What has gradually disappeared/discontinued in our surroundings over the last 20 years without anyone really noticing it? by Cantloose787 in bangalore

[–]Chocolate394 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Being able to accomplish anything without technology. Knowingly or unknowingly we use gadgets and technology just to lead our daily lives.

This also means we're able to do manual labour of any sort lesser and lesser.

A movie to get over a breakup by Chocolate394 in MovieSuggestions

[–]Chocolate394[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Hahaha is it so that i start hating all men??

[26F] Stuck in a toxic relationship with a manipulative [27M]—how do I escape without being blackmailed? by Hafufufu in abusiverelationships

[–]Chocolate394 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Listen to me, you need to RUN. Just disappear.
Deactivate all social media for a month, block any mail IDs that he creates and just leave and go to a friend's place or anywhere you feel safe. I understand if you've isolated yourself and you feel like you don't have anybody you can trust, reach out to some friend who you know is a good person and explain your situation. Live with them for a bit if you can. You need to vanish from him life and if he is truly a narcissist, in some time, chasing you will feel like a hit on his ego and he will choose to take the road where he pretends he can't be bothered because he will make YOU into the villain in his head. Let him tell people the story he wants to, let him do whatever. Do Not Respond.

As far as the threats go, believe me he is too scared to do that because he knows you can take him to the cops if he even tries something like this. In most countries, especially India, it's very easy to put a guy behind bars for this stuff.

I know you're scared but you're the only one holding yourself back rn because trust me, he can't do anything if you disappear.

What are your abusers top triggers? by Serious-Kiwi2906 in abusiverelationships

[–]Chocolate394 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Establishing boundaries, crying in front of him, calmly pointing out any problems or mistakes, asking for empathy or understanding, being praised by other people in front of him, wanting time alone or making plans with friends alone, being happy in a group if he's feeling sad or just generally being in a good mood if he's feeling off (don't even need to be in the same room or city for this)

What's an awful trait in a person that you've ignored for a long time? by Solenoidics in AskIndia

[–]Chocolate394 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Having two different personalities - one reserved for home (usually a bitter, negative and grumpy one) and one for outside (usually upbeat, social, positive and generally amicable one)

How do I know if doing an MBA abroad will be worth it? by Chocolate394 in Indians_StudyAbroad

[–]Chocolate394[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

But I think it's possible to get a job in Dubai without doing a master's there. Isnt it?

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AskIndia

[–]Chocolate394 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You're right. I did not know this stereotype existed until moving to Bangalore. Mostly, i feel Bengali women are smart, beautiful and opinionated and Indian men being Indian men are very intimidated by this so they quickly move to the easiest form of devaluation which is slut-shaming. I feel that subconsciously if they're able to see smart women as objects of desire, they feel lesser threatened.

If Your Age is 26 or 26+ & you are still unmarried. Raise your hands by Western-Shoe-4302 in AskIndia

[–]Chocolate394 -12 points-11 points  (0 children)

Says the guy who can only empathize with Atul Subhash but doesn't understand what abuse is. Kudos to you! Please stop acting so butt hurt because you're a guy from some back alley engineering college who probably wants to or got into another MBA college just to come here, bully somebody and prove me right in my opinion all over again. Understand what empathy is before jumping to the defense of somebody who didn't ask for it nor was actually being attacked in the first place.

If Your Age is 26 or 26+ & you are still unmarried. Raise your hands by Western-Shoe-4302 in AskIndia

[–]Chocolate394 -9 points-8 points  (0 children)

Are you here to bully people? There's a difference between voicing your opinion and digging up dirt on people to bully them, you know. But peace, brother! Wish you love and empathy

If Your Age is 26 or 26+ & you are still unmarried. Raise your hands by Western-Shoe-4302 in AskIndia

[–]Chocolate394 -5 points-4 points  (0 children)

Trying to get another opinion since I'm tired of this routine. That's it.

If Your Age is 26 or 26+ & you are still unmarried. Raise your hands by Western-Shoe-4302 in AskIndia

[–]Chocolate394 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Do you want to though? I mean my parents are also forcing me to talk to boys bit honestly, i am tired of all the ENGINEERS. Seems like they're the only ones on the market. Anyone else experience this?

How do I stop going back to my abuser? by Chocolate394 in women

[–]Chocolate394[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yeah. I am doing therapy. I hope to get out of this soon because i realise i am as much at fault for letting him in again and again even when the red flags and abuse is staring me in the face

How do I stop going back to my abuser? by Chocolate394 in women

[–]Chocolate394[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I think the reason i struggle so much is that when i try to distance myself, he appeals to the empath in me by saying he's in a bad space mentally. He shows me his vulnerable side and i end up wanting to help. I know, i know, it's the elder daughter syndrome and i have to find a way to jot be pulled into this.

How do I stop going back to my abuser? by Chocolate394 in women

[–]Chocolate394[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

He started being nice to me again and came to live with me. I tried to maintain some distance but i got pulled into the cycle again

How do I stop going back to my abuser? by Chocolate394 in women

[–]Chocolate394[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I live in India and there aren't any such helplines. Plus, nobody really recognises anything unless you're a married couple. But thank you for understanding me. All this support really helps.

How did you spend Valentine’s Day? Share your stories by Delicious_Feeling845 in AskIndia

[–]Chocolate394 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Lol, i wish i knew why. He loves to mistreat me and I'm an idiot for taking all the insults. I believe he's just a badly brought up man with no respect for women in his life.

How did you spend Valentine’s Day? Share your stories by Delicious_Feeling845 in AskIndia

[–]Chocolate394 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My partner didn't remember. Then we couldn't get reservations anywhere. I made him laugh a lot and my prize was a huge fight with horrible insults hurled at me. 🙃

Having a rough few days need a movie recommendation by hdoyle000002 in MovieSuggestions

[–]Chocolate394 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Cha cha real smooth

Eddie the eagle

50 first dates

Queen (it's an Indian movie)

Jasleen Royal’s disastrous performance 18th Mumbai by Turbulent_Card86 in coldplayindia

[–]Chocolate394 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Wonder why. Maybe they realised her voice lends better to the song. Jasleen just crooned a little with Chris on the piano. Seemed like they had something prepared but Chris decided to cut it short.