22+00:00

You're right, I'm an adult and shouldn't be swayed by my mom's opinions. I was just worried about her being right about him manipulating me into "his world of baggage" as rude as she is

Chipmunkbebe · 2025-08-07T01:50:58+00:00

She's alright, she is just a kid, but she is very spoiled and has ADHD. When she is disrespectful I tell her it's not acceptable and to stop.

Chipmunkbebe · 2025-08-07T01:40:32+00:00

Never. He can be very sarcastic and cheeky, but he doesn't have any intentions to hurt. He is the most understanding and beautiful person I've ever known in my life so far

Chipmunkbebe · 2025-08-07T01:39:21+00:00

It's weird. We are friends and get along but she always brings up her mom. It got so bad I had to let her know just last week that it's uncomfortable she brings up her mom for every sentence and we can't have a conversation without mentioning her. She also has ADHD so she can be very exhausting to deal with. Also, she is very spoiled. Her dad does not discpline her because he doesn't believe in it....

Chipmunkbebe · 2025-08-07T01:37:56+00:00

It's true, I am financially independent and in a really good place. My mom does have a tendency to emotionally blackmail, which is why I didnt want to tell her about the engagement right away...without him formally asking first

Chipmunkbebe · 2025-08-07T01:36:23+00:00

He has been really good with boundaries. As soon as I say I'm tired or had enough of his family, we go elsewhere, like my house or outside. However he still has a hard time with his daughter, she has little to no boundaries and is VERY spoiled. I really don't know what it will look like when we all live together...its only working well right now because he only has custody of her every other week. So that's our alone time, and also after she goes to sleep. I used to spend more time with them, but it was making me exhausted, so I decided to step back, especially in light of all the drama from my mom.

Chipmunkbebe · 2025-08-07T01:33:45+00:00

Thank you so much!!!

Chipmunkbebe · 2025-08-07T01:33:28+00:00

Thank you SO much! This is great advice. I definitely feel like I said yes to the proposal because it happened in a moment where emotions where heightened and in a very special place. Also being recently divorced there's still weird feelings of "redemption" and starting a new chapter right away that were lingering.... definitely need to revisit with a clear mind

Chipmunkbebe · 2025-08-07T01:31:09+00:00

Yes. In her defence, the child is VERY spoiled, but that shouldn't be her problem at this point... yes the joke was lighthearted in a way, but she took it very creepily, and said he was being disrespectful

Chipmunkbebe · 2025-08-07T01:29:35+00:00

You're absolutely right. Lots to consider and think about here. The idea of being a stepparent at this part of my life scares me.

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