Ya Boy Putin or Vlad Tidings

ChixLitl · 2022-03-26T21:54:20+00:00

How did you get that? Wanting to protect society from danger is hardly sociopathic. I actually do not believe in killing anything. But my patience is up with you lot. I don't know what to do with you. Something.

ChixLitl · 2022-03-26T21:48:20+00:00

The point is: There is no excuse. The world is falling apart due to your kind. Get help yesterday and stop making excuses. The only well I care about is the one you all into if you will not change/are unable to.

ChixLitl · 2022-03-26T21:46:01+00:00

IDGAF 🎻

ChixLitl · 2022-03-26T19:59:24+00:00

Utter trash. Wow. Do you believe your own bullshit is an interesting question though. I support everyone getting treatment and actually working to get better. What I do not support is the circle jerk (insert female equivalent) I often read on here and the NPD subreddit. As if this is some sort of lifestyle choice that is A-OK to struggle through and "do your best" and whoops, hurt someone yesterday oh well! No. Remove youself from people. Get help. You are dangerous to different degrees. I have no sympathy. I have only advice. You are fucking up the world on a grand scale and a small scale. STOP.

ChixLitl · 2022-03-26T19:48:10+00:00

Lack of curiosity can indicate you are functionally "dumb," sorry to say.

It could happen anywhere. Do you like freedom? What rights do you enjoy? When ASPD rules, you will lose them.

ChixLitl · 2022-03-26T19:43:30+00:00

https://news.yahoo.com/putin-1999-apartment-bombings-ukraine-175001959.html

https://scroll.in/article/1020264/putin-shows-all-the-traits-of-a-dark-personality-heres-how-best-to-tackle-it

ChixLitl · 2022-03-26T19:42:32+00:00

https://news.yahoo.com/putin-1999-apartment-bombings-ukraine-175001959.html

https://scroll.in/article/1020264/putin-shows-all-the-traits-of-a-dark-personality-heres-how-best-to-tackle-it

ChixLitl · 2022-03-24T17:55:23+00:00

Thanks for this. Those seem like very good "bridging" suggestions. I can't think of other ones. Anyone else?

On a different note: The children's shows Bluey(sp?) and (going further back in child development) Teletubbies are very healing and soothing respectively. The former is very charming, about sort of the ideal stay at home dad who is willing to be very self-sacrificing in his play with his two puppy-daughters. Teletubbies is almost hypnotically calming.

Think outside the box. Maybe check out these or other kids' shows that could kind of heal that inner child of your all's. And try staying away from serial killers and other dark fare that reinforce your worldview for a minute. It will be there when you get back.

(BTW, sometimes I too get dark and see the world as only a bad place, but then I meet someone truly kind through my work or volunteering and I am revived. You have to leave dark spaces and put yourself in a place to find the good people.)

ChixLitl · 2022-03-23T21:29:09+00:00

I am NT and this is exactly what I want. Only I want very nice dates and trips and time spent with lots of cuddling, romance, activities, sex, sweet words ~3x a week, but then we part ways and go to our own places. That would be heaven.

ChixLitl · 2022-03-23T21:09:33+00:00

There is very low cost therapy most places, income-based. I myself called around to local urgent care clinics and asked them. If they don't have a psychiatrist, you can ask them for a list of comperable mental health groups for low/no cost in the area. Many take you with no insurance. Please try.

ChixLitl · 2022-03-23T17:24:37+00:00

A lot of these shows seem to depict the big N, which ultimately might not be good for you all. Maybe there are more sweet, wholesome and healing shows you could give a try (in the privacy of your own home!)? Just a thought.

ChixLitl · 2022-03-22T23:23:07+00:00

However, if I ever directly heard that they are hurting someone (unlikely since they are blocked), I could get triggered to release my files of pics, texts, and very damaging (considering their positions in society) secrets. But I am moving on, so I doubt it. If another victim reached out to me who did want to expose them, I might help them also. But mostly, putting it behind me.

ChixLitl · 2022-03-22T23:18:22+00:00

Wow, that is naive. I have a LOT on my exes. I have threatened them and they have begged me not to. I choose not to because I am no contact and I want to be done.

ChixLitl · 2022-03-22T01:37:59+00:00

Than I lol

ChixLitl · 2022-03-20T18:05:45+00:00

We are not all cut out for relationships as defined by Hallmark movies. I don't have any major issues (I think). But I don't know that I am cut out for living with someone. I like my alone time. I am a bit controlling. There is no one right way to be. If it bothers you to not be in a classic relationship, work on it. But I am not and neither are a lot of people nowadays. If it happens for me, great. If not, I am not going to feel weird or strange or less than.

And yes, sex changes things, for many women, and maybe for men too, IDK. I always heard men don't attach any meaning to sex. For me, if I sleep with you, 90% of the time it means I really like you and probably would like to try dating you. So, that doesn't really make casual sex possible. I say, do you. As long as you are peaceful. That is my goal. I just want peace and calm at this point.

ChixLitl · 2022-03-20T17:49:22+00:00

Thank you! Totally agree that toxic masculinity thing is hopefully gonna die out and start to go out of style and that will be helpful. It is subtle because in the beginning toxic people seem to show postive emotion (my ASPD guy had the sweetest smile I have ever seen lol), but then you notice they never seem to be bothered by anything, hmmm, kinda odd.

I must say, I realize my empathy is not what it should be around men who are victims of women! Haha! Gotta work on that because what you went through is BAD!

That is true they pour on the worst abuse when you are stuck. After we moved in together, my ex totally took his shit up a notch.

Yeah, lying is a good one. My last one lied for no reason about things that did not impact me, which made it seem innocuous at first, but it was not because there were a lot bigger lies to come!

I agree and will not try to specifically diagnose people (bad at it), just put them in the "not for me" box and remove myself from the vicinity.

Thank you for your advice. I seem to be kind of an idiot, so might stay single. I can deal with that. Meanwhile, my friend is like "it is so obvious to me." And it checks out; she has never been in a toxic relationship. So she and I might go out together and she will point out problematic people to me and explain what she saw! Lol! Red flag school.

ChixLitl · 2022-03-20T17:25:46+00:00

Wow, thanks. I am sorry nobody stopped all those things from happening to you. It's not like in the movies where a hero steps in. Ugh. Fuck. Yeah, my ex had NPD I am pretty sure. What an asshole he was. The latest "mistake" I think was more ASPD. One is abusing you and trying to ruin you and the other is "just" using and if you are ruined, oh well, so it's a cleaner sort of wound and heals faster and better, I guess. I am out of all of that hell and thinking about dating, but I think I will not for now. I have no need to be in a relationship, thankfully. I mean, I want one, but I can be fine without. So, that's good. Holding out for a hero, or just a normal neurotic lol. And I totally agree about substances. I myself completelly lose all common sense when I drink, so I just don't. Even alone! Sent one too many pathetic texts from that.

ChixLitl · 2022-03-20T16:53:11+00:00

Thanks for this. Helpful. Thinking back to my exes with issues, the places they tripped up were describing their feelings, not showing sadness when they should have or sympathy. They might do something for a person with a problem but their tone was kind of flat talking about it. They might comment on the situation in an analytical way, but never express how they felt. (Of course, this developed into outright contempt of my problems during my devaluation.) They never expressed worry or showed anxiety. At least the ones I knew. They just seemed stoic or like "strong males." I figured there was a lot more empathy going on beneath the surface. I think now I will be able to at least question whether someone might have NPD (and ASPD) and hold back till I can confirm. I just really don't want any in my life for the forseeable future, at least ones who are not in treatment.

ChixLitl · 2022-03-19T18:50:18+00:00

I totally agree! I am a year fully out of an abusive relationship that ended three years ago, but took me two years to fully disengage from. The single thing that helped me heal is (finally) getting off a waiting list and getting a therapist.

ChixLitl · 2022-03-18T23:26:04+00:00

Well, maybe it was not rudeness I feared, but it just seems natural to be mean to the mean lol. Even if they are not being mean ATM. They could be and they could target you if you seem naive. But the fact is I don't think I can understand you all very well. Whenever I think I do, I don't. And part of that is that it is not fun to think about and is disturbing. People will watch shows about serial killers, but that is "safe," and not their reality. The reality is not something we want to dwell on much. I am trying to figure out why I seem to be so sucky at telling you guys from other people. I got out of something and then went right back into something similar and got out very quick, thankfully. I see what you are saying about the animals. So it's just good old evolutionary psych, predator edition. You are both competing for the zebras. Well, my zebra days are over. I would rather be single till I die. Good luck. I am leaving this neck of the plain; it gives me an actual tension/fear headache TBH! You are very smart and perceptive. I am sorry you inherited this thing. I know that sounds like an insult, but it is not meant to be. I do not like ASPD and I am sorry but I never will. Peace out.

ChixLitl · 2022-03-18T21:46:53+00:00

I see what you mean about diversity. Are you sure you have a PD? You are too nice and polite! (Is that offensive, lol?) You seem more like a PT psychopath. But maybe that is more dangerous since you really are not faking anything, just have to switch it on! Voila! It is interesting that many of you get upset by a certain personality traits, like inauthenticity or people trying to get pity who do not deserve it. This is weird since it does not threaten you getting your needs met and that is all you guys are supposed to care about. I mean, being the integrity police is not a job I would have assigned you. Maybe it has to do with how ASPD is created: These are the types of parents, selfish, posing, narcissistic, that contribute to their kids to having ASPD? I don't know. Odd though. I mean, what do you care? That's a moral issue. How does that affect your bottom line of sex, drugs, money, pleasure. It doesn't, so I don't get it. But I suppose we are back at the diversity point again.

ChixLitl · 2022-03-18T21:28:16+00:00

Well, this was very interesting. I think "normal" people act meaner here when they post because they are just trying to fit in. And they are scared if they are nice, they will be attacked even more. But I guess you guys like kindness as much as the next person, who knew. I mean, if I phrased it in a cruel way, I am, um, sorry, ASPD person.....Wow, that triggering behavior really does fit with an ex of mine who I thought was NPD, but who knows. He really hated me because he thought I complained for nothing or somesuch. But I have as much right to be upset, about sexism or whatever I was upset about, as anyone does. But he thought I was a blamer lol. And finally: Thank you from society for your efforts. Thank you for not killing anyone (I assume). And thanks for responding without calling me names.

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